I'm a nice girl. I love to help people, and I will answer any question you ask to the best of my ability. Just so ya know...I have two babies (not kids, silly...dogs!) Sophie and Bruiser, and they are my life, so if you have any questions about dogs or anything, I got ya! I love to sing, I am planning a career out of it and I hope to someday be famous. If not for singing, for helping someone. I am very much in love, but I've been through the ringer when it comes to relationships, so I am fairly good at answering love related questions. But, I've found the guy I want to spend forevers with and I'm happy. Yup yup...looks like I'm done here.
Gender: Female
Location: Nowhere, Oklahoma
Occupation: dont have a paying job...lol
Age: 16
Member Since: June 22, 2007
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Last Update: February 16, 2012
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I was with my cousin today hes 18 and he was touching in the wrong places. I told him to stop, but he said that he knows I like it. Now I feel really dirty what should i do. (link)
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You need to tell an adult that you trust. You did absolutely nothing wrong, he is a sick person. No one should ever put you in that position! Please, please tell an adult! Big hugs!! Let me know if there's ever anything you need to talk about! you can email me at speedlebug@yahoo.com, promise I will reply!
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Im 17 and I recently found out I was pregnanedt I want to tell my family but im scared. My boyfriend already knows and he told me not to worry he'll take care of both of us he really is a a great guy but I was wondering how do I just tell my parents because im not confortable with talkin to them about certain things like sec and subjects related to it I guess thats how I got into this in the first place I just want the best answers to tell my family that im pregnant. Please and thanks for the help. (link)
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It's going to be really hard. Maybe pick the parent you are closest with and sit down and talk to them about it. Be honest. Just say you really don't know how to tell them this, but that you are pregnant. They might go off over it for a while. Just let them vent. They are probably going to be upset, but more than likely that will wear off and they will start to get excited about having a grandchild. Good luck, girl! I wish you the best :)
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I have been with my boyfriend a little over three years. We love each other more than anything, and I know this. But since it's been so long, the "infatuation phase" (c/o of John Legend [; ) has sort of passed. Of course we're still affeectionate and cute sometimes, but sometimes I feel like I try much harder than him to keep that little spark alive- and by spark, I mean the cutesy stuff, like silly mushy messages now and then, sending songs that remind us of the other, etc. I do all these things and he normally does not, whereas in the beginning of our relationship he did.
Basically, is it okay that the small, silly things we used to do so often have become uncommon and we've gone into more of a comfort phase? We still do cute things occasionally, but now it's more of a "spending-time-with-each-other-is-enough". I just sometimes wonder if it will be enough to make us last as long as I'd like (forever). I mean, it's obvious married couples aren't always super lovey-dovey. So this is normal, right? I'd simply appreciate some advice/opinions (: (link)
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well, this is just my opinion, because i haven't been in my relationship as long as you have (1 1/2 years). but i understand where you are coming from. i think its okay that the cutesy stuff isnt so common. because, then when it does happen its so much more meaningful.
but maybe you could kind of kickstart his memory by reminding him of how much you love it when he does those things? i mean, if he doesn't figure it out on his own :)
hope i helped!
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What is phone sex? Obviously there aren't phone stds.. haha. But, what is it? (link)
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haha. no, there are no phone std's.
it's basically just telling the person you are talking to what you would do with them, as in sexual favors, and them doing it in return while you both..um..pleasure yourselves.
i think the idea kinda sounds stupid, but to each their own i guess...:)
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what do you do when you're with a guy you love & who it would hurt to lose, but see yourself with the one you're IN love with, forever. the one you're in love with is in love with you too and wants to be with you again, but is also in a pickle because he LIKES someone else. when do you know what's right?
the one im with? he's great, and i do love him alot, and want to be with him.
the other one? i honestly think we're made to be together, i can honestly see myself with him my whole life, and i dont want to lose him. however, he has stuck around for almost 8 months after the breakup because of his feelings for me.
i dont even know where to start. (link)
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if you both love each other, you should be with each other. also, its not fair for either of your significant others for you to feel that way while being with them. it's much better to let them know now than to let the situation drag on and on. because then things will get much worse.
hope that made sense...lol
good luck! :)
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14/f.
There's red bumps like all around and on my vag, and i haven't had sex or anything, and when i shave, like they bleed. wtf is ittt. (link)
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sounds like an irritation. it can come from shaving, and i honestly have no idea how to keep from it. but a lot of girls get them and its probably nothing to worry about. especially since you havent had sex. although, any form of sexual contact in that area (oral, fingers, etc.) could be an issue. but i think it's probably just a minor skin irritation.
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this question doesnt go under this category but i really need an answer so please?
ok um my look
i think ruins my love lifee..
I dont know what to dooo!!!
with my hair...clothess..facee.
helppp?
Pics:
http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=hairup.jpg
http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=BOWWYY.jpg
http://s290.photobucket.com/albums/ll268/omglove12344/?action=view¤t=Sleepover5.jpg
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I think you're very pretty.
I see no reason for it to ruin your love life. lol
But you wanted advice about this. so:
hair:
-try having it cut a little shorter, and have it rrazor cut, which basically just gives it a cute, edgy look.
-another thing is, you could put your part to one side. it's really cute on most people, but then again, it might not be your thing. hard to say.
-add volume by blow drying it upside down with just a light mist of hairspray all over.
your hair looks really healthy, by the way. :)
makeup:
-probably just powder and mascara, and a little gloss or chapstick from like bonnebell or something. nothing too drastic. and i wouldnt use a lot of eyeliner, because your eyes are absolutely gorgeous and lots of eyeliner will make them look smaller. but a little bit wouldnt hurt. if you wanna use it, only do the outside to about the middle.
-pink or mauve eyeshadow is gonna make your eyecolor pop. or, a brown and mauve would look pretty, too.
clothes are pretty much up to you and your style.
if you're a jeans kinda girl...just make sure they fit right and show off your best assets.
Also, seventeen magazine has really cool ideas for clothes to fit your body type...so ya might try that.
Good luck!!
xOxO
eskimo
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So i was just wondering in general...Is it okay to go out with someone who isn't that great looking but is still attractive because of he's body etc. And also because he's personality is great?
I mean..well i'm just afraid if i might find the person un attractive due to he's looks while going out with him.. and that would not a be fun to deal with.
The thing is like he used to like me and i had NO IDEA~ i thought of him as a friend but now days i find him more and more attractive..grrr how can i tell if he STILL likes me..we got into this little argument(this was before i knew he liked me) and it was because i was going out with this other guy and i was being a bitch and ignoring him..sigh* But he's not as talkative to me On AIM but in real life he's still talkatvie..he asked for a high five just earlier and we kinda just held hands for a moment in the air like legit 5 secs and let go.I DON't kow how to tell if he still likes me :P
*SIGH*
questions:
1.Should i give him a chance?
2.He's from church..would that not be a good idea?
3.How do i know if he's still interested?
Thanks :D
-serenity
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I definitely think you should give him a chance. I mean, you said you are finding him more and more attractive these days, so that's probably not an issue.
As far as the Church thing goes, I see no problem with that either. Church would be a good thing to have in common with a person, and would be a place you could socialize with him more.
You could start by flirting with him subtly, and see how he reacts. (cute little jestures towards him, kinda lightly poke fun at him but in a flirty way, which means nothing truly offensive.) If subtle is not his thing, (like most guys :P) don't give up. he's probably just not getting it. try a little harder, but not too hard. Got it? :)
good luck!
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What do you do at Singing lessons. I'm taking a bigginers class, and i'm REALLY nervous!
Any advice is apprecheated.
What should i bring?
What do we do? (link)
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If the lessons are one on one with a vocal coach, you'll more than likely just sing scales and things to get your teacher acquainted with your voice and your range. You should probably bring a bottle of water and make sure you don't strain your voice before your first lesson. I took vocal lessons for 3 years and I will tell you this: Do Not get nervous. Your teacher won't laugh at you, they are there to help :). My first lesson I cried...(lol i was 13) But definitely bring water and just have fun! It's a really great thing to do.
Good Luck!
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my girlfriend and i were having unprotected sex, but i pulled out before i came. i washed my penis and peed after, and then we did it again, but i was wondering if there could be any left on my penis from the first time that i came, which would make her pregnant
PLEASE dont give me crap about "you can get pregnant from precum" because it's completely untrue, anybody with google could tell:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0922.html
http://www.corporatemofo.com/stories/021201inandout.htm
http://www.idsnews.com/news/story.aspx?id=33698&comview=1
condoms = 3%
pulling out = 4%
if that's not enough evidence maybe a government website can convince you:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=12762415&query_hl=9&itool=pubmed_docsum
im not an idiot i did research before we did it
please just answer my question and none of the crap about precum because that's what i got on the other advice websites (link)
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Well in order to give sensible advice I have to say there is always a chance of it remaining no matter how many times you washed it, as semen in small amounts is nearly impossible to see. BUT I'd bet that chance is very small. I probably wouldn't worry about it too much and I'm glad you researched it before you made the decision... Smart man. :)
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In the U.S. I know you have to be 18 to buy tickets to see a rated R movie, but at a place like walmart do you have to be 18 to buy a rated R movie? (link)
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It is in Oklahoma. My boyfriend was buying a box of feminine items and an r rated movie and the cashier said "You have to be 18 to buy that" and he told her to return the feminine items...but she meant the movie of course, so if you live in OK, there ya go. But if not, then I have no clue. Sorry.
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Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do? (link)
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Well, honestly, trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend probably isn't the best idea. I mean, look at it this way: When you're trying so hard to be perfect, your boyfriend won't be able to get to know your imperfections. But that's not the answer to your question, right? I think your bf probably notices more than you think he does, it's just guys aren't the best at expressing their appreciation for the little things that you do, or even the big things. I'm almost positive he notices, though, because I thought my boyfriend never noticed the things I did for him, but the other day I got mad (lol) and said "Why don't you ever realize all these things I do to make you happy?" And he said "I do, I just never thought to thank you for them..." So, yeah. Maybe he just never realized he should thank you for doing the things you do for him. Hope I helped! Sorry it was so long...lol :)
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lately, i have been cutting my arm.. because i get really drepressed and, my boyfriend found out. he told me to stop but i cant.. its the only thing that releaves me.
what should i do?
(and im not emo) (link)
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spend as much time as you can with people who have a positive affect on you. Best friends, boyfriend, family and a trusted adult usually do the trick. I had the same problem and my boyfriend almost broke up with me because of it. I ended up re-evaluating what was more important...him, or the razorblade. It was him, hands down. If you absolutely can not quit, i suggest telling an adult you really trust about it, and let them help you find a way to stop. I'm so sorry this is a real problem...and it's a hard thing to end. But I think you are strong enough to do it.
Xo
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I have mono. I have to make an appointment with my family doctor soon, but until then I have a few questions.
Are you able to exercise with mono?? I heard it depends on how you feel, but some people said it could really make me sick. My spleen isn't enlarged yet though.
Would swimming/going out in the sun be a bad idea?? It is very hot out, but I'm not sure how much it would affect me.
Since my spleen isn't enlarged yet & I haven't had the urge to sleep a lot, I don't think my mono is in full swing, but I was diagnosed with it. I did try some google articles, but they weren't really helpful.
Thanks! (link)
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well, I had mono last year and I wasnt aware of it until it was in its full swing, so i kept doing my normal activities (running, dance, and swimming) and it made it a lot worse. I ended up missing 2 straight months of school soo...yeah. I wouldnt put too much strain on your body unless your doctor says you can return to normal activities. Good Luck! And I'm so sorry you have mono it sucks...
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Ok i just got my cats vacinated and 2 (out of 3) are acting all wiered.Like they dont hav an appitite and they aren't grooming themselvs prporly.Oh and they are REALLY grouchy.Is this cuz of the vacsinations? (link)
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yeah it's probably because of the vaccine. Did you take them to the vet to get them or were they given at home? Either way you should schedule a check-up with the veterinarian so they can make sure they weren't allergic to the vaccine and so they can make sure it did its job. :)
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well i'm close with my mom. and i can tell her when my boyfriend and i get into stupid fights or stuff like that. i can talk to her about how to handle those type of situations and get the advice i need. she's not the type that'll tell me what i want to hear, she'll flat out tell me whose wrong in the situation. the only problem is that my boyfriend and i have had a lot of stupid fights and now i don't think my mom likes him very much..he said that all his friends mom's and ex-gfs moms love him and i don't understand why my mom doesn't =( it's like ever since i told her everything she just doesn't trust him or something. i really want her to like him and have trust in him because there is no reason she shouldn't. what should i do? we haven't gotten into stupid fights recently which is really good but i just want my mom to love my boyfriend and i don't know how to do that. he even talks to my mom and hugs her when he sees her & is leaving my house. he's a gentleman she just thinks there's another side to him, but there's not. ughh i need help! (link)
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I was in the same situation. My mom used to love my boyfriend, but once I began asking her for advice on the fights we had, she began to not like/trust him. What I did was I just told her all the good things about him, like when he held the door open for me, and when he surprised me with flowers. All the sweet things he does, so that way when you do have a fight and need advice from your mom she won't be so quick to not like him because she will remember all the good things he does for you and how well he treats her daughter. Worked for me!
Good Luck!
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I'm a cutter, and I have been for over a year.
I'm trying to stop. For the most part its working but I've slipped up now.
I have a very deep cut on my ankle, the spot on the outside where the anklebone juts out. I cut it over a week ago, and its just scabbed[lightly] today.
It has a pulsing feeling, and hurts like heck.
The cut is about an inch long, and fairly thick.
Is it going to be alright?
I can't go to a doctor, because I can't tell my parents. Also, Is there a way to stop the pain??? (link)
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Well, first off...I completely understand your situation. I won't go into any details, because this is about you and not me. But trust me on this...I know all about it.
On the topic of trying to stop: Have you tried using rubberbands on your wrists that you snap against your skin when you have the urge to cut? It's worked before, and it's pretty effective with most cutters.
Now, as for the actual deep cut that you have...the cut could possibly need stiches. Which would mean that you would have to go to a doctor. But before you jump to that conclusion, put a lot of neosporin on it and keep it covered with a bandaid at all times, and don't forget to change them regularly. Wear pants so that your parents won't ask what it is. Take aspirin or tylenol for the pain. But if it is really bad pain and you can't take it anymore, you'll have to tell your parents because it could be serious. What I will tell you is my parents didn't react in the way you would think. They will most likely want to help you out of your situation and they should be understanding. And please try the rubberband thing if you haven't already.
Good Luck!
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i have a really good friend jon. he is one of the hottest guys in the school and pretty nice. i never even dreamed of dating him till just a week ago. i would ask him out but what if he denies and it ruins our friendship. what if we broke up and it did the same thing? and, he has one flaw: he cheats on his girlfriends. he has never had a girlfriend that he hasnt cheated on.
help! thanks for everyones advice. 14/f (link)
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Well, if the problem was only about him being your best friend, I would say go for it. But, with it being also that he is a cheater...I don't think I would risk my heart on it, because being cheated on is probably one of the worst feelings in the world. What do you think made you want to date him so suddenly? Curiosity, maybe? I've been there. But think of what's going to be better for you: not being with this one guy, or getting your heart broken?
Good Luck!
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okay , so my boyfriend && i have been together for almost 4 months . i love him , really , i do . the only thing i don`t like about him is that he does pot . he says he hasn`t done it for like 2 months. but my friends keep telling me "i wouldn`t go out with someone that does drugs , but thats just me" idk what to do because i really like him , but not sure if i wan`t to keep seeing someone that does pot . and btw : he knows i know that he does pot . what should i do ? should i let it all go to waste & break up with be because of pot ?
uhg , (link)
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I was in the same EXACT situation about 2 months ago. I made it very clear to my boyfriend that I didn't appreciate the fact that he did it, so we made a deal: he doesn't talk about it or smoke it in front of me or when he is supposed to be with me, and he doesn't get high right before being with me, and I don't get upset about it. That's what I suggest, because it won't be around you. I'm still with my boyfriend, and I love him SOO much...and it's worked so far without a hitch. But I don't suggest doing it with him.
Good Luck
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Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?
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Well...it sounds like he does like you. But maybe next time when you are having a good conversation online, subtly find a way to start talking about why you don't talk like that in person. Remember, talking online is different than in person because when you are IMing you have a lot of time to consider what you should say and what your next move will be. In person you dont have that time, because if you stood there thinking about what to say...umm...you might come off as weird...haha. But I'd definitely say that he likes you. So, take it easy and don't rush it. He'll come around.
Good Luck!
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