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18/f
(itll be a year this october)
k so me and my boyfriend broke up because he LOVES me but is not IN LOVE with me, but im so completely head over heels in love.. wtf do i do. we recently hung out and now like everytime we hang out we have sex. i dont want that.... i want LOVEEE . everytime i ask if he has feelings for me like that again he says i can't rush him back into love n i wish i could but i know i cant . WHAT DO I DO. do i just hang out with him and not kiss him anymore? i sware to god this hurts so bad. maybe the more we hang out and not do anything..... he'll fall back in lovee :-( :-( (link)
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I guess he is at least being honest with you. He is using you for sex right now though, I'm sorry to say.
I would advise you not go that far anymore. Don't approach it by telling him "If you don't say you love me ...no sex" because he may be tempted to say he does just to get some. You don't want that either.
I am going to suggest an even more difficult approach. Don't even hang out with him anymore.
If he misses you, he will call. If he calls, hang out but don't put out. Tell him you don't want to be "rushed" into sex anymore until you have more of an idea just where your relationship is headed.
Do not discuss with him why its ok to have sex anyway. He will push the issue. Stand your ground and refuse to argue about it. Having sex with him will not HELP him decide a thing. Refuse to be used.
If its going to work out with this guy, it will eventually. Better to have some patience now and
not be used. It will only make it harder on you later if it doesn't work out. If it isn't going to work out, better you find that out sooner rather than later. Don't waste time with anyone who is unable to make up their mind.
Indecision about feelings of love are usually a good indication that there is none and won't ever be. I don't like having to tell you that, but its the truth. Life is to short to play games.
Thats hard to hear when you love someone who doesn't love you back, I know. Life does go on and there are still a lot of great guys out there just waiting for you to get over the wrong one.
Best of luck to you.
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