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Q: Well i like this boy right and i we want to meet eachother but mum dosnt let me have a bf but ima teenager so teens lie alot hehe lol i want to tell her im going with my bestfriend which i am but im scared if she dosnt let me go shopping with her what can i say for her to let me go with her shopping my parents are kinda strict
Don't lie to your parents, if your caught, you may never regain their trust. Here's what you do. Hook up with your friend and go to the mall, get you boy to go to the same mall, don't tell your parents. That way you don't lie, you meet the boy, you shop with your friend, and evreyone's happy. Hope this helps:^)

Q: hi. i was wondering if maybe you could give me some advice about guys. i am 14/f and will be a freshman in high school next year and i like a guy in the grade below me. i just broke up with a guy in the grade above me, and i really, really want to love someone. Preferably the guy in the grade below me, but i can't go through being in a different school than my boyfriend again. like i havnt had my first kiss yet and i feel really ready. i just, want to be close to someone and romantic and like making out. What should i do? It's summer vacation in a couple of days for me and I need some advice on how to deal with my feelings. I went to an amusement park with my family and saw a guy and a girl about my age with their arms around eachother on a ride and then when they got off they held hands and went over to the water and started making out and im like soooo jealous i want to cry cus its like ahhhh no one wants me. Sorry this is so long. Please help. :(
It is completly normal for people your age to want to love and be loved so badly. I was different as a freshman though, I liked to flirt alot and have no deep personal connections with anyone of the opposite gender. I did this because I was insecure, I thought that I wouldn't be able to handle breaking up with someone, if things didn't work out. Well I'm 17 now and have gone through that huge breakup so I sortof know how you feel. It's very hard, and you become very emotional all the time. But enought about me. Let's tackle this problem together. All freshman want to be loved, as I said, but there's a hidden process on how to do this. This is what I would do in your situation.
1) Search out the territory.
Look around at your surroundings. Example: School, Neighborhood, Local teen hangouts. And look and see where the best place to pick them is. Another example, you don't want to approach a guy surrounded by 5 other guys or girls, try to catch them alone or almost alone. That way they won't get distracted.
2) The Approach
When you approach some random, cute looking, sort of educated guy. The first thing you want to do is small talk. Say something that evreyone thinks about the school, for instance: talk about how much you hate______(fill in the blank with your most hated subject. Or talk about the weather. Say how hot or cold or windy it was that morning. The reason you want to do small talk first is to see if the guy will actually respond to you. If he agrees and says somthing back, always respond. Another example. If you say that it was really windy, and he says yeah, it looked like the trees were going to blow over, then you could say how much you like or dislike stormy, or windy weather.
3) Introduction
Introduce yourself, usually it just takes your name, and saying something like how your a little nervouse about high school. He will most likly respond with a, Yeah me too.(that says that he is a freshman) or if he says (Ahh. It's no big deal after you get used to it.(Then you will know that he is at least older than a freshman) I went out with someone older than me, and I know how hard that can be. Don't worry I'm almost done, sorry this thing is so long, I just want to help you out.
4) Familiarize
Familiarize(put your self around this person) yourself with this person as often as possible, again without the pack of friends, unless they happen to be your friends too. That way the next step will be easier on both of you.
5) Become Friends
First your an aquaintance, then a friend, then a great friend, then a best friend, then possibly a girl friend. Don't worry, if you only get to the great or best friend stage, then you can tell him your problem, and get his input on the situation. Who knows, if he knows your looking, maybe he'll take some serious notice in you.
That is all the advice I have to give on your situation. Trust me I know this was a long letter, but I think that it will help you out in the long run. I hope this situation works out for you. If you have any more concerns, drop me a line. Good Luck.:^)

Q: I POSTED THIS EARLIER BUT THERES MORE NOW..

i reallyreally like him
i talk to him everyday
but yesterday was the first day i didnt talk to him
i commented him yeterday and was like hi.. we barley talk anymore=/
cuase the past few days our conversationts would be like dead and i dont know whats going on
hes the type of guy that would get with any girl for action cuase hes always horny like that
and he commented me back saying thats too bad vagina? and im like um no. then hes like penis and im like noo. ill just stop talking and he never commented back
and he does weed so i think he might of been high at the time or it was his friends saying that
i dont know what to do. cusae i realllly wanna talk to him
but i dont know if he feels the same way?
i dont know if i should text him..or just give him space and let him come talk to me?
but im sure if i give him space he will just forget about me and go get with another girl
and im sure everyne reading this is like wow just leave him hes not worth your time
but he is worth my time becuase i want this to last becuase i like him alot.
i texted him today and of course he was kinda baked but whatever i support him with whatever he does
but there is one thing i want you to know.. he told me he liked this girl like before we kinda got flirty and i dont know if he still does but yeah
we got flirty and then one day he told me he loved.. ididnt know if it was a firend way or a liking way so im like i love you too
and we got flirty and like ways where like he would be watching movies with friends and wed be talking and hed be like id rather be watching this movie you or i wanna come cuddle with you or i really wanna kidd you right now
and then everything just went kinda down hill..
and i dont like it at all!
he just commented this girl and was like im horny
and shes like well go do something about it
and hes like well i have a neighbor..
and then hes like i got some from her
these past nights ive been really down and like crying and everything. i hate boys!
but when i texted him im like we barley talk anymore and hes like yeah i know its weird
i dont really like talking to him when hes with his friends and hes online right now and i wanna talk to him but our conversationts have been dead and i dont know what to say and i dont know if hes with his friends or if he blazed right now
but i just want everything to go back to how it used to be..when i was happy!
its summer now and i dont want this to ruin my summer for me
so any advice?
Take my advice. Im a 17 year old male, and even I know that this guy just seems like bad news. It appears he just really want's to use you, and the reason that he keeps on saying sweet things, is because he knows that one day you'll cave in. NO BOY(OR MAN)SHOULD EVER TREAT A WOMAN THE WAY HE TREATS YOU. It agrivates me a little bit how he smokes weed, casually discusses having sex with you, and messing with your mind, becasue all guys aren't like that. Sure us guys mess up. And I'm not saying he's a total losser either, he seems okay to me, but he doesn't seem right for you. I would NOT talk to him and let him come to me, then I would set up some very distinct boundaries. I think I'm reacting this way, because I have a younger sister, and if any guy treated her the way he treats you, I would have a long,long conversation with him, just to let him know that if he messes with my sister, he's messing with me. You seem like a very lovely person, and you deserve a very good guy. Don't settle for less, because your worth so much more than that. I hope this helps your situation, sorry if I sound like a total anger filled freak, but nobody should treat anybody that way. Good Luck with the situation. :^)

Q: This boy has been using me. and I confronted him that i dont want to be his rebound girl. He said that i wasnt and that everytime he says he loves me, that i always think we should date. Which, I dont. He said he doesnt want to go out with me, because if we ever broke up we wouldnt be best friends anymore and all. I also think that wouldnt be true. I mean, i like him and all, but i just cant help but give in. How do i not give in so easily? He said he couldnt bare us not talking and it would kill him. I love this guy to death, but i dont want to. I dont want to get hurt again. But then again, i would probaly do anything to go out with him. I dont know what to do. Please help?
I'm a 17 year old male, and this is what I would do. I would tell your friend: If you truly love me the way you say you do, then you'll stop treating me this way. Your my best guy friend and I care about you so much, but not enough to the point at wich it hurts me. That's exactly what this relationship is doing to me....After that little dramatic speach, I would set some ground rules with him. He's your best friend, you should be able to tell him how you feel. I know it's going to be hard, maybe even the hardest thing you've ever done, but it's something you have to do. If your truly finished getting hurt by him, then you'll confront him on this issue. Otherwise you might want to get some more band-aids for your heart, because it'll most likly get hurt again. Sorry this isn't the best advice, but it's something I've done, and probably will do again. I hope this helps. Much Luck. :^)

Q: hey. so i like this guy, guy 1, and i got his "friend" / "acquantance" 's screen name & now i talk to him. well like, his friend sorta has a lot of friends, and so i'm really worried about like telling him stuff. but i just want to get my crush's sn if he has one. should i just...

1.) suck it up & deal with it. just flat out ask him cause for all i know, he could just not have my crush's sn and not even question whether i like guy 1.

2.) get to know guy 2 (guyfriend) better & see if i can actually trust him before telling him about guy 1 in case guy 2 finds out i like guy 1.

3.) other

4.) suck it up & deal with it. if guy 2 finds out i like guy 1, big deal. PLEASE BACK UP YOUR ANSWER!

i'm phobic of popular guys, but my crush isn't as popular as my crush's "friend."
At first glance this problem seems to have an impossible answer, but don't worry, I'll try to help you as best as I can from a male's point of view.
If I were you I would get to know your crushes friends.That way your crush can familiarize himself with you. When you've gotten to that point of trust with your crushes friend(s), then ask them if of the boy you have a crush on if your crush has any crushes. Make yourself familiar with your crushes friends as well as your crush. That way it won't be a total surprize when he finds out you like him. Also make suttle flirty moves towards your crush, then he may be inturn atracted to you. Be funny, livly, and be interested in anything he says. If you have one on one time with him and you have run out of things to say, get him to talk about himself(Beware though, that convorsation may last for hours)Hope this helps in your crush dilema.:^)

Q: well this may sound kinda stupid, but i'm 15/m and i've only ever had one girlfriend and that ended badly about 2 months ago because i found out she was pretty much lying about her whole personality and was just a total slut behind my back, so yea....well i've recently been a lot more outgoing with meeting girls and such since i had such a bad experience w/ her, but i've gotten rejected *or told by friends that she's going to reject me* 2 times already, and the 3rd will probably be soon because i'm gonna ask her out but her best friend says she doesn't like me...so can anyone give me any advice on finding the right girl? my best friend has been in an amazing relationship for 3 months now and i want something like that...something where my girl will actually call me and want to talk to me *my last never called me- she made me call her instead...only time she ever called was to break up w/ me* so yea...and i don't want any "be yourself" shit because that's all i ever do and it never seems to work...do i talk to much or what? i don't know what im doing wrong...
I have a friend with this problem, and do you know what I told him....
Just be yourself!!!
Just kidding!
Actually the best thing that you can do right now is wait. Wait until the moment is right or wait until she starts sending off vibes that she likes you alot. I know this is definatly not the answer you were looking for to this problem, but I was in your shoes once, evreyone seemed to have a girlfriend but me, but I waited. And the next thing I knew "BAM", there she was. Actually it was kinda funny, first I wanted a gf, then I decided to stay single, and just flirt with girtls, then when I didn't/wasn't looking for a fg. She showed up. Remember also that you are stil very young, and have your whole life to find your perfect someone. Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for. So while your waiting...FLIRT. Hope this helps.:)

Q: sorry this is so long. ok. im 14/F. i am in love with my best guy friend, i'll call him trevor. i have beein in love with him for about 8 months. he is aware of this. (not from my own doing though.) the main problem is that he is my ex-bf's best friend. i was friends with trevor way before my ex even met him and decided he was his best friend. anyways, i dont think he likes or loves me as anything more than a sister, although everyone else thinks he does. its impossible to tell what his actions mean because we are so close as it is. even if he did like me, i dont think he would ever go out with me because of my ex, who i'll call brendan. brendan still loves me, we had a very serious relationship awhile back. he gets upset when he sees trevor and i talking, and has told trevor he doesnt care if he hangs out with me, as long as trevor doesnt talk to me when hes around. trevor usually complies with this. but brendan's ALWAYS around. he tries to be very possessive of me. basically, i need to know how to get my min doff him. i would do just about anything to be w him. i would do just about anything for him. i need advice on how to get over him, or keep my mind off him. i dont know what to do.


We.. it sounds like you have a wee bit of , Ill try to help as best possible. One thing to do to get the boy from stop being around you, is by simply ignoring him. You see, when you get angry at him after he picks on you, then hell just continue to it again and again. He does this because he has a crush on you(that’s’ what is sounds like to me) Because the reason why boys pick on girls is because that boy is able to capture the girls attention for the few seconds he actually gets you attention. If you react to him teasing you, or just not leaving you alone, then ignore him, He’ll go away eventually.(At least we hope he does)
How to get him out of your head, well, you can always be prductive. No I’m not talking about cleaning the house, I’m talking about reading a good book, paint, work on doing the splits, threre are thousands of this you can do to keep your mind off of him. And if he still doen’t leave you alone, just simply tell him how you feel. Sometimes being blunt is the easiest way to give someone bad news. Anyway, I hope this helps. Good Luck! :)

Q: Im 13/f

what do boys do when they like a girl?
how are you supposed to know?
if they come behind you and tickle you sides is that a sign or just something you guys do?
last one .. how do you know when you touch a guys spot i mean every 1 has one but how do you know when you touched it and how do you know what your spot is? ....plz help
17/M

Well in all my oberservations, and experiences they:
1)tease, pick,
2)talk to you a lot, put a lot of their focus on you.(That’s Me!!)
3) Or their just plain mean to the person that they like.
One reason why that boy is teasing you is because you put all of your focus on him for at least 10 seconds. And he will keep on scaring you and scaring you until you give him a negative reaction. Boys that like girls just want the girls to focus on them, that’s why in Jr. High, and the High School Underclassman, act so weird. And as far as point go, All I know is that everyone has them and they will just have to find out with their companions what and were those spots are. Remember never feel pressured into anything that makes you uncomfortable. I hope this helps.:)

Q:
Last night a guy that I just started talking to a few days ago asked me out. I said yes because we reall clicked when we started talking. But now I'm having second thoughts. I barely know him, and I usually don't go out with people I barely know! I'm sure if we took the timt to get to know each other first before he asked me out then I wouldn't have a problem with dating him, but I don't know how to explain it.. it's just like I hardly know him and I'm his girlfriend! Should I break up with him or keep going out with him and get to know him along the way?
Please tell me what you honestly think.
Thank you!!
As bad as this problem sounds, it's not that hard to fix. It's evident that you two really seem to like each other, but the question is how long will this realationship last. Ask yourself this question: Is me moving my fiendship with this person worth losing because I wanted to move it up to the next level.If I was in your shoes, I would simply tell him that you want to go out with him, just not yet. Deffinatly get to know the guy better before going out again. Some people like finding things out about each other as they go along through the relationship, Me personally, I like to know the person very well, or become very good friends with them before advancinng on in the huge scheme of the relationship. Hope this helps.:)

Q: hey. i'm 13/f and i think he is 14 and obviously male. we like a lot of the same things and i really like him, although i only met him last week and we only spent 3 hours together, we seemed to have a lot in common. the thing is i don't know if he'd date me since we live in different towns and he's a year older. according to my friends he was flirting with me a lot, but i saw an equal amount between all three of us. how can i try to flirt with him a little more and make him like me a little more without seeming way desperate?
One great subttle way to flirt is to just talk to people. It sounds like you have a really bad crush for this guy, and it seems that you two would be great for each other. The only advice that I can give you is: Don't rush things,and Is it worth it. If you rush a friendship right into a dating relationship, chances are that it wont work out. Also ask yourself if moving your friendship up to the next level is worth losing your friendship totally. Flirting is always fun because for one its suspensful, and two, there's no commitments made, so nobody gets hurt too badly. As I said a great flirting tool is your mouth. Find out what you two have in common, also if you run out of topics, you can always hit the subject that guys like to talk about the most, and that's themesleves, trust me, we can go on and on on that topic. Well, I hope this helps. Good Luck!:)

Q: I'm 15/f, he's 15/m
I've had a crush on this boy for months, and we are in the same group of friends. This year we became really good friends and he isn't shy with us at all, he's really funny. But he has always been kind of shy in terms of girls until earlier this year when he went out with one of my good girlfriends - bad experience for EVERYONE. I was really mad at her because she knew I liked him, and she ended up fighting with him the whole like week it lasted anyway. But that's over now...
So last week with a lot of convincing from his best friend, who I am also friends with, this boy finally asked me out (online-yes he is very shy). I REALLY like him. It hasn't been too awkward for me and we have hung out a lot but I think he gets a bit uncomfortable when we have nothing to say. There wasn't really any awkwardness in the past, but I guess now because he asked me out it's harder for him to keep talking like we did when we were just friends.
He gives me high fives a lot, haha. But if I could get a hug out of him I would be ecstatic! He tends to hurt himself a lot and I try to stop him, he's always like "im sorry" and he gives me a pat on the back. Once I said he owes me lots of high fives and hugs for accidentally hurting himself, I said that a long time ago. Then recently he hurt himself accidentally AGAIN and I told him it made me sad. He asked if he could just owe me high fives and hugs and I said yea. icon_biggrin.gif
And he tried to give me a hug over the weekend... we were sitting on a couch at a friend's house and he gave me a kind of half hug cause we were sitting down next to each other. A one armed kind of thing. So I think he would. But he has trouble bringing it up in person, he generally only says anything about it online. I just want an excuse to bring it up lol. I adore him and I just love being with him - I don't mind that he is so shy but I LOVE hugs and one from him would make me very very happy. I'm kind of awkward myself sometimes but I know there has to be a way to get one out of him. Any good ideas?
When I needed a hug from my girlfriend, I just simply said, I really need a hug right now. And evrey time I said that, I got one. Sometimes being completly strait forward is the best thing you can do in a situation like that. Now if he doen't hug you after you ask for one, or say that you need one, just ask him why not. Yah know, he may not be willing to hug, because he's afraid to jeporadize your already great friendship. Also remember that relationships grow over time, and in time he will be more comfortable talking, or hugging or whatever the situation is. Pertaining to your other problem, When my gf and I ran out of things to say on the phone or in person, we just sat their enjoying the silence. I know it sounds wierd, it wasn't the fact that we enjoyed a stop in the conversation, it was the fact that through the silence, we knew that if we wanted to say anything then one of us would be on the other line waiting to listen. It was the thought of not being alone that made thoes silent moments not awkward. When we were talking in person, say we were talking on a porch swing, and the conversaition went away, then we would just snuggle up next to eachother and enjoy each others presence. If you and your boyfriend get to that part in your relationship, then you'll understand completly what I'm talking about. I hope you make it, and I hoped this helped.:)

Q: kk
15/m

i have trouble talking to girls and i'm having friends over friday, and i know this may be a bit odd but i have about 4 crushes right now, at least 1 of which will be at a gathering i'm having friday sooo...yea my questions are...:

1) any advice on talking to girls? i always get nervous and end up saying something stupid...

2) any advice on making a move? it is rather possible i might be able to do so...

thanks a lot dudes and dudettes
McC
Alot of guys get nervouse when they talk to the opposite sex so don't feel like your the only one with this trouble. Pertaining to your first question: Strike up a conversation with her, let her do alot of the talking, listen to her, talk about her, about the latest movie, interesting things about you, how much you like or dislike certain classes or school in general, what you want to be when you grow up, what your summer plans are...There are thousands of possibilites, but the main thing to remember is just be yourself, if your fake and she ends up falling for you, then she's falling for the fake you, see what I'm sayin'. About your second question, I probably wouldn't make a move on a girl you barely know, I think that that might just push her away. Get to know the girl very well, become friends, then close friends, and then let things take care of itself. And when you do make your move, make it someplace romantic(when you two are star gazing or something of that nature, not behind a fast food place next to a dumpster or something.)Another thing to remember is to take it slow, you don't want to kiss the girls face off on the first date or anything. Just let things take their course, and good luck on your party!:)

Q: Theres this girl that I met on myspace. We match we have the same passion, shes for god I am too. And I try to call her 3 nights ago she never return my call. I left a messege I know she got it. So what should I do I really like her and shes in my city I dont have to travel to meet her.
There are a ton of possibilities to your problem, but the only way to find out the one true possibility is to contact this girl again. She might have had an emergency, or she could just be really shy. I have no idea. But you'll never know what really happened unless you talk to her. If she's as cool as you said she was, then don't give up on her, people make mistakes all the time(I know I do). Can you imagine if people only got one chance at something...The world would be in chaos. Anyway, I would just leave a message on Myspace, and if she doesn't respond to your message, then I would try calling her only one more time, if she doesn't return your call, then she's not even worth it pal. Hope this helps.:)

Q: my boyfriend's a really bad kisser, but a wonderful guy. is there any way i can suggest for him to change his technique without completely offending him?
Tell him to relax, and let you do all the work. I'm not telling you to tell him to be a dummie or anything, but if your in controll, little should go wrong. Also, when he does kiss you the way you want to be kissed, go on and on how that was the best kiss ever, He'll be more likley to do it again. Remember, baby steps. Hope this helps.:)

Q: ok so my boyfriend made a wish a couple of days ago on myspace ofcourse...It was a bulliten he posted...It said "11 signs you love someone (if that will ever happen)"...I confronted him about it because he always tells me how much he loves me and stuff..And he said " i wished that katie and brandon would break up" and we got into a huge fight...Because he sleeps over at Katie's house all the time and he asked her out in september and she said no...He asked me out in november and him and Kaie are like brother and sister...But he likes her...He says he doesn't love me like he used to but he wants to be with me because he does love me...But he can't stop thinking about how things would be if him and Katie were going out...He says he'll do whatever he can to keep us together because he wants to be with me..
My first question is: How can I make him relize that she will never go out with him ever because it would ruin their friendship?(she told me that herself)
And my second question is: How can I help him fix what's wrong in our relationship?because it is just as much his fault as it is mine I had the same problem when we first started going out 6 months ago...
Relationships, no matter what kind, end up getting sticky sometimes. To answer your first question, ask him if his friendship with Katie is worth losing, because he wanted to move the relationship up a notch. Sometimes when guys have a major crush on someone, thats all they think about, it becomes a major drive in their life. You should also, because your a good friend, tell him that Katie doesn't want to go out with him for that exact reason. I would tell him that if he pursues Katie, he'll just be pushing her away. To answer your second question, alot can happen in six months, and you could be the first person to testify to that. I think it would be a good idea if you two remained either really really close friends, or sit down with him and create very distinct boundries. You should tell him, no matter what relationship you have with him, that your going crazy because of his infatuation. I hope that this answers or helps with your question. Good Luck.:)

Q: This feels like a weird question to be asking, since I've never had this problem with anyone else. I'm 19 and a girl, by the way, and he's 21.
Okay, so there's this guy. We dated for awhile, then decided we couldn't handle the relationship, so we lost the titles and basically went for a friends with benefits deal.
So, sometimes I find myself wanting to talk to him on line, or on the phone, but I have absolutely nothing to say, or he barely responds. I feel awkward, and like I'm talking to a wall.
I'm not a bad conversationalist, and he really doesn't make me nervous, especially considering I know where I stand now (I didn't for awhile). I haven't seen him since April, because he lives about 40 minutes away from me, and I was living at school since '05, when we met. I haven't seen him in over a month, we miss each other, but I can't think of anything to talk to him about.
It's not like I need to keep the small talk stuff going, since we've dated, we're still pretty much in love, just unable to handle the intensity of the relationship we were in at this age. I know him like the back of my hand and he knows me (almost) as well...
Why do you think I/we can't find anything to talk about, and what can I do about it?
Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all. I remember when I was dating and me and my girlfriend would just stay on the phone even after we finished talking, we did this because it was comforting to know that he/she was there. Sometimes its going to be a slow or dull conversation. IF things are going this route, you could always talk about your boyfriend to your boyfriend. Boys usually like talking/bragging about themselves. Just keep in mind that your still 19, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Sometimes we get so caught up in the day to day activities and problems, that we miss life as it passes us by. Carpe' Diem, Sieze the Day.:)

Q: my boyfriend , who i like very very much, tries to get me to sneek out alot. and i dont like getting into trouble very much with my dad because hes the kind of person who does not forget. but when i try to tell my boyfriend that i dont want to sneek out because i dont want to get into trouble, he gets angry at me and tells me that he would do anything for me and that i wont get caught... how do i tell him to not push me into getting in trouble.
Tell him that if you really mean that much to him, and if he would do anything for you, then he would understand why you couldn't sneak out all the time. Sneaking out is not a good habbit to get into. It also has some psychological effects too, for instance is shows that you would rather avoid problems and responsibilities than face them. Im not saying that thats your case though. It's better to have your parents on your side, then your boyfriend to be quite frank. Your parents hold your "happiness" in the palm of their hand, and I don't think it would be good to upset that balance. Just talk with your boyfriend. I'm sure that eventually he'll understand. Goodluck:)

Q: Well, I really like this girl. I'm 16 and shes 15. We've been hanging out after school for like 5 months, and I've been trying to ask her out for at least half that time. But everytime I'm about to, I freeze up. I'm pretty sure she likes me back. This is especially annoying for me because I've never had a problem like this before, I've always been perfectly smooth with the ladies. I really like this girl, and I dont want her to get bored and move on. She's been amazing to wait this long for me. What's wrong with me!?
Nothings wrong with you , I had this same problem myself. It's harder to ask someone out especially if you really like them. Here's some tips, Take her out on a date, that way you have time to build up your courage and ask her. You don't have to call it a date, just ask her to go for some icecream or a movie. Second, ask her when the time is right, don't rush it, if she's waited this long, I think she can wait a little longer. Just make sure that moving up to the next level in your relationship is worth your friendship. Just some food for thought. Were with you buddy.:)

Q: ok so im 15 & iv been with this girl for a little over a month & i still havent seen her. she pisses me off tho cuz lk iv gone to movies with ppl & iv invited her & shes always doing sumthin with someone else. everytime i call her "im on the otherline with Ray" or i IM her "nm on the phone with Ray" & its fucking annoying... please help.
Listen, your still very young. Why stress over someone that you never see? If this very very strained relationship is causing you grief, then the best thing to do would be to just tell her you want to remain friends and nothing more. To be completley honest, the whole lets just be friends thing rarley works out. Don't rush through your youth, you only have it once. Live live to the fullest, not the most stressfull.:)

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