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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)
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Most of my close friends have started to drink/smoke/do drugs/have sex this year and i really don't like it. They are gonna screw up they're life soo bad but theres many of them and only one of me. It seems like everybody does something now. I know im never going to do those things (eventually but not now) and i kinda feel left out. Theyre always saying how they got so wasted and hooked up with all these guys haha but i dont think thats funny. I feel like i have nothing in common with them anymore. What should i do?
I have the exact same problem.
People on here are going to try to tell you, "Get new friends." I hate when people say that. It is not easy to change friends, and you probably still like your friends, you just don't like what they're doing. You shouldn't ditch your friends completely. Just because they do drugs and all of that stuff, doesn't necessarily mean that they're bad people. You can still be friends with them at school, or maybe a public place like a resturant or a mall. Try to avoid uncomfortable situations, like going over to a friend's house or hanging out anywhere private where they could do drugs.
You're completely right. It's not funny, it's actually pretty pathetic. And let me tell you, ALL of my friends do that too. I feel like such a loser sometimes, but hey, I kind of WANT all of my brain cells. You know?
You should never feel like you have to do what your friends are doing. But you also can't try to change them either. People are going to do what they want to do, no matter what you tell them. You could tell them about all the horrible things that could happen to them in the future, but they still wouldn't care. The most important thing is that you know who you are, and that you know what you want to do. If you're not into drinking, drugs, and hooking up, then avoid situations where you feel like you might have to.
For me, I NEVER hang out with my friends outside of school, because I know that all they do is get high. It seems weird, and people would ask, "How can you be friends with these people?" Well, unfortunately a lot of really nice people also happen to be really screwed up. And that's okay because it's their lives, not yours.
If you have to back away from your friends for a little while, that's fine. Some of your friends might decide that, that sort of lifestyle isn't for them. Many people are just trying these things now. Some will get hooked on it, some won't. And you'll find out who did and who didn't in a year or so. As for right now, do the best you can. Friends aren't everything. You should focus yourself on doing well in school or a hobby such as writing, sports, or art. Maybe you could join some clubs at your highschool and meet new people there.
Eventually, you WILL find other people out there that do not drink, smoke, do drugs, or have unmeaningful hook ups. It is a very small number of those people, and I am still looking for them too. But they are out there.
(Rating: 5) thanks alot. i really appreciate you writing all of that out for me. =]