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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.
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what do i say if sombody asks u out
Noone can make the decision for you, you have to decide. But obviously it's a yes or no answer.
But the way to make up your mind?
- Do you like them, do you trust them, do you think it could work, is it more than something sexual, are they your friend, do they know you and are you old enough to handle the responsibilities in a relationship.
feel free to message me if you want to talk about this further
-sadie
I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy.
Don't sit around feeling miserable, B is clearly a horrible person, and this ex of yours obviously doesn't deserve you.
Don't wallow (not implying you do but simply saying don't!) around thinking you've lost everything when really you've saved yourself the trouble of further heartache and pain.
Don't sit around and be upset. Take some action. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be "friends with benefits" with my ex. There are still feelings attached there, it just makes things complicated. It could get to a point where he may stop that all together and then you're cut off after being so dependent on him.
He says he doesn't want to lose you, so he fucks you? Wow he's clever. Honestly you deserve so much more. A real gentlemen would of said I don't want to lose you so can we be friends, real friends. He didn't suggest such a thing to you.
Ask him why you can't get back together if you don't know. If you have a suspicion he is going out with B, ask him. Ask all the questions to get all the answers you need and move on.
It really sucks, trust me I know but once you've found out what you need to know, only then you can be happy. Situate yourself around good friends. Look how unexpectantly he came into your life? It won't be long until you find a real gentlemen who deserves you.
What is the diferance between a snog and meeting someone??
A snog is a kiss
And meeting someone is well, meeting someone, hanging out?
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i have really thick hair, is there any way to make straightening it not as long so i can get up later but still have time to make it stick straight?
I recommend the brazilian blow dry too.
Or if its too pricey make sure you blow dry your hair straight first and then straighten your hair. You can always pop into local hairdressers or more recognisable hairdressers and ask them to recommend some affordable products for you.
Also when you get your hair cut, get them to cut the middle underneath of your hair shorter than the rest of your hair. You won't notice because its underneath but it helps to make sure you hair isn't tangled and not as thick. They can thin your hair out too.
Source - I'm a hair model in london for Rush
a butch looking woman was looking at me. What are some reasons why a lesbian would stare at a guy?
I'm sure her being a lesbian has nothing to do with her staring at you.
People stare at people. They can be wierd, they can be daydreaming about something, they may not be aware. I'm sure she was not fantasizing about you.
Next time, just ask her?
Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
If he is telling you don't date him because he will find a girl and dump you that is enough to tell you to STAY away. If you thinking you will hurt now if you decide to stay away from him, think how ten times worse it will be if you kept seeing eachother and then he just went off with another girl.
he can get you stuff, he can tell you he loves you but he can't give you truly what you want - a relationship. Don't waste your time on someone you can't have. It's best to get out now before it's too late.
You can't make him ask you out, and you certainly can't change a person - you haven't even been seeing him that long, what's different about you that is going to change his ways
It hurts but let it go. Be friends but I think it's best not to pursue it further. It will end in tears! I can't tell you what to do, and I don't expect you to listen, but I just want you to know what could happen.
ok so im 13 and this guy asked me out but i really really like this other guy too who is very seems very sweet and nice and charming and funny but the other guy seems nice and cool and flirty with me so i dont know what to do?
If you don't know. Say no to either of them and don't try to flirt with them because what would happen if you choose one and then realise you were wrong?
Do you really like them? Or is because they both have an interest in you?
I know you may hear this all the time, but you have all the time in the world to date. TRUST ME when I say you know when you like someone, like fairy tale-happy ending- like someone. Your mind won't have to make a decision, your heart will have already done it.
You can always tell the guy who asked you out that you need some time, you don't need to go into detail, just say you need to make the right decision. This way you can do what's best for you
Good luck
do u know what does the 2 finger sign mena???? like the peace sign but in the other way... (not between the mouth....)???
thx
It means.
Fuck Off/Fuck You/Piss Off
etc etc. Same as middle finger really:)
Hello I asked you a question about 3 months and i cant thank you enough for making me relise for what took me 1 and half to notice and making me move thank you so much!!!
My Question:
Ok this might be long but last year i liked this guy and he had gf but i couldnt help myself.So when he found i liked him he started flirting with me and i was head over heels for him and when his gf found outi liked him she freaked out and started talking behind my back and all her friends hated me too but in front of my friends she was all nice and polite.And then like 2 weeks after he had to leave to go to another school he said i was acting like his girlfriend and i wouldnt leave him alone.So now 11 months later im here and i cant let him go .next year i have to go to the same school he went to and then i have to see him everyday.ive tried everything to let him go but i cant. plz help me
First of all, accept the fact his girlfriend hates you, and talks about you behind her back. She's a bitch, she's jealous and sees you as a threat. Girls are always going to be like that to eachother - you can't blame her, especiallly when you told him you liked him - causing him to go behind her back and flirt with you
Sometimes when you love someone, or when your infatuated with someone - you do message them a little bit more, think about them more - go on their facebook more just to check if he has been online at alll (which then gets you parnoid if he has and he hasn't messaged you, but he's messaged other people) - maybe that's why he felt you were acting like his girlfriend.
I personally think he has to take the blame for your heartbreak. He flirted with you, made you think he liked you back - but sometimes it just a game to guys. They like it when the attentions on them. You need to STOP giving it to him.
If he's going out with a girl who bitchy - it just shows you he has no real class or taste, & if he doesn't like you - then he was never good enough for you, and he doesn't have good taste at all. You need to get over this stage of heartbreak and realise you're too good for him/ Why waste your attention on someone who DOES NOT give a shit about you. The reason I'm being so harsh here is to show, what type of a guy he is. And the type of guy he is - is someone you don't NEED.
If you still like him, you still like him, but just no he's hurt you - you dont need people like that in your life. Shut him out - delete him of aim,msn,myspace,facebook etc, delete his number. Situate yourself around your friends. Ok, so you have to go to the same school - its the perfect oppourtnity to show him what he is has missed out on girl, he has missed out on YOU. Don't give him attention, ignore him. You're nothing to him, so he should be NOTHING to you.
A cure I've found, to release the sense of sadness,rejection and angerness against a boy is music, music has helped me a lot - as I am in a similar situation. Sometimes you just can't find the right words to express how you feel. I understand how you feel- torn, parnoid, angry, sad, and sort of happy - because that's how he makes you feel..alll these songs have the perfect lyrics :)
Forever & Always - Taylor Swift
Clown - Mariah Carey
Breakdown-Mariah Carey
Now That We're Done - Metro Station
Learning to fall - Boys Like Girls
The Kill - 30 Seconds To Mars
Risque - Cute Is What We Aim For(LOVE this song)
Alive - Black Eyed Peas(*..tune!)
Meet Me Halfway - Black Eyed Peas
You Could Be Happy- Snow Patrol(Lovley Song)
Naive - The Kooks
Breakdown - Forever The Sickest Kids
Breakeven - The Script
The Man Who Can't Be Moved - The Script
Always attract - You Me at six
Try to cut out as much contact with him as possible and just think about how he's hurt you and he's the reason why you feel like this - you don't deserve to feel like this. Situate yourself around your friends, write poetry, read, and just learn you can be independant. There's going to be someone out there for you, someone who will respect you a whole lot more and never hurt you - so focus on that. You're too good for him. There willl be one day when he's going to come running after, but it will be too late. You WILL have moved on, and realised, he was NEVER worth your tears x
I REALLY hoped I helped :D xxxxx
Hey, today I just got a boyfriend! Im really hapy! But, also I didnt want this to happen... He's moving away on Thursday. People say that if your 13 you dont know what love is, or you cant be in love.. But I really think im in love. Ive liked alot of boys(never had a boyfriend though! Just had a crush!) and I liked them, But this guy... He just gets into my thoughts!! Im trying to be strong, Im trying not to show that im sad, so that it wont make it any harder on him... Its so hard. Im really trying.. I really am. Please help me! I need advice!
Wow, this is really tough on you. I fell for a guy this summer, and it was like a long distant thing, and lets just say I got really hurt and felt as sad as you probarbly feel.
Okay - so he is moving. Make the most of these last days, and do you know what? It's ok show him your sad, it's okay to show him how you feel, chances are, he probarbly feels pretty down about it too. It's not natural to just smile and pretend you're pretty fine - when someone you love is moving and you may not see him again. Be yourself!
Make the most of the time you have, he's your first boyfriend. Kiss, take pictures and just have fun. I really understand where you are coming from - whatever you do , when he goes - keep in contact - be be friends, because that's all it will ever be. We tried to be something, and it just didn't work. It didn't feel the same, he found someone else, and it pretty much hurt when he told me he didn't like me as much, and he likes someone else.
He probarbly feels as down as you are. Spend the time together. enjoy it, have fun - otherwise you WILL regret it..for a long time . When he is gone, you are going to think about him,you are going to be down - but just situate around your friends and have a positive attitude because things will get better I promise. I am going through the same thing, you just got to make the most of the time you have and if you need to talk - that's why you have friends. I remember crying hyterically for an hour with my best friend :( So yeah, it may sound like it's goning to make you miserable but its called honesty. PLEASE inbox me for anything else, if you need advice I'd be happy to help
Sadie
well i have broken up with this guy 3 times and now i am over him but he keeps on starinf at me and watching me with other guys does this means he still likes me.
he cheeted on me twice but he still wants me.
but i don't want him.
i am from australia
if you dont want him, dont go out with him ( an obvious one)
dont give him attentiion, dont talk about him and dont look at him
wait for him to talk to you, set him straight you have had enough and you dont have those feelings about him, but him staring at you doesnt mean anything. Just wait until he speaks to you.
he only wants what he cant have. Just tell him the truth, if he comes up to you - dont tell him if he doesnt go up to you, because you could of mistaken is reason for staring at you
good luck
Sage :)
so i sing. and i'm trying out for this competition. so i had one of my close friends listen to a recording of me singing....i sent it over text. she didn't say a word....i asked her if she had receieved the recording...and she said "yeah, woo hoo! i just got it right now."....it bugs me that she wont telll me how it sounds...at least let me know what you think you know...
I can't tell you why. But I do know that she may just want to annoy you, or just doesnt want to admit what she thinks about it.
Also if you havnt actually asked her WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT IT..
Then she's not going to tell you, you only asked her what she thought about it.
If you're that bothered, bring up the singing competition casually, and just say , Oh yeah, you never told me what you thought about me singing, you can be completley honest - that you're way you're still being friendly.
Oh and ask her alone, you might not like the feedback you get, and that might be a bit insulting infront of people - I am sure you're a fine singer though.
Just be honest,and upfront,
it's the only way to get what you want.
Simple, Straightforward,
Hope I Helped
Sage :)
14/f
So I've been liking this guy for about 3 years now and finally got the chance to tell him that I like him about a month ago. He could tell what I was going to say and actually looked happy that I told him. Ever since then he has been acting Crazy nice and flirting a whole lot more. Like randomly running up to me and giving me hugs and CONSTANTLY staring at me. All the time.
Now everyone knows that I like him and won't let me forget it. And I am positive that he likes me back.
The most annoying part is that it's been over a month since I told him an he hasn't given me an answer. (I basicly told him, and he walked away smiling)
Right now I'm at the point where I'm thinking "just drop it, oh well, the last three years of your life are pretty much wasted"
But I understand that he is super shy and he probably has no idea what to think. Although, he flirts with other girls to make me jealous...
So this weekend some of my friends are having a picnic and he's coming. I HAVE to know something. It doesn't matter what it is, even if he doesn't like me back, I need to know something.
What do I do!? Please help me on this. I don't feel like I should go up to him and ask him again... Akward. And flirting my ass off doesn't seem like enough at this point.
(I need to add that I might not see much of him this upcoming school year so I need to do this noww)
Basicly, my mind is beyond confused.
What should I do?
(sorry it was so long)
You said you're pretty sure he was happy when you told him. So you've got a vibe he likes you too. He's probarbly really flattered, and you've boosted his ego which is why he tries to make
you jealous. It's a been a month now, and so I guess it's about time you find out. Waiting
around for someone is hard.
At the picnic, try to get him on his own and ask him if he has thought about what you said -and what does he think about it. Just go for a walk with him, and ask him. Because if
you dont, the chances of him asking you are next to zero (because its been a month) -
then you guys will get tired of waiting around for eachother and then the feelings stop -
I've seen it happen. So just ask, don't come off too strong, that can "scare" a guy off - ask him what he's thinking, what he wants.
the outcome will probabrly result to you dating :) which
is what you want. If you want something, you have to go out and get it.
Good Luck,
Sage :)
Ps - Enjoy the picnic, show him you know how to have a good time and have fun :)
so i like this boy alot at my church, so far, i have been making all the effort to get us together. i know once we get together he would make an amazing boyfriend so im not giving up on him. i wrote him a note for his birthday and put it in a birthday bag with other things as well and he wrote me a note back saying his exact feelings for me and i couldnt help but smile. he gives me butterflies everytime i see him :) he also called me once which was a big leap for him and i couldnt even talk thats how shocked i was, that however, is the only conversation we had, through notes and phone. i guess my question is, should i sit back and let him come to me now becuase i did everything else?
This is really sweet...
I think you should just go for it and next time you see him, just ask if you want to meet up. Or phone him either way.
The sooner you meet up with him, the quicker you guys can get to know eachother more and be more confortable and less shy!
I'd just go for it, you know he likes you, he knows you like him, so there's nothing stopping you. The only thing that would be stopping him is his lack of confidence.
You have feelings for him, so act on them!
Good Luck
Okay, so i am 15 and in high school. I really like this one guy that i don't have any classes with but i know very well. I know i like him because when he talks to me, i blush and can barely speak in front of him because i am so nervous. So my question is... Can a girl like me ask a guy like him out?
Of COURSE it's totally cool if you want to ask him out.
You like him, you know him - nothing's stopping you! :)
But like someone said below me, hanging out in a larger group outside of school with him would work well best, because if you can barley speak in front of him when your just friends, could you even say anything to him if you went out?
But my advice is to put yourself out there, ask him out! Don't be afraid of rejection, and if that happens, just take it , forget it and just don't let it bother you. As soon as you do that, it ruins the friendship you have. So don't let it affect you.
Go for it!! You have no reason NOT to ask him really
:)
Hi, I need some advice...so anyone PLEASE HELP!!I love this guy named Matt...he's so amazing... tonight I am going to write a email to him( if my friend finds it) I am going to tell him how I feel about him... my friend is his friend on my space...she says he likes girls who mean it when they say they love him.I absolutely do!! I don't know what I should do when I go back to school Monday... how I should act...I'll be happy that he reads it..(if he does) but..I'll be extra nervous. I am so shy around him... I can't EVEN talk to him... so someone help me out...also do you think he'll not read it even when I say to?? Please...I would like ANYONE to try to help... thanks to whoever try's to help..
- Mattlover
I wouldn't do it in a email.
Talk to him face to face. Then he can tell you're really serious and that you like him. Words mean nothing when there written. If you speak to him and say how you really feel - you're more likley to sort of "interest him" because its all from the heart.
And though your friend said that he likes girls who love him. I wouldn't say that straight away. Boys can be scared off by that. I mean , if he doesn't like you, and you say you love him, things will be really awkard at school
Just tell him , you really like him and say why ( ie you make me laugh, they like it when girls find boys funny, the majority anyway )and you were hoping you could meet up . Get him on his own, and don't tell you mates what you're going to do ; things can get around and things just totally backfire.
Talk to him face to face. It's also a great learning experience so you're not nervous if you ever decide to date someone else!
Hope I Helped : )
Ps - If he doesnt really read emails, you won't know if he ever got it.
GO get matt !
16/f. In one of my classes, I sit by a kid who has low self-esteem and possibly mental issues. Anyway, he started talking to me on the first day of class (we had not met before). Then he started telling me about how girls always reject him, and how he's "always wanted to ask me out." After he said that, I didn't say anything back- I just sat there and continued doing my work. Frankly, this kid gives me the creeps but I don't want to be rude at all to him. When the bell rang to leave class, he said, "So will you go out with me?" And I politely said no. I think it's really weird that he asked me out when we had just met, and when he doesn't know me AT ALL. So here's the question: Class is really awkward now. How do I handle this situation, and if he brings it up again, what do I say? I don't want a relationship right now (at least not with him), and I don't want to hurt his feelings because he has low self-esteem. Help? Thank you guys!
If he has a low self esteem..maybe switching seats isn’t the best idea.he needs confidence and you saying no and then moving seats will defiantly upset him.talk to him a bit become a “friend” how do you know anything unless you don’t try it’s a bit mean,I mean he may be less “creepier” than you think…just talk to him to give him some boost with people and class work…he may not know how to socialize, sometimes you have to think of others before yourself and do things you don’t
im 13 and i have a brother 3 years older and he can be a slob he room is messy and leaves the lounge in a mess sometimes and he burps and farts a lot and he jokes about it i find it a bit gross and sometimes he walks around the house in his
underpants y-fronts so i just go back in my room for awhile till hes dressed ive told my mum she lets him go sometimes how do i get him to be tidier and clean up after himself and not walk around in his underpants?
Thats a tricky one there are some ways you can try....
first off tell him how you find his habits disgusting
Sometimes it takes a bit of cunning and planning and jokes to get people to stop stuff.
How about inviting your friends around, maybe have sleep overs and see if it would change his mind a bit.....you never know he might actually be a bit tider if guests were around or if he developed a crush.
How about you going into his room, taking it into your own hands clean up the room , set clothes out for him...its a bit of weird plan but trust me i have been there and things like this can really really work.
Tell him he is really not tidy and he wont ever get a girl being the way he is
Tell your mum more that you really dont like it and keep telling her.
Hope I helpeed
x
13,female,australian: At school i have a normal amount of friends and they are all good to me. I am making friends with some of the other kids in my grade and they are nice to me too. i usually sit with them because my other friends dont save me a seat, and i dont think they like me hanging out with the other kids. the other kids are natasha, talisha and a couple of boys (robert, jake and michael [i have a crush on michael]) during class everyone will be talking on my table and i will say something, but no one will hear me, so i say it again and no one answers. It really annoys me. Once i walked up to them and said hi but they didnt answer, so i said hi and they didnt answer again, so i said bye and walked away, i looked back and they didnt seem to notice me and they kept talking. I was pretty sad about that so i was acting sad all day (i didnt mean to) then natasha askted me what was wrong. I said nothing because i didnt want to tell her. she really confuses me, first she will act like i dont exist, next she will be talking and listening to me. I cant talk to anyone about this so i had to tell someone. please answer my question: what should i do to make them notice me more?
Get tough.Get some backbone and ask your friends why are they ignoring you.But if you think they're just lying to you...forget them and get on with your life.Dont let them hold you back.Take up some actvities with your other mates and go out with them and have a great time.But your friends are probs upset because your spending time with other people which is ok.Your other mates dont like them.And that is their problem.But i guarentee at the end of the day...once you've talked to them and go on with what your doing, you'll be the noticed,comfortable happy one with your mates like rob,jake,mich.And if you'd really like to take your minds off things confinde in someone like micheal, so you can become closer and be happier because your with someone you like.
does anyone know that poem that goes something like this..
belts with stars. boys with cars
report card fears. cell phone bills? and i dont know the rest
-Big Dreams - Stupid Fights
-Sleepy Days - Endless Nights
-Broken Hearts - Mascara Tears
-Cell Phone Bills - Report Cards Fears
-Clothes Too Tight - Shoes Too Hgh
-Out Past Curfew - Another Lie
-Eye Shadow Colour - Midnight Black
-Lipgloss Flavour - Cherry Attack
-Belts With Stars - Boys With Cars
-We're From Venus - Theyre From Mars
-That's Not All - Much More To Hear
-Just A Taste Of...
-TEENAGE YEARS
Hope I helped,
Sadie