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Friends fighting over each other
Recently I have become friends with two girls who I like a lot. They used to be best friends with each other, but before I met them they had a fight and have drifted apart. Now, every weekend they both invite me to do stuff, and I have to choose which one to hang out with. Whoever I choose, the other one feels left out or thinks I like the other one better. I wish we could all hang out together, but I guess that's impossible. It seems like they are competing for my friendship, and I really hate that. Is there any way I can be friends with both of them, without getting in the middle of some drama?
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try to juggle your friends to accomodate both but make sure you ar having fun. Maybe you can be the one that brings them bck into a friendship together maybe say for example friend ad I are going to the mall this weekend to shop and I wanted you to go to friend 2 do you mind hanging out with both of us this weekend it will be fun Hope this works but it depends on wat made them drift in the 1st place Good Luck
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You need to get them together and tell them that you don't like how they both are treating you. It's very unfair to you, and they need to grow up and stop being childish. Right now, it seems as if they are using you as a way to hurt each other and make the other one feel bad. So whether you like it or not, you already are in the middle. The best thing to do is just step away from them both, but be sure to let them know why.
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You can all be friends, but sometimes what happens is that the two former friends will make-up and become best buds again, leaving you the third wheel and feeling used. The way to avoid drama is to not talk about anyone behind their back. Hard to do if the other person won't shut up about them, but you have to move on if they can't. You are not there just to be the go-between, so make that clear.
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Hi.
I suppose thebest way to handle this will be to ration your time with each of them. So like spend some time with one of them one week and the next week spend time with the other. :] That way you're not spending more time with one of them more than the other.
I can understand how you don't want to get into the middle of this fight of theirs but one of the best ways might be to let each of them know when you see them that you don't want to try to get into the middle of them both because you are friends with both.
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