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So I got invited to this girls dinner party, the problem is I I only know her and she invited over 30 people. I’m very introverted and I don’t do well in social situations especially something as intimate as a dinner party so I was wondering if you had any tips on how I can survive this. I don’t want to sit beside her cause I’m pretty sure she probably has an idea of the seating arrangements. She even told me I could bring a friend but none of my friends want to go. I’ve been in social situations where I didn’t know anybody like my university orientation week but it is different than this because everyone there didn’t know each other so it was easier to socialize but this dinner party majority of the people knew each other from high school. Please help I’m 18 btw
From one introvert to another I can tell you that I have been in that situation and it is not
as bad as you think. You don't have to be a social outcast just because your introverted. It just means you have to work a bit harder to be social.
The first part of being social is being a good listener. You walk up to a group of people or the host or hostess introduces you to a group of people and you listen to the conversation. Even if you didn't go to school with them and they are talking about something that they experienced at school.
The second part happens when: They may say some thing to the effect, "Anne what do you think?" "Your answer starts with, well I didn't attend your school but we had a similar situation. That's how a discussion starts.
Maybe they are talking about something else and you have something to add to the conversation then you say, are you aware of this, or I had something very similar, and go on from their.
I am prove positive you can overcome being introverted it just takes an effort on your part. For you see as an introverted person I had the worst job in the world; I was a Representative for a major manufacturer of products to the wholesale construction market. At first I had to work hard to over come being shy it got easier as I became more comfortable with what I was doing. When I retired I retired as one of the top 5 Representatives in the company for many rears.
(Rating: 4) Thank you for the advice