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The Perfect Girlfriend!
Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do?
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Wow... I feel exactly the same way. I'm sorry I just... it's nice to know I'm not the only one that does that.
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Nobody is the "perfect girlfriend or boyfriend." If he really cares about you, your boyfriend will accept you the way you are, imperfections and all.
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Well, honestly, trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend probably isn't the best idea. I mean, look at it this way: When you're trying so hard to be perfect, your boyfriend won't be able to get to know your imperfections. But that's not the answer to your question, right? I think your bf probably notices more than you think he does, it's just guys aren't the best at expressing their appreciation for the little things that you do, or even the big things. I'm almost positive he notices, though, because I thought my boyfriend never noticed the things I did for him, but the other day I got mad (lol) and said "Why don't you ever realize all these things I do to make you happy?" And he said "I do, I just never thought to thank you for them..." So, yeah. Maybe he just never realized he should thank you for doing the things you do for him. Hope I helped! Sorry it was so long...lol :)
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Well there is definetly the possibility that he doesn't realize you want to know that he notices. as guys were really not the greatest at reading emotions and feelings and responding to them in the way that we should. the male and the female way of thinking is very different. it's been shown that while women usually connect alot of issues to emotions men see things as finite. We see our girlfriends being amazing girlfriends too us and we think"wow she's an amazing girlfriend" unfortunetly most of the time thats as far as it goes. we don't get to the point where we realize we should aknowledge you for it. So I really wouldn't worry about it.theres no doubt in my mind that your boyfriend loves you alot and completely appreciates the things you do but doesn't realize that you want to hear him say it or show it. I hope this helps:)
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