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my boyfriend
ok so my boyfriend made a wish a couple of days ago on myspace ofcourse...It was a bulliten he posted...It said "11 signs you love someone (if that will ever happen)"...I confronted him about it because he always tells me how much he loves me and stuff..And he said " i wished that katie and brandon would break up" and we got into a huge fight...Because he sleeps over at Katie's house all the time and he asked her out in september and she said no...He asked me out in november and him and Kaie are like brother and sister...But he likes her...He says he doesn't love me like he used to but he wants to be with me because he does love me...But he can't stop thinking about how things would be if him and Katie were going out...He says he'll do whatever he can to keep us together because he wants to be with me..
My first question is: How can I make him relize that she will never go out with him ever because it would ruin their friendship?(she told me that herself)
And my second question is: How can I help him fix what's wrong in our relationship?because it is just as much his fault as it is mine I had the same problem when we first started going out 6 months ago...
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ok he is fantasizing about another girl he is lusting after her find yourself a new guy that is with you and not with you physically but cheating mentally good luck with your relationship
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Let him know that if your not his one and only, then it's not worth it. Try and ask Katie to tell him that she doesn't like him like that, and never will. But in the nicest way possible because you don't want to become a rebound.
As for the 2nd question, do things to keep the spark alive. Like do things with eachothers familys. Do things you normally wouldn't do, like go to an expencive resturant but don't let him pay for the whole thing. Do something cute and romantic for him. If he doesn't show respect for this back then maybe it just isn't meant to be.
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The easiest way for this guy to know that Katie doesn't want to be with him is to have her tell him. When it comes out of her mouth, he may see the truth in it. Just have her tell him that she doesn't feel the same way and never will. Then you can talk to him about losing her friendship over dating and all that. Because relationships DO hurt friendships...BAD.
Another thing is that personally, I wouldn't want to be dating a guy that had it this bad for another girl. A guy will say he loves you just so he won't lose you, even if he doesn't actually love you. And if you're in for a long-term relationship, this doesn't sound like the best situation. I mean, do you want to be kissing this guy, for example, knowing that he's thinking about and wishing he was kissing Katie? That's just weird and hurtful if you ask me.
I believe this calls for a long conversation between you and your guy (and Katie) and a decision about what to do with your relationship. Sometimes it's better just to move on in situations like these.
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Relationships, no matter what kind, end up getting sticky sometimes. To answer your first question, ask him if his friendship with Katie is worth losing, because he wanted to move the relationship up a notch. Sometimes when guys have a major crush on someone, thats all they think about, it becomes a major drive in their life. You should also, because your a good friend, tell him that Katie doesn't want to go out with him for that exact reason. I would tell him that if he pursues Katie, he'll just be pushing her away. To answer your second question, alot can happen in six months, and you could be the first person to testify to that. I think it would be a good idea if you two remained either really really close friends, or sit down with him and create very distinct boundries. You should tell him, no matter what relationship you have with him, that your going crazy because of his infatuation. I hope that this answers or helps with your question. Good Luck.:)
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