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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

recently my friend's little sister died..2 years old and got strangled while trying to get out of her crib.. She got caught or something i'm not really sure how..But she asked me why would God ever EVER take a 2 year old girl away?

And i have no idea could any of you guys help me out on answering this question

God doesn't cause bad things to happen. He causes good things to happen.

It's the devil that causes bad things like this to happen.

And yes, God probably did have the power to stop this. But none of us understand him completely. We just have to trust that what does happen to us is all part of his plan.

Tell your friend that I'm sorry for her loss and for her family's loss.

--Jack
(16/m)

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hi. i asked you the qustion about the ex boyfriend who texted me then didnt respond. anyway you said to try calling him but after we broke up i tried talking to him and he would always get off quickly or ignore the call! im afraid if i call him he will ignore the call and think im being pathetic by trying to talk to him again. should i still try and call?

Sure, why not?

You really have nothing to lose.

And really, who cares what he thinks?

--Jack
(16/m)

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so, im going to high school after this summer, and I just got my timetable, and i showed it to my parents to tell them that i got all my favorite electives and classes and such, and they started bitching on and on and on about how its a weak and poor school system if we only have math and PE for one semester instead of the whole year. I can't come up with any good arguments against what they are saying. Can anybody help me with this please?

Tell them that what your school system does is NOT under your control.

Tell them that if they want to get things like that changed, they should go to the school board and appeal it.

--Jack
(16/m)

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does sex take your virginity like tampons?

can someone tell if you had sex?

Inserting a tampon does not take away your virginity. Having sex does, though.

Doctors can tell if you've had sex, but the general public usually can't. It depends on the person's experience with that type of stuff.

For more information on stuff of this nature- visit this website:

www.coolnurse.com

--Jack
(16/m)

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16/f I'm a writer it's what I do it's who I am. I've been so sick of reading the cliche teen books out there and I want another opinion. Recently there has been this idea in my head for a story after I threw away this novel that I bought and realized it was just like every other girl-meets-boys-falls-in-love-and-defies-all-odds/saves the world. I would like to ask anyone who would help me out: What is something that you've been rolling your eyes about and wish would change in the current teen stories that you see on about 20 bookshelves at Borders. I want to break the mold and if I have to ask every teenager out there what they want, I will.

Thanks,
Quincy

I'm so delighted [ha! funny word =)] that you're a writer. I myself am sort of one. I've started two novels, and I'm only about 2 chapters into both of them, but it's a process, eh?

Anyway- I wish novels wouldn't be so cliché like you said. It's always about love and about how everything goes right for the characters.

I would really like to see damage and destruction in the characters' lives. That's kind of what I do for my stories. I think killing off the main character in a meaningful way is VERY effective and I don't see it done often.

Then again- I don't want to read about depression and drug abuse and whatnot [that's in all teenage novels, too]. I just want everything to NOT always be okay with the characters. Like their best friend dies or something realistic and meaningful.

I would really enjoy reading some of your stuff if you don't mind =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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uggh;;
well i honestly dont think im unattractive
and i kno guys dont think im ugly
but at my age all guys want is ass
and im not going to be a whore
and give it to them
are there other things
that guys look for
besides whether or not
they're gunna get some!?

pleeease help me
im getting sick of being single
[it would be great if i could get some guy's thoughts on this]

alrighteyy thanks =]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:

First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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I always change my profile to different quotes about my boyfriend who is amazing..

But now basically I have run out of quotes, I have looked at wittyprofiles.com and xanga. For example right now my profile says


people always say that you only fall in love once,
but everytime I talk to you I fall in love all over again.

Any other websites, love quotes, specific xanga pages with good quotes?

thanks a tonn

http://www.1-love-quotes.com/

http://library.lovingyou.com/quotes/

http://library.lovingyou.com/quotes/

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/lovequotes.shtml


only search advicenators.com


I just did that search and found a few sites. If you want specific quotes- I'll find some- just ask in feedback.

--Jack
(16/m)

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how can I sing better?

My friend Amy on here actually has a website she started about this:

http://www.geocities.com/singingtips/sing.html

She has a lot of useful tips =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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So i was just wondering in general...Is it okay to go out with someone who isn't that great looking but is still attractive because of he's body etc. And also because he's personality is great?

I mean..well i'm just afraid if i might find the person un attractive due to he's looks while going out with him.. and that would not a be fun to deal with.
The thing is like he used to like me and i had NO IDEA~ i thought of him as a friend but now days i find him more and more attractive..grrr how can i tell if he STILL likes me..we got into this little argument(this was before i knew he liked me) and it was because i was going out with this other guy and i was being a bitch and ignoring him..sigh* But he's not as talkative to me On AIM but in real life he's still talkatvie..he asked for a high five just earlier and we kinda just held hands for a moment in the air like legit 5 secs and let go.I DON't kow how to tell if he still likes me :P

*SIGH*

questions:

1.Should i give him a chance?
2.He's from church..would that not be a good idea?
3.How do i know if he's still interested?

Thanks :D

-serenity

1. Yes- you should give him a chance. SO WHAT if he's not very attractive. You said he has a good personality- and sometimes that's hard to come by these days...

2. I don't see what's wrong with that. If anything- that makes him a better person because it's showing that he goes to church and he has morals ;]

3. Guys are interested when:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!

Some other useful links:
http://teenies674.tripod.com/id18.html

http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

--Jack
(16/m)

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months,and he has never asked me for sex, until now. I want to have sex with him too, but I'm nervous. Anyways, he's not putting a lot of pressure on me, he said its perfectly fine if I don't do it, so I don't really feel that obligated to do it if I don't want to. I just...don't know. I do want to. I'd feel comfortable doing it with him. Idk maybe i'm crazy, but he's had A LOT of girlfriends and he didn't have sex with any of them except one girl who he might not even have been dating and it was just a big mistake, so maybe he thinks it would really mean something with me. Eeep, what to do? Should I tell him that I want to, and that maybe later on in our relationship i'll feel more comfortable? Idk what to tell him?

The fact that you're doubting yourself by asking this question here tells me that you shouldn't. ANY time you have doubts about something like this, it means there's uncertainty, and you're not 100% confident in yourself.

I say, for now, you shouldn't do it. You said he isn't pressuring you, so he should be okay with you saying no for a little while longer.

DO NOT have sex unless you are 100% sure you are ready and are ready to face the consequences that can come along with sex. If you are 100% sure you're ready to face that- then go right ahead.

Remember- always use protection so you don't contract an STD ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I was with my boyfriend and i sat on top of him facing him and my legs spread apart so his crotch area was basically touching mine except he wore pants and boxers and i had a skirt on and i wore underwear.he got a boner and then we were just talking when i looked down again his pants were wet in that area... and so i went to the bathroom and noticed that my underwear was slightly wet too.. did he like cum? could i be pregnant? my period is late...

The chances are really slim, but since you said your underwear was "slightly wet", there may be an issue.

If you want to know for sure- wait a few days and take a pregnancy test. You should be fine, but I'm not guaranteeing anything.

This site will answer all of your questions and more:

http://www.coolnurse.com

--Jack
(16/m)

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Im 14 years old, im 5'9, and i weigh 167 at the most. usually around 163-165 my weight goes up and down.

but i was wondering if that was an unhealthy weight? like overweight?

thank you :D
-kenzie

Hello!

According to http://www.am-i-fat.com/, your BMI [Body Mass Index] is 24, and it says this:

Hmm..Marginal! Watch your diet - more exercise needed!


It's not unhealthy, but if you want to get it down a little more, exercise and eat right. DON'T skip meals ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay well i like this guy who funny and def outgoing
well i was wondering what that type of guy looks for in a girl?

thanks :]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:

The best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].




I can add more if you need it =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Well one of his friends, spent time with him yesterday. Forced him to eat, yet he threw up. So I'm assuming he had some sort of fun yesterday. I told him I saw this cake on tuesday, that reminded me of him then i though "mmm that would make him happy, mmm..hes probably not gonna be eating for a while..ill get it when he feels better..and ill shove some in his face.." i rold him about the cake..and warned him he is getting cake in his face when he feels better. i got some sort of idea to burn old school music, from when we were younger. but currently my computer wont allow me to burn CD's but ill find a way.. heh.

thanks =]

Glad to hear it!

If you want to chat more about it- check out my forum- the link is in my column =]

If you have more questions- post in my inbox. I'm more than happy to help =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay this is may sound confusing.
my friend and i were best friends all last year. i started to like him, we were open about it. he understood i didnt want to like him that way..and we put it to the side and didnt make of a big deal about it. last august, i realized i became in love with him.. again i was open to him about it, and he helped me and i felt comfortable about it. late november, he started dating this girl, he liked for the longest time. all was well.. the 2 of us, we had a rocky friendship and realized we needed space, we weren't friends really from mid-late feb till the 1st of june, though for 2 1/2 weeks in march we became friends and then went back to not being friends.. we still stood by each other, helped each other at school functions and i cheered him up on his birthday when he was sick, and his gf was on a cruise..i couldnt just ignore the fact that he was sick when he is never sick..and just happened to be on his birthday. anyways, we have been friends for 3 weeks now..and everything is great, just friends..no best friends no serious talks no nothing..just having fun getting to know each other. last week, his girlfriend broke up with him, and he fell into this depression, i could tell he was truly inlove with her from the start, he has never been so happy in the year ive known him...anyways, he was suppose to come over last tuesday as friends to hang out, yet didnt because he wanted to be left alone, i understood that part so i accepted it didnt take it personally.
he lives a little over a mile and half away. when i found they broke up, i thought to myself "i should find some sort of card, not sign it and mail it to him"..friday my friend and i had an hour to kill after a movie, so we went and searched for the perfect card, then on the way home i asked my father to take a detour past his house to double check the house number.. then i realized thats just a waste i should just drop it off right then and there.. i wrote his name on the envelope..and then realized he knows my hand writing, so my friends wrote it out "you love purple, we love you. smile because we care"...sealed it and i stuck it in his mailbox. the next day he said thanks for the card, it really made me laugh. i asked him how he knew i had something to do with it, he said he just knew. then he said it was the hand writing..and im like envelope or the card? he said both..and i told him i only wrote the envelope. anyways, i couldnt help but to smile for 2 hours after he told me it made him laugh. im trying to find other ways to get him to laugh and feel better, though i know he doesnt want to go and etc..any ideas on what i could do?

Hello!

I think the card was a good idea, kudos to you =].

I think you should go over his house or something and force [don't take that literally] him out of his house so that he's not sulking. Cooping himself up in his house isn't good for him.

Take him to a movie, or to the park, or something. If you can't get him out of his house- stay with him and tell a bogus story that you make up on the spot about something you did. Or make up a joke. Tell jokes. Anything!

The sky is the limit when it comes to things like this.

Let me know if you need more ideas ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I think I have a problem with wanting attention. I texted this guy that I work with earlier last night and he knew that I was going to a party. And I did…but last night I had this dream where I was at the same party and I was closing my car door and the sharp part made a huge gash in my arm…and I didn’t notice it and went back inside and kept drinking. And then someone noticed it and made a big deal out of it and I was like “I didn’t even know that happened…” But then I was thinking…huh…I wonder what (the guy I work with) would say if I came into work and had that gash on my arm. I’m supposed to work with him today.

So without thinking about it I just took a razor blade and made a giant gash on my arm. I think I lack impulse control. Haha. But I think I have a problem with lying too. Cuz if he did say something I was literally planning on saying “I didn’t even know it happened” Like…I planned that out in the matter of seconds it took me to pick up the blade and cut my arm. I tend to do that a lot. Not cut my arm, but lie to get attention. And I don’t like preplan it. It’ll just happen in the middle of a conversation. But sometimes…when I don’t think before I say something…I end up saying something completely absurd. Like…not like it could never happen absurd…the stuff I say is completely believable…but like I’m thinking at the end of the conversation “I just BS’d my entire way through that conversation.” And it gets to the point that I have to filter myself when I’m telling the truth to certain people so that I don’t get caught in other lies.

How do I stop myself from lying on an impulse?

I'm not really sure how to answer this, so I'll just say one thing before I give a bunch of links and pull things from them that seem important...

Whether you're going to lie or not- don't VOLUNTARILY hurt yourself. That's probably not the smartest thing you can do, which I'm sure you realize by now...


Link 1: http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Lying

From there:
1. Don't over promise. Many lies feel necessary because you've gotten yourself into a situation and you don't know how to get out of it. You can start by not over committing yourself with other people. Only promise what you can realistically do.
2. Don't make up too many rules for yourself. If you set yourself up by trying to be perfect, you will feel like you're failing and feel like you have to lie. Instead of "I am never going to be late for school again", try "I intend to stop being late as much as I reasonably can."
3. Talk to others about what you can realistically do. Are others making you stick to rules that aren't realistic? Many times parents, teachers, employers, boyfriends or girlfriends box us into a corner by making us follow their strict rules. If you are in such a situation, you will find that you are lying because you can't possibly live up to their expectations. You may not be entirely successful - sometimes you can't change your parent's ideas, but you can acknowledge to yourself that their expectation is ridiculous.
4. Make sure your heart is in what you are doing. If not, try to find a way to make it so. You have to stay in school, so find something that you really are interested in. You need to have a job - find ways that you can enjoy some aspect of what you do.
5. Don't be so hard on yourself. When you find yourself telling a lie, check it out first. Why did you? What was it you were trying to hide? Is there a way you can be yourself instead? Recognize the situations you tend to lie in, and start practicing just telling the truth.
6. Consider the consequences of a major lie. Coming out and admitting your mistake can make a world of difference, and sometimes the worst price is your self-esteem. That you can recover. If you can't do it, try a middle ground. Write a letter to yourself admitting what happened. Find a counselor who can listen to you and advise you. Getting it out of your head is the most important step toward stopping your torture.


Link 2: http://searchwarp.com/swa35375.htm

Follow These Seven Steps To Stop Lying

1) You cannot stop lying if you have not admitted to yourself that you have. Staying in denial state of mind only prolongs your pain and reinforces behaviors that make you unhappy with yourself. Therefore - admit and accept responsibility.

2) Make a list of all the resources you already know that works for you. List the strategies that have worked for you in the past, in all areas of your life, to achieve any type of goal. (For example: I stay motivated by listening to motivational tapes and reading books.)

3) Keep a list of your lying slips - the times you fall of the wagon. Ask yourself: "Hey, what happened? (For example: I was feeling insecure about my actions, so I lied , because it make me feel better.)

4) List the reasons why your lying did not address your problem. Ask yourself: "What didn't work here? Why not?" ( Example: Lying did not make me feel better in fact it made me feel worse about myself - later.)

If you can learn as much as you can from one lie, then the next lie isn't quite so traumatic. Remember, it's more important to think of progress rather than perfection.

Or past lies and behaviors are only information. Use it to correct and improve your present and your future. I read somewhere, "If life is worth living it's worth recording."

5) Invest in an expensive diary and start recording your actions. Record your reasons for lying. And start a dialogue with yourself.

6) Recording your actions make you aware. And you need to develop the skills of awareness. You may be too critical of your self. Are you? When you tried to stop lying for one day and you failed, do you feel guilty? Do you play the negative images repeatedly in your mind?

Remember: you are not your behavior. When you feel bad and find fault with yourself, you empower your lying habit. The best solution is to become aware of the lie, disassociate yourself from it - because you are not your behavior - and record how it made you feel.

7) The next step is to become an effective risk taker, because progress in life is always going to involve risk. I had many fears and bad habits and I knew I had to take action.

For example, that's why I confronted my fear of heights and I Bungy jumped 110 meters from a bridge over the Zambezi river. What I have learned is to be in control of my destiny. And my destiny was limited by my fear. Not anymore!

I (you) must be willing to become and actor. Not a reactor.
Even if you believe you cannot do it… just act as though you can - because from acting comes action and from repeated action comes believe.





Alright- I think that's enough. I think those two are really helpful, and if they aren't, I'll try to be less lazy and think of something myself ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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My ex boyfriend kills me! my broke up because i was moving. we had one of the worst breakups EVER. we broke up 2 months before i moved and in that two months he avoided me and was just horrible all because he was trying to hide his pain and was afraid. we finally made up and said goodbye (including frenching a couple times) and then he texted me and i was so happy because i thought we could be friends but then when i responded (like a day later cause i wasnt allowed when i got the text) he wouldnt respond!! then i finally moved and when i moved i was OK. i moved on and didnt even think about him much or anything. i havent seen him for about 3 weeks now. then i got really sick and was in the hospital and i have to get surgery and stuff and my really good friend is dating his older brother (who im also friends with) and so his brother told him. he and i had truly loved each other so im assuming he cared and was worried. so he texted me. i texted him like 4 different times after but he didnt respond. AGAIN. and having contact with him again REEEALLY messed me up. after saying goodbye i was good but then with these random texts i get messed up again. idk just can you tell me what you think??

I think you shouldn't be so quick to assume that he's ignoring you. [Sorry that came off rather snippy...] Sometimes people have problems with their phones, and maybe he hasn't been receiving your text messages.

What I would do is this:
1. Call him. Don't text him. You can't be sure that he's receiving your texts.
2. Ask him [politely] what is up, and if he's been receiving your texts.
3. If he hasn't, suggest that he get his phone checked or fixed or something.
4. Chat for a bit, maybe? That is, if you feel it appropriate.
5. Relax. Everything will be okay =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Thank you for answering my question about asking my mom for birth control :) I wanted to ask you a personal question, why do you want to be single until college?

Haha- no problem I'm more than happy to help you =].

The reason I want to be single until college is because I've just been through stupid break-ups and it isn't worth my time to repeat the process again.

Basically every time I think that I'm with a nice girl, it turns out they are not what I thought they were. I'm not saying I hate them or anything. I think both of my two ex girlfriends and I have come to a sort of truce, and nothing more needs to be said.

My last one was because I had made it clear that I didn't want to do much more than hug, because I'm sort of a prude, and I really wanted to focus on school and whatnot. [Mainly I was a prude because of what happened with my previous ex girlfriend] Anyway- she respected that for awhile, and I was really enjoying it. Then she started to push me to kiss her and whatnot, which I guess was understandable. Then one time she started making out with me and it was just really awkward for both of us and I just told her I couldn't do that. We broke up a few days later. No hard feelings, though. Really.

Sorry to bore you with my story!

Anyway- if you would like to chat- I encourage you to visit my forum. The link is on my advice column and we talk about really interesting things some times =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok um my look
i think ruins my love lifee..
I dont know what to dooo!!!
with my hair...clothess..facee.
helppp?
Pics:
http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=hairup.jpg

http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=BOWWYY.jpg

http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=Sleepover5.jpg

I looked at your pictures, and honestly you're not bad looking at all.

If you try to change yourself, it's just going to end badly. Guys don't like girls plastered with make up or all in a bunch of prissy clothes.

BE YOURSELF. That's the best advice I could ever give you. If you're confident in who you are, you will attract more guys than you'd ever believe.

Do as you normally do, in terms of makeup, clothes, etc. It's absolutely fine whatever you're doing.

If you change something about yourself, like your makeup or whatever- and a bunch of guys fall in love with you or whatever, they will be falling for something that isn't YOU. So my point is that you need to just be yourself and don't worry about it. Dating is just a waste of time in my opinion, at least in the teenage years, because we get with someone, and then we find something about them that is odd or strange that we don't like, and we break up with them. Then we repeat the process.

You have your entire life ahead of you to date. Don't feel a tremendous rush to do so right now.

--Jack
(16/m)

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what are some flirting tips that guys really find cute and attractive?

*please don't say be yourself and it's different for different guys.i already no that i just want some tips =]*

thanks =]

Hey.

Here's a few questions that I've answered before that may help you:

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].




Now I'll just add some other flirting tips that I've found work:

1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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