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cheering up
okay this is may sound confusing.
my friend and i were best friends all last year. i started to like him, we were open about it. he understood i didnt want to like him that way..and we put it to the side and didnt make of a big deal about it. last august, i realized i became in love with him.. again i was open to him about it, and he helped me and i felt comfortable about it. late november, he started dating this girl, he liked for the longest time. all was well.. the 2 of us, we had a rocky friendship and realized we needed space, we weren't friends really from mid-late feb till the 1st of june, though for 2 1/2 weeks in march we became friends and then went back to not being friends.. we still stood by each other, helped each other at school functions and i cheered him up on his birthday when he was sick, and his gf was on a cruise..i couldnt just ignore the fact that he was sick when he is never sick..and just happened to be on his birthday. anyways, we have been friends for 3 weeks now..and everything is great, just friends..no best friends no serious talks no nothing..just having fun getting to know each other. last week, his girlfriend broke up with him, and he fell into this depression, i could tell he was truly inlove with her from the start, he has never been so happy in the year ive known him...anyways, he was suppose to come over last tuesday as friends to hang out, yet didnt because he wanted to be left alone, i understood that part so i accepted it didnt take it personally.
he lives a little over a mile and half away. when i found they broke up, i thought to myself "i should find some sort of card, not sign it and mail it to him"..friday my friend and i had an hour to kill after a movie, so we went and searched for the perfect card, then on the way home i asked my father to take a detour past his house to double check the house number.. then i realized thats just a waste i should just drop it off right then and there.. i wrote his name on the envelope..and then realized he knows my hand writing, so my friends wrote it out "you love purple, we love you. smile because we care"...sealed it and i stuck it in his mailbox. the next day he said thanks for the card, it really made me laugh. i asked him how he knew i had something to do with it, he said he just knew. then he said it was the hand writing..and im like envelope or the card? he said both..and i told him i only wrote the envelope. anyways, i couldnt help but to smile for 2 hours after he told me it made him laugh. im trying to find other ways to get him to laugh and feel better, though i know he doesnt want to go and etc..any ideas on what i could do?
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Well he is going to be sad for a while, you cant really help, that but he does need to get out and do some things. The more he gets out and socializes then the faster he will get over it because he wont have his mind on it all the time. You might ask him if he wants to go catch a movie thats a comedy, and make sure its in a group so he dosent feel like your trying to hook up with him, Im not really sure what to do to make him laugh but just little things that will make him smile will help, and maybe if the girl really still likes him they will get back together and that would be great for him, but I dont know why they broke up so I cant say if that is even a possibility. But At first he is most likly going to turn down all invites to go out but if you keep asking him he most likely will come to do something, and that will be good on him just to get out once then he will realize that it does no good sitting at home doing nothing. I hope this helps a little bit but good luck with helping him get over things!!!
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Hello!
I think the card was a good idea, kudos to you =].
I think you should go over his house or something and force [don't take that literally] him out of his house so that he's not sulking. Cooping himself up in his house isn't good for him.
Take him to a movie, or to the park, or something. If you can't get him out of his house- stay with him and tell a bogus story that you make up on the spot about something you did. Or make up a joke. Tell jokes. Anything!
The sky is the limit when it comes to things like this.
Let me know if you need more ideas ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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