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Awkward? What do I say?
This feels like a weird question to be asking, since I've never had this problem with anyone else. I'm 19 and a girl, by the way, and he's 21.
Okay, so there's this guy. We dated for awhile, then decided we couldn't handle the relationship, so we lost the titles and basically went for a friends with benefits deal.
So, sometimes I find myself wanting to talk to him on line, or on the phone, but I have absolutely nothing to say, or he barely responds. I feel awkward, and like I'm talking to a wall.
I'm not a bad conversationalist, and he really doesn't make me nervous, especially considering I know where I stand now (I didn't for awhile). I haven't seen him since April, because he lives about 40 minutes away from me, and I was living at school since '05, when we met. I haven't seen him in over a month, we miss each other, but I can't think of anything to talk to him about.
It's not like I need to keep the small talk stuff going, since we've dated, we're still pretty much in love, just unable to handle the intensity of the relationship we were in at this age. I know him like the back of my hand and he knows me (almost) as well...
Why do you think I/we can't find anything to talk about, and what can I do about it?
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Before I answer I want to tell my story ok me and this boy was talking and then we realized that it was just a physical attraction between us and nothing else. So then one day he say you want to be friends with benefits and i say hell no. So after we would talk about everything and we got to know each other. Well now your answer i don't think it's too late but it is to late because ya'll already had sex and everything else. You should find things to talk about like what ya'll have in common and even we ya'll do today. You can also talk about your family school if your in college your job anything.
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Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all. I remember when I was dating and me and my girlfriend would just stay on the phone even after we finished talking, we did this because it was comforting to know that he/she was there. Sometimes its going to be a slow or dull conversation. IF things are going this route, you could always talk about your boyfriend to your boyfriend. Boys usually like talking/bragging about themselves. Just keep in mind that your still 19, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Sometimes we get so caught up in the day to day activities and problems, that we miss life as it passes us by. Carpe' Diem, Sieze the Day.:)
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