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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)
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Well as some as you might know, ive been dating this guy for 4 months. I dont know if its natural but he keeps flirting and flirting and flirting! I get SO mad, and this one girl specificly, and i know it, likes him. She always is flirting with him and smiling at him and sometimes even winking?! Wow. should i confront the girl or even my boyfriend that it bothers me?
Yes, you should confront your boyfriend. A relationship is all about trust, and you need to know if you can trust him. 4 months is a fairly long time and you two are expected to be open and honest with each other. You have to talk to him because you don't want all of this to build up inside of you. I've had that happen to me before, where I've been jealous, but I didn't say anything about it, then I ended up flipping out and screaming at my boyfriend.
The best thing you can do, is, in person, ask your boyfriend, "You know that _____ girl? Are you two friends?" See what he says. If he says yes, tell him, "Well, it makes me feel kind of uncomfortable when she's around you." Again, see what he says. DON'T say anything like, "She's so ugly/gross," even if you do feel that way. End the conversation by asking, "Can I trust you that you're not seeing anyone else?" After that, drop the subject. You don't want to turn it into a three hour long discussion.
After that, if the girl sticks around, that's her problem. She can flirt and wink at him all she wants, it only matters what he does back to her. If he's not flirting back with her, then don't worry about it. Trust me, you will know if your boyfriend is cheating on you. Because things get around very quickly, and you will always find out. (Though I don't think he is cheating on you.) Give it some time, see what happens. If he's not flirting back, this girl will eventually give up and move on. If you know for a fact that he DOESN'T like her as a friend at all, then feel free to yell at her a bit and tell her to back off.
(Rating: 5) omg, that totally helped. i told him and he stopped! i was like wow thats crazy. haha, thanks for you time. :D