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I need help..once again about a boy :P
So i was just wondering in general...Is it okay to go out with someone who isn't that great looking but is still attractive because of he's body etc. And also because he's personality is great?
I mean..well i'm just afraid if i might find the person un attractive due to he's looks while going out with him.. and that would not a be fun to deal with.
The thing is like he used to like me and i had NO IDEA~ i thought of him as a friend but now days i find him more and more attractive..grrr how can i tell if he STILL likes me..we got into this little argument(this was before i knew he liked me) and it was because i was going out with this other guy and i was being a bitch and ignoring him..sigh* But he's not as talkative to me On AIM but in real life he's still talkatvie..he asked for a high five just earlier and we kinda just held hands for a moment in the air like legit 5 secs and let go.I DON't kow how to tell if he still likes me :P
*SIGH*
questions:
1.Should i give him a chance?
2.He's from church..would that not be a good idea?
3.How do i know if he's still interested?
Thanks :D
-serenity
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hey he sounds like a good guy to me date em looks aint everything trust me...
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Beauty is not external, it's internal. So, looks should never be a factor in making a decision to be involved with someone or to like someone or not. Qualities in determing that you should consider someone as a boyfriend or not, are based on honesty, truthfulness (these aren't the same thing- most people say they are, but they aren't), respectfulness, goals in life, mental stability, gentlessness, personality, interests, hobbies, drug free, encouraging, supportive, beliefs, common bond based on having the same things in common, so that you don't lose who you are trying to become what he is, and how he treats his mom - there are other things too but these are basics, most importantly: that you are friends first so that you already know each other more than a complete stranger, not how they look. I am real and I can understand what it is to be attracted to someone, or having the desire but trust me, once you ignore outter and learn that person's inner, they become the most beautiful person in the world and the outter becomes no factor at all.
You already know if he still likes you or not, because we as women have this thing called intuition and it's real: trust it. If your soul tells you he still has interest in you, he does. Now, just follow up on it and see what's up with it. Tell him that you like him and that you would like to get to know him better. Tell him the things that you like about him and the things you want to know about him in order to like him more and then ask him his feelings about you and what you just told him. I am sure he smiles, winks, blushes, looks off, all boys are different which means that you can't base certain signs on if he likes you or not because all people are different some show it in different ways and some don't show it at all, which is why it is going to take some conversation to confirm your opinion on if he likes you or not. I am willing to bet that he does like you still!
The church thing is great - having the same beliefs are important and will take you a long way if this is your goal and his goal. I think it's a great idea that he is from church! that's actually a plus!!
If you like him and want to hook up with him step up to the plate, girl and let him know what's up with you and where you want to take this thing! Have fun, be cautious and mature, and enjoy your life! Good Luck
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I definitely think you should give him a chance. I mean, you said you are finding him more and more attractive these days, so that's probably not an issue.
As far as the Church thing goes, I see no problem with that either. Church would be a good thing to have in common with a person, and would be a place you could socialize with him more.
You could start by flirting with him subtly, and see how he reacts. (cute little jestures towards him, kinda lightly poke fun at him but in a flirty way, which means nothing truly offensive.) If subtle is not his thing, (like most guys :P) don't give up. he's probably just not getting it. try a little harder, but not too hard. Got it? :)
good luck!
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1. Yes- you should give him a chance. SO WHAT if he's not very attractive. You said he has a good personality- and sometimes that's hard to come by these days...
2. I don't see what's wrong with that. If anything- that makes him a better person because it's showing that he goes to church and he has morals ;]
3. Guys are interested when:
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I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!
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--Jack
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