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Hey. Basically Im depressed. About my whole life. I have different issues like school work and guys and i really do not want to go to an adult about this. I dont know if im really depressed or am i just bored. Like i havent had a boyfriend since october. I really dont know, i should be very happy right now because i won this contest, but im not. I cry everyday, and nothing big happened that i should be depressed about. I mean there are little things but seriously im so confused right now and i realy need help. I do talk to my friend but she has no adivce cuz shes going through the same thing. Please help

I used to feel like this all the time, and it's completely normal. School, work, and guy problems, combined, is a lot to handle. And you might feel hopeless about life, like nothing's ever going to get better. I've been there, and I think the majority of people have too. Chances are, it may seem like noone else feels the way you do, but most people just hide it. You're not alone.

Grades 7-10 are and will be the hardest times of your life. For one, the work starts to get harder and expectations for school get higher. That's why 8th and 9th grade can be especially stressful. There's really not a lot that you can change about that, you just have to try to "break" school into pieces. Focus on getting one assignment done at a time, and don't overwhelm yourself trying to get a million things done in 5 minutes. Yep, school may seem horrible now, but once you get the hang of it, later in highschool, it gets easier to manage.

I tell people this all the time. You don't need a boyfriend to make you happy. I was single for a whole year, and every time I am single, I always think that I want a boyfriend. Then when I get one, I am completely miserable and want to break up within a week. It's not that big of a deal if you don't have a boyfriend right now. When you're 14, it's not really worth it because nothing lasts at that age. Besides, boys aren't really mature at that age either. It's better to wait until you get further into highschool. Actually, even having a boyfriend in highschool doesn't matter. You have your whole life to find a guy you really like. It's all about what you're comfortable with and if you are truly happy having a boyfriend. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with you. It's the boys. So if you can't find one you like, enjoy being single, or make up a fake one if you really want one. (Haha...I've done that many times.)

The little things in life are what matters the most! Noone's life is perfect, and if anyone seems like that, then they're obviously sweeping all of their problems under the rug and ignoring them. Of course your life isn't going to be wonderful right now, because you're only 14 and you can't do much. Try not to see life as "all or nothing." This means, don't think you're a complete failure because your life isn't perfect. Try to think of any good things about your life. You have friends, a family, maybe a house, maybe a pet, a bed to sleep in, food to eat. See, a lot of people don't have that so you should appreciate the things you DO have instead of what you DON'T have. Find a reason to smile every day. It may be the littlest thing, like winning a contest, but it doesn't matter as long as it can make you happy for that day. The other day, my mom told me that I was starting to look taller, and that made me really happy. If you can just find one reason to be happy every day, you will be a lot better off.

You probably are a combination of bored and depressed. You might be depressed BECAUSE you are bored. And it sounds like you need more than just my advice. Try starting a journal if you don't already have one. When it feels like noone will listen to you, your journal will. It could be a paper journal or, I have started to write my journal in a Document Writer Program on the computer. (Such as Word Processor, Word Pad, or Microsoft Word.)

You just have to realize that life WILL get better. It is not going to be like this forever because everything changes over time. In a year or two, everything could be totally different. You just have to stay positive about what the future could hold for you.

Sorry this is so long, but if you ever need to talk, I'm here! :]

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(Rating: 5) Thank you sooo much, your advice was really helpfull. I never i would feel like this, cuz i used to ALWAYS be the happy one, but as you said things will get better:) Thanks soo much, God bless n take care
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