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getting a girlfriend
well this may sound kinda stupid, but i'm 15/m and i've only ever had one girlfriend and that ended badly about 2 months ago because i found out she was pretty much lying about her whole personality and was just a total slut behind my back, so yea....well i've recently been a lot more outgoing with meeting girls and such since i had such a bad experience w/ her, but i've gotten rejected *or told by friends that she's going to reject me* 2 times already, and the 3rd will probably be soon because i'm gonna ask her out but her best friend says she doesn't like me...so can anyone give me any advice on finding the right girl? my best friend has been in an amazing relationship for 3 months now and i want something like that...something where my girl will actually call me and want to talk to me *my last never called me- she made me call her instead...only time she ever called was to break up w/ me* so yea...and i don't want any "be yourself" shit because that's all i ever do and it never seems to work...do i talk to much or what? i don't know what im doing wrong...
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Well not to be mean but well you seem kinda "easy" you got to show the girl you won't do everything for her! you have to have boundaries and don't cave in make them you secuond priority because if you seem to "Easy" they'll walk all over you. or maybe don't ask that girl out go on with your life and sees if she acctuallyy might like you! If you keep on asking her it'll seem your harassing her and plus it's her loss to loose you not yours. i mean you just got to wait let the girl come to you. Maybe like stop asking her out and if you do get with her kall her like once every 3 days and wait for her to call you. if she calls you meaning she can't wait to talk to you. Just pretend you need your space i geuss but don't act like a jerk but act like you can't be puched around.
hope that helps =)
ashliiee!
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I have a friend with this problem, and do you know what I told him....
Just be yourself!!!
Just kidding!
Actually the best thing that you can do right now is wait. Wait until the moment is right or wait until she starts sending off vibes that she likes you alot. I know this is definatly not the answer you were looking for to this problem, but I was in your shoes once, evreyone seemed to have a girlfriend but me, but I waited. And the next thing I knew "BAM", there she was. Actually it was kinda funny, first I wanted a gf, then I decided to stay single, and just flirt with girtls, then when I didn't/wasn't looking for a fg. She showed up. Remember also that you are stil very young, and have your whole life to find your perfect someone. Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for. So while your waiting...FLIRT. Hope this helps.:)
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You're only 15. Relax. You're not going to find your soulmate at 15. Good relationships take time.
It would be good for you to try new things and meet new people. Join a club. Get a part-time job. Do something that will introduce you to an entirely new crowd of people. You're bound to make a bunch of new friends, girls included.
When you do find a girl you'd like to go out with, don't rush into anything. YOU NEED TO BE FRIENDS FIRST. The problem with most guys is they see a girl they like and they just ask her out, expecting a miracle. Even if the girl says yes, the relationship is awkward because they barely know each other and end up breaking up within the next week or so anyway.
If you want a relationship like the one you described, become semi-good friends with the girl and get to know her a lot better before making your move. That way, if and when you do start dating, you'll know a lot more about each other.
And another thing, I'm going to give you that "be yourself shit" because if you find a girl that doesn't like you for you, she isn't worth being with in the first place. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. What's the point of being with someone if they don't love you for you?
I'm sure you'll find that girl someday. If it's not this year, don't sweat it. You'll find someone in time. Be patient.
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the best way to find any1 for that matter is to be yourself,so when a girl 'sees' you, its for you and not someone u try to be.and eventully you will steal that one girls heart trust me
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