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He is getting married...
My ex. boyfriend is getting married in 3 weeks...what do I do? I still have feelings for him but i do not know how to tell him. And i think this is a really bad time to tell him how i feel. But if i dont tell him, i know ill regret it for the rest of my life. And to top it off, he invited to the wedding because he considers me a great friend.What do i do?
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TELL HIM! he may feel the same way! if he's a great friend he'll listen and tell you honestly what he feels. you'll regret if you dont tell him. at least he'll know.
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♥ Flaggal
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Brutal honesty...He loves someone else.
If you tell him now, you will probably ruin your friendship with him. Think a newly married guy will
be keeping his friendship with another woman who has feelings for him? Not one who is worth a dime.
Forget it. The time for telling him your feelings has come and gone. Sorry.
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you should totally tell him before the wedding but also get the idea that if he's getting married it means that he really thinks that this person is the one :S and also if you where the other girl ..you would be so happy by someone trying to steal your wedding lol but tell him and see how he reacts maybe you'll be lucky =) hope i helped
Diane
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you should definetly let him know that you feel this way. you said he thinks your a great friend so im sure he'll listen to what you have to say. you just have to look at the rest of your life if you don't tell him. "if there's just one peice of advice i can give you, its this - when there's something you really want, fight for it, don't give up no matter how hopeless it seems. and when you've lost hope, ask yourself if ten years from now, you're going to wish you gave it just one more shot. because the best things in life, they don't come free."
- grey's anatomy
also, think of what would happen if you do tell him? the worst thing i can think of is loosing the friendship but i honestly doubt thats going to happen because he considers you a great friend and usually if somebody has a great friend they don't just let them go because of a situation like this.
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WHATEVER YOU DO DONT RUIN THE WEDDING BY PROTESTING THEM BEING WED WHEN THE PASTOR ASKS "If anyone knows a reason why these two shouldnt be wed" he'll hate you for it, you may get kicked out of the wedding, and even if he likes you back, its way too extreme, feelings will be hurt, and many people will dislike you. I dont even know why weddings even ask that stupid question for many reasons but thats not the point..
YOU MUST SPEAK TO HIM SOON!
You guys are great friends in his head, so he obviously wants you to stay around for support. Im not positive, but to him you may be the friend he'll go to for advice, even about marital issues, so when you talk to him about how you feel for him, you have to make sure you say something along the lines of "even though our relationship hasnt been the way i've wanted it to be, im still here for u, as a friend" and mention something on how ur emotions will never get too out of wack that i'll think of sabatoging your marraige in any way. That way both of you can have full understanding of eachother. It may also be a good idea to be friendly with his wife, if you dont want to be friends with his wife. Btw, you never identified whether your a man or a woman, but i'm assuming your a woman, so please dont take offence if your not. I've had bad experiences with that issue. Good luck!
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hey, tell him how you feel! you cant keep it all bottled up inside forever -- because trust me, youll regret that. tell him in private or over the phone where his fiance or anyone cant hear you guys. actually i think a pretty good idea would be to invite him out to lunch with you and tell him there. if nothing happens out of this, i would just tell him that you cant go to the wedding because you cant bear to see the love of your life getting married to someone else. thats just my opion. i wouldnt put myself through that much pain. good luck =].
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