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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!
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I'm 17/f and recently I've been having feelings towards my basketball coach (He's 26). A couple nights ago the whole team including him went out to go bowling. It was like we weren't even there with the team, there was flirting and you know the whole "bet I can beat your score", and random touches when we passed by each other. And it's not just on his part it's me too. What should I do? Should I talk to him about this?
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If you're a senior, wait until next year to even attempt pursuing anything. This can get him sent to jail, he would become a registered sex offender, and he will never be allowed to teach or coach again.
There is a teacher in my district who was walked in on with a student and was fired, thrown in prison, and his reputation is ruined.
It doesn't matter if you're 18, it doesn't matter if you even have him as a teacher, as long as he's teaching and you're a high school student, it's illegal.
We have a teacher at my school who is dating someone who graduated around 2-3 years ago, and it's perfectly acceptable because they waited until recently to even consider a relationship. She's about 20 and he's about 27... it's all okay.
If you try anything before you graduate, you'll be risking his job. He's smart enough to know that going any further than flirting could ruin his life, so you should learn that lesson quickly.
There are definitely a few coaches at my old high school who a lot of students would have loved to hook up with; however, we all knew the risks and never would have put any of them through something as risky as this.
Just remember, people notice things, rumors start, and even if nothing happened, the teacher can still be let go.
We had a student who went to a coach's house because she was really upset and had a fight with her parents and knew she could talk to him. Well, when the mom found out she went to his house, her mom called the school and they gave him two options - quit or be let go for various other reasons.
See, even suspicion could cause someone to lose their job.
Be very careful. The year is almost up, so you're either a junior or senior. I hope you're a senior because it could get risky if you still have another year with him as your coach.
(Rating: 5) I didn't even put this much thought into it. I really appreciate your advice, Thank you.