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Old Friends vs. New Friends
i tried out for cheerleading and i actually made it (yaay!). none of my good friends tried out, which means that most of the other cheerleaders are girls i didnt really know before. some of them are really nice, and now that ive met them, ive made some new friends. but this puts me in an awkward situation. every weekend i have to choose between hanging out with my new friends or my old friends. i try to balance it out, but whatever i do, im screwed. if i turn down an invitation from a new friend, she might think i don't like her and not invite me again. but if i dont hang out with my old friends, they think im ditching them for the "popular" people. im really not like that... i dont care about being popular, i just actually like some of the cheerleaders, and besides, i have to cheer with them all year, so i might as well get to know them. but i really dont want to lose my old friends, because, well, they're my friends! im afraid that if i dont handle this right, im gonna go from having too many friends to having none at all!
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if these people are really your friends then they will understand. maybe you can plan to have a big sleepover with friends from each group so that they can get to know eachother. maybe some of them will end up becoming friends too. i think both groups of friends will understand if you explain the situation to them. hope i helped!
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I had this same problem. If you already have plans with your new or old friends, and the opposite ask to hang out, just simply say you already have plans. The team will definitly understand because you are already spending so much time with them at practice and everything. Maybe even have the two groups of friends meet, have a get together at your house or something. Who knows what might happen. Hope i helped! =]
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As we mature and broaden our interests we do have great opportunity to expand our circles of friends as well. There is no rule that says you have to make only new friends that will fit in with the old ones, or that you have to see them all at once. Some people resist "new" anything or anyone, so be prepared and strong enough to handle the static you get. Try to balance the times spent between the old and new, but remember that the long time friends who have really stood the test of time should never be ditched. Be honest in your dealings and respectful. No one can fault you for having too many friends if you don't overextend yourself or forsake anyone. If you do want to try to get some of both groups of friends together, do it slowly and with one person at a time, so that the bigger group is more open and less intimidated. They will see that the newbie has something to offer and will be less threatened with the friendships that are outside the group.
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Hello.
This is something that happens often enough and since you've tried balancing things out without success maybe you can try something a little more different. :]
Have you tried to get them all to meet up? Like maybe arrange a day out with all your friends both old and new so they can all meet up and get to know each other. That way they may all realise that the others are not so bad at all. It's pretty much the way I handle things when I make a group of new friends and it gets hard to choose between each group when I get invited out by everyone. If this does happen though I usually stick with going out with whoever had asked me to go out first and that way it all stays fair. ALso so as not to dissapont the others I let them know I can't go out because I had made prior arrangements but next time I will go out with them (and the next time I usually do).
It's hard to balance friends out like this but I think the one thing you shouldn't worry about is loosing all of them. If you are afraid of your old friends being the way you have described then maybe you should try talking to them about this situation? Let them know that you don't want to lose them but at the same time you need to keep things sweet with your new friends as well because, as you said, these are girls you will need to be around with and put up with for the whole year and it's better that you have them as friends as opposed to the opposite.
Hope things work out with you.
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