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Any relationship in general I don't know what's wrong with me but I can't let anyone close, ever since I was younger I would build a wall up. I remember having a bestfriend in elementary school and in the 4th grade we had to to write down who our bestfriends were, she wrote my name down and I knew she was my best friend but I ended up putting an acquaintance from my soccers team name down. I don't know why I did that, so in high school I have a new friend that I'm really close to someone asked us who my bestfriend was that friend said "me right?" And I said "no I don't I have a bestfriend" I could see the disappointment in her face but she quickly saved it and said this other girl was her bestfriend. Now I wish I had a best friend but clearly judging from how I act I don't even know if I can have one. Other issues I have is I can't say the words "I love you" out loud, my mom would say it to me and I just nod my head. My mom was like "when you get a boyfriend how are you gonna act if you're acting like this?" I'm 18 years old and I've never had a boyfriend yet hoping it'll change next school year in my second year of university. So does anyone know any tips on how to fix my awkwardness?
IF you cannot even tell your parents you love them then there is something very wrong, very deep seated. The first thing that comes to mind is to ask if you have any memories of being molested as a young child for this might account for the way you are.
I am not a doctor none of us are. All I can say is something is wrong, something is bothering you and you need to find out what it might be. What I suggest is therapy with a psychologist to see if it can be brought out and properly dealt with.
To start with you ask you doctor for a complete physical including being scanned for depression and a head C/T to rule out any organic causes for you feeling this way. The reason for the head C/t is to rule out a tumor as even a small benign tumor can be the root cause of why you are this way. Once you get a clean bill from your doctor then you see a psychologist to work to find out what might be the root cause of why.
(Rating: 3) Yeah nothing happened to me when I was a child, but I did suffer from undiagnosed depression and anxiety if that helps and I do love my parents it's just awkward for me to tell them or show any signs of affection