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F/15 ugh high school help
Most of my close friends have started to drink/smoke/do drugs/have sex this year and i really don't like it. They are gonna screw up they're life soo bad but theres many of them and only one of me. It seems like everybody does something now. I know im never going to do those things (eventually but not now) and i kinda feel left out. Theyre always saying how they got so wasted and hooked up with all these guys haha but i dont think thats funny. I feel like i have nothing in common with them anymore. What should i do?
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I loved the "eventually but not now"
Honest answer, you dont really have much in common anymore with them.
Ill give you an anaology, because it is also an addiction and one I encounter much more often. This is going to sound a little ridiculous, but yeah.
World of Warcraft.
This is a video game, that about 7 million people play. I have lost friends to this video game (though I play a bit myself)
I had a group of friends I played with. I eventually stopped doing things with them because all they wanted to talk about was World of Warcraft. They would drive my OTHER friends away beause we would be not playing and all they would talk about was what they wanted to do when they played again. I quit myself for about 4 months just because I was so sick of it.
I dont hang out with them any more. Because this addiction has completely consumed their lives. Its all they do, except when they arent playing and are talking about it instead. Its impossible to have a non WoW conversation with them.
Sometimes, you just have to let go.
Your friend are immature, you are not (comparitively speaking, of course. Since I dont know you personally). Eventually this is going to cause enough problems that its just not worth it.
Even if you begin doing some of the things they do at a later date, it probably wont work very well. Lets say you turn 21 and drink. But you arent someone whos gung ho about it, you just enjoy a few drinks, a pleasant buzz, and thats it. You are responsible.
People who arent responsible will still piss you off, because invariably you end up taking care of their wasted selves.
There is nothing worse than being tipsy amongst wasted people. Id rather be sober, because Im closer to it than where they are and at least if Im sober they recognize that and dont try to get me to act as stupid as they do.
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Don't let what their doing affect you. Stay you and don't let anyone else. You may need to find sum new friends. I know that making new friends isn't always easy but you need to do it. I don't mean condemn your old friends and never speak to them again just don't hang around them as much. You never know what will happen people may start thinking that your doing what they're doing just cause your with them (guilt by association). Just try to stay tru to your standards no matter what your friends are doing. hope i helped
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I have the exact same problem.
People on here are going to try to tell you, "Get new friends." I hate when people say that. It is not easy to change friends, and you probably still like your friends, you just don't like what they're doing. You shouldn't ditch your friends completely. Just because they do drugs and all of that stuff, doesn't necessarily mean that they're bad people. You can still be friends with them at school, or maybe a public place like a resturant or a mall. Try to avoid uncomfortable situations, like going over to a friend's house or hanging out anywhere private where they could do drugs.
You're completely right. It's not funny, it's actually pretty pathetic. And let me tell you, ALL of my friends do that too. I feel like such a loser sometimes, but hey, I kind of WANT all of my brain cells. You know?
You should never feel like you have to do what your friends are doing. But you also can't try to change them either. People are going to do what they want to do, no matter what you tell them. You could tell them about all the horrible things that could happen to them in the future, but they still wouldn't care. The most important thing is that you know who you are, and that you know what you want to do. If you're not into drinking, drugs, and hooking up, then avoid situations where you feel like you might have to.
For me, I NEVER hang out with my friends outside of school, because I know that all they do is get high. It seems weird, and people would ask, "How can you be friends with these people?" Well, unfortunately a lot of really nice people also happen to be really screwed up. And that's okay because it's their lives, not yours.
If you have to back away from your friends for a little while, that's fine. Some of your friends might decide that, that sort of lifestyle isn't for them. Many people are just trying these things now. Some will get hooked on it, some won't. And you'll find out who did and who didn't in a year or so. As for right now, do the best you can. Friends aren't everything. You should focus yourself on doing well in school or a hobby such as writing, sports, or art. Maybe you could join some clubs at your highschool and meet new people there.
Eventually, you WILL find other people out there that do not drink, smoke, do drugs, or have unmeaningful hook ups. It is a very small number of those people, and I am still looking for them too. But they are out there.
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ok well u need to find a new group of friends becasue they're just trouble.. and one day they might get u in trouble.. so yah.. i hope i helped..
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What I would do? If you aren't into it, and you don't like what they're going tell them to stop. Or, better yet, find new friends.
Sorry, hun.
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