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Hello everyone. My name is Robert and I am 16 years old. We've just moved from Europe to California and it is difficult for me. My English isn't as good as another but it is quite ok. The biggest problem is crying. Eg. I was at school and we written test and I had bad score and next lessons we had next test and I didn't understand well and I was crying all lesson. Next example: I was at home and my Dad told me that I am not good in school and I should be better in Football after this one I had training and my couch shouted of me but not only at me he shouted about all members but nobody was crying only me. I fell very bed this month I don't understand what is happend with me. Once a day I've gone to the kitchen and I took knife and wanted to cut to my hand bu I didn't do this but I wanted. And all problem is my Friend Frederic he is lovely boy and I thing that I am fall in love I always thing about him and He miss me when I am not at school and I always see his pics on FB. I would like hug him and kiss but I know that isn't possible. I hate myself. :(
Our you Gay? No if you were gay you would have known this long ago, long before you left Europe. Crying does not make you gay. Ordinarily if a young man was to write and say he cries a lot I would say he is overly sensitive which is not a bad thing either.
In your case I think you are in a manner of speaking a bit homesick for your home and friends in Europe. You're the new kid on the block at school. New kid on the block is an American expression meaning your new and may not have any friends. Most of the kids you go to school with have been friends since elementary school and have formed their own friends groups. Getting accepted into any one of these groups is tough.
That fact that you find yourself crying at all things you have listed does not surprise me. I feel you are overwhelmed with everything, new school, new country, new everything including a new language to master. I'm sure there are a lot of things that may be said that confuse you as they are local slang or just plain slang. I live on the east coast when I travel to the west coast there are things they say that confuse me at times so your not alone in that area.
What scares me is your attempt at cutting yourself. should you ever feel like doing this again please pick up a phone and call 911. Cutting is a sign of deep depression. Based on what you written if anyone has a right to be depressed you are. You have a great deal of stress on you with all the changes that have happened and the stress you have placed on yourself.
I urge you to tell your parents how desperate you were that you attempted to harm yourself and how. If you are fearful for any reason to talk with your parents then talk to a trust teacher or your school principal. Once you tell them you attempted to harm yourself by law they must intervene for you. There are a number of different way to intervene that they can take . Most importantly though is to see to your safety and to get you help for your depression.
What you are suffering is a form of depression that is entirely curable I'm living proof of that, you will just have to trust me on this. Through talk therapy with a psychologist you can learn what triggers the depression and better ways to deal with these stressors. Stress causes pain which causes depression which causes more stress. This is the cycle of depression. Find out just what is the overriding stressor and your cure the depression.
Please if you feel like hurting yourself again call 911 you do not need parental permission to do so. The call taker will send help to you. You need to tell your parents how you feel and your attempt to harm yourself. If you can't then talk to a teacher or school principal. Do this tonight or in school tomorrow.
(Rating: 5) What is happened? by law they must intervene you? I am worry about that I will be at mental hospital.
And thank you for your answer it is helping me a lot.