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Very very shy/awkward boyfriend
I'm 15/f, he's 15/m
I've had a crush on this boy for months, and we are in the same group of friends. This year we became really good friends and he isn't shy with us at all, he's really funny. But he has always been kind of shy in terms of girls until earlier this year when he went out with one of my good girlfriends - bad experience for EVERYONE. I was really mad at her because she knew I liked him, and she ended up fighting with him the whole like week it lasted anyway. But that's over now...
So last week with a lot of convincing from his best friend, who I am also friends with, this boy finally asked me out (online-yes he is very shy). I REALLY like him. It hasn't been too awkward for me and we have hung out a lot but I think he gets a bit uncomfortable when we have nothing to say. There wasn't really any awkwardness in the past, but I guess now because he asked me out it's harder for him to keep talking like we did when we were just friends.
He gives me high fives a lot, haha. But if I could get a hug out of him I would be ecstatic! He tends to hurt himself a lot and I try to stop him, he's always like "im sorry" and he gives me a pat on the back. Once I said he owes me lots of high fives and hugs for accidentally hurting himself, I said that a long time ago. Then recently he hurt himself accidentally AGAIN and I told him it made me sad. He asked if he could just owe me high fives and hugs and I said yea. icon_biggrin.gif
And he tried to give me a hug over the weekend... we were sitting on a couch at a friend's house and he gave me a kind of half hug cause we were sitting down next to each other. A one armed kind of thing. So I think he would. But he has trouble bringing it up in person, he generally only says anything about it online. I just want an excuse to bring it up lol. I adore him and I just love being with him - I don't mind that he is so shy but I LOVE hugs and one from him would make me very very happy. I'm kind of awkward myself sometimes but I know there has to be a way to get one out of him. Any good ideas?
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When I needed a hug from my girlfriend, I just simply said, I really need a hug right now. And evrey time I said that, I got one. Sometimes being completly strait forward is the best thing you can do in a situation like that. Now if he doen't hug you after you ask for one, or say that you need one, just ask him why not. Yah know, he may not be willing to hug, because he's afraid to jeporadize your already great friendship. Also remember that relationships grow over time, and in time he will be more comfortable talking, or hugging or whatever the situation is. Pertaining to your other problem, When my gf and I ran out of things to say on the phone or in person, we just sat their enjoying the silence. I know it sounds wierd, it wasn't the fact that we enjoyed a stop in the conversation, it was the fact that through the silence, we knew that if we wanted to say anything then one of us would be on the other line waiting to listen. It was the thought of not being alone that made thoes silent moments not awkward. When we were talking in person, say we were talking on a porch swing, and the conversaition went away, then we would just snuggle up next to eachother and enjoy each others presence. If you and your boyfriend get to that part in your relationship, then you'll understand completly what I'm talking about. I hope you make it, and I hoped this helped.:)
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