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So im not sure if i have avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety disorder but i do know my anxiety and mental health is starting to control my life and i want it to stop. My symptoms are.. not being able to take criticism or negative feedback, i always end up crying, any change of actions or change in peoples tones of voices make me feel uneasy as if the person is mad at me and again makes me cry. I dont like being the centre of attention, if something embarrassing happens to me in front of people i start panicking and my heart starts racing faster, i cant take rejection especially when its in front of people again it will make me cry, i cant deal with confrontation all it does is make me run away,and also to this day the confrontations ive had are still haunting me in my dreams im over them consciously but i guess not subconsciously. I was always the quiet kid in class at first it was shyness but then in highschool whenever i would talk people would say "why do you talk like that?" or why do you have no emotion in your face? (Apparently i have a monotone voice and my face has no emotion at all) so now i fear people are judging me whenever i talk so i dont and when i do talk in public my voice is automatically soft-spoken now so that people dont detect my monotone voice and i cant control being soft-spoken sometimes my voice is so low that it sounds like im mumbling. Also i dont know why i do this but whenever i talk to people,even if theyre the same age as me i always treat them like theyre superior even though theyre not. My anxiety got really bad in grade 12 when i did a group presentation and i was the centre of attention i was prepared for it but as soon as it was my turn i was shaking, my face turned hot and my eyes were blacking out and i could just feel one of my group members annoyed with how i was presenting, if i talked any longer i wouldve fainted. My first year of university i had one class where the teacher forced us to talk in front of everyone and my anxiety made me avoid going to that class.i finally got a job and the job requires me to interact with customers and so far it has been so hard,i dont know why im afraid of people. I can talk to people if they talk to me first but i wont talk to them first. My sister at her work made tons of friends and shes only been working 3 days meanwhile ive been working for 3 weeks now and ive just now made 2 friends at my work. I also avoid entering rooms by myself that are already filled with a lot of people because i hate being looked at, and if theres a crowd of boys thats when my anxiety kicks in the most. I dont want to compare myself to my sister shes 2 years younger than me but shes already been in almost relationships with guys at least 3 times and at her workplace her new friends all complimented how she looked. Meanwhile i dont get any compliments or male attention, my dad said its cause i always have an angry expression on my face (resting b face) but i use that as a defense mechanism. Any tips on how to overcome this? I know none of you are doctors but i just want some advice thanks im 18 turning 19 year old female.
Not being a doctor I can't make any type of diagnoses past I agree with you that you have problem. Something in your letter makes me feel you are from out side the US, possibly Canada, Great Briton or Australia, in which case you have Nation Health insurance.
I'm not sure how National Health Insurance covers they type of help you need and you do need professional help to over come your problems. The type of problems you are experiencing requires at the very least one on one talk therapy with a qualified psychologist who can help you get at the root cause of your problem.
Somewhere deep in the dark recesses of your mind something happened to cause these problems. On your own you will not find out what the root cause is and you will not find a solution either for you have built a wall around this cause. In talk therapy you will slowly and comfortably open that wall.
I would also say that based on what you have written that you could also be mildly depressed. The stress caused by the problems and the anxiety added together will cause depression. Once again talk therapy will lift the veil of the depression so that you can get to the root cause of your problems.
How do I know this is true. After being involved in auto accident, I was the only person injured and the innocent victim of a three car accident, I became severely depressed as the accident disabled me in a manner that I look fine outwardly but inwardly I am injured. My injuries are such that I am unable to return to a job I enjoyed and forced to retire early. I went to talk therapy and slowly through therapy I regained control over my life. I still cannot work though I have been able to reconcile with my new life.
If you do live in the US and have health insurance through your employer talk therapy is covered if you do not and live someplace that has National Health Insurance find out how to see a psychiatrist fro the most likely need for a referral to a therapist.
(Rating: 4) Yes i live in Canada and if i dont overcome this myself i think i may have to find help. Yeah the only way i can see a psychiatrist here is through a referal and the wait to see one is super long. Also thank you for sharing your story!