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I thought i was pretty good at faking being confident, i can walk with my head up high and i can give people eye contact and sometimes smile at strangers. However, one of my managers sensed it right away that i was insecure she also thinks im sad inside (which i was depressed for 5 years now im just lonely) and my voice is pretty monotone but thats what happens when youve been depressed for so long so whenever i talk my manager says i sound sad. Ive tried talking with enthusiasm but people always think im about to cry when i do so i just talk normally which is monotone. My neutral face is either resting b face or its a blank expression is what ive been told from people who look at me. My manager even told my sister that to boost my confidence i should start wearing makeup because that helped her boost her own confidence. So can people actually sense that somebody is insecure?
There are times people pick up on certain signals that tell them something is wrong. Your manager just happened to hit on the right one although from what you write the signals lean more to the point you are still suffering some form of depression.
Did you get professional help with your depression with talk therapy to find the root cause or did your family doctor just prescribe medication. Medication alone will not cure depression.
Everyone gets depressed from time to time. People like you and me suffer some form of depression that never goes away. For most of us we suffer clinical depression caused by a lack of one or two hormones secreted into the brain that control are emotions. Medication best prescribed by a Board Certified Psychiatrist, no we are not crazy, because they are best trained in this area than a general practice doctor. Will lift the vial of depression. TO get at the root cause of depression takes therapy, talk therapy with a social worker or psychologist.
Clinical depression is usually deep seated something you are not even aware of that you have built a wall around so as not to hurt you. what happens is a sound, smell or something triggers a release of that deep seated something which causes anxiety. Anxiety cause anger and anger cause depression which causes anxiety and the cycle repeats itself and you end up unable to climb out of the depression.
IF you have not been treated properly for your depression the you need to get proper treatment in order to overcome the manifested problem with confidence.
I'm not a doctor but I have been through a deep depression and I know what triggers my depression and what to do when it happens. This is what you learn in therapy.
(Rating: 5) No i never got professional help with my depression and i didn't get properly diagnosed either because my parents thought it was a phase but clearly im still the same way and my mom didnt want me to go on any medications when she found out i suffer from anxiety but since im an adult now i think i might go to therapy now thanks for the advice