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Okay.... I have a big question and I dont know what to do.. sooo.. Okay. My mom has this problem that she wont let me date anyone thats 16 and older. I am 14 right now. I was melested when I was 12 by my brothers friend who was 18 at the time. So my mom is paranoid about me having older boyfriends. I think she needs to get through her mind that not ALL guys are the same. She thinks that older guys are more "experienced". So there is this guy. I told my mom alooot about him and I told her that he was a sophmore and he was 15. But then I found out that he was 16!! And like an idiot I told my mom. Now... I like him sooooo much!!!!!!!! He wants to ask me out. What should I say? I like him alot but the thing is is that Ill have to keep it a secret from my mom.

He sounds nice and he could be okay...but you never know about these kinds of guys. I think its okay to have a boyfriend whose like a year older than you. But alot of tims boys do try to date younger girls since they are 'less experienced" and would do whatever the guy told them too. Alot of girls feel "cooler" going out with an older guy which is why guys prefer younger girls rather than older girls or girls their age. But there are those rare older boys who are genuinely good people. I think you should talk to your mom. Tell her that you are fourteen, youre older than when you got molested, and youre wiser. This 16 year old boy you like is NOT the kid who molested you, hes a whole different person and he desserves a chance. Ask your mom if you can hang out with him in a group of friends and then see how he acts with you and I think you are old enough to tell whats right from wrong from there. :)

~Johanna

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(Rating: 5) Thanx alot! You really helped
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