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would it be weird if i dated one of my taekwondo instructors? he is 18 im 16, were both interested in eachother he even called me beautiful last class (link)
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He is in a position of authority teacher/student and he MUST learn to act like it in CLASS. It's NOT right for him to be making advances on any student in front of the student body.
He shouldn't be referring to you as beautiful either as it puts out a weird message. It has to be all about the martial arts while taking class. If he can't keep it separate between a teacher/student role in class and an adult relationship outside of class it would be wrong.
All of this is moot if you met outside of class and decided to date. Even if you met him in class you can date but not make it a focal point in class. Keep it strictly teacher/student while there. He sounds like an ideal person for you.
As long as none of his advances are creeping you and others out no harm done. You can't deny attraction or your heart.
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14 female;
so i'm bisexual & i don't know how to tell my mom. She's so open. i have a boyfriend & were sexually active & she knows & shes okay with it, as long as we use condoms. & i have my boyfriend so i dont want a girlfriend but i need to tell her. i told her about some of my bi friends & she says "how do girls your age know if theyre bi or not?" because people have having sex at younger ages. so how do i tell her? (link)
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I would be very hesitant to identify yourself as bi-sexual at age 14. The fact of the matter is that your hormones and neurological things are still ironing out.
Believe it or not they can make you feel on and off attraction to both sexes in some people until your orientation is firmly set one way or the other. I would relax and say nothing until such times as that it's solid and consistent and no grey area. Be a kid for now and let time dictate what happens with your sexual identity. Too early at 14 to know conclusively.
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Okay... so I have a question. It's not a very big one but I like to be sure about thing's before doing them. I want my sexual partner to be happy and we're just experimenting(No sex) so I would like to know a few things just to ensure maximum pleasure for my partner so I do not hurt her.
1) Can I accidentally insert my finger into her Urethra?
2) Is it safe and pleasurable in general to have anal sexual activities.
3) Can pre-cum get her pregnant, should/when we get to that phase?
I have looked at multiple diagrams and done some research but I am still not quite certain on these points. Please get back to me in some fashion. :)
Btw im 17/male and my current partner is 17/female. (link)
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1)Anatomically impossible.
2) Depends on the individual.
3) You had better believe it. It contains as much sperm (millions) as actual ejaculate itself. Use protection.
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Alright. Here's what happened. Awhile ago I was at my boyfriends house. We had been dating for like four months at that time. So about a week before that day he had fingered me for the first time. He'd done it before but I hadn't. He's sixteen and I'm fourteen by the way, but he's only the grade above, a year and a half older. But anyway. So it was new but I liked it and yeah. Well on that day I started giving him a handjob but I didn't think I was doing any of it right and I felt like an idiot so I kind of stopped right in the middle... I guess you're not supposed to do that /: ... yeah. oops. So we decided to slow things down a little cuz I didn't think I was ready for all that stuff yet but it's been a few weeks and I want to try again. I just don't wanna screw up again... haha. The first time I told him I had no clue what I was doing so he showed me what to do with my hand but I don't know it was awkward... so will someone please tell me how to do this?? And when he told me you weren't supposed to stop in the middle of a handjob he mentioned something like blueballs?? What does that mean? (link)
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We can't give you the tutorial you seek or any how-to info on sexuality on this site. The best thing to do is tell him you're inexperienced and let him guide you.
As far as "blue balls" goes he'll be fine. It's best defined as when climax approaches right before semen is to be released and things stop. When that happens there's minor aches or pains in the genital region about nothing serious that he should be whining about. It's something ahem that he knows how to take care of. It can't hurt him as bad as he may be telling you.
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I woke up after a nap with a coughing fit and I coughed up blood! This has happened before in the last couple weeks and it is really freaking me out!
What could be reason for coughing up blood when lying down? I know you aren't doctors so if you don't have any idea then should I see a doctor for this? (link)
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This definitely isn't normal. Any time you cough up blood for no apparent reason you need to act swift. Treat it like an emergency which it is and head to the local hospital.
Tell them what has happened when you lie down lately and have them figure out what's wrong here. It's definitely something you need emergency room assistance with.
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i feel stupid but my friends were talking about girls who ejaculate but i didn't think that happened! they don't have penises or testicles so how could they? anyone help me??? (link)
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They're talking about G-Spot fluid. There's a gland akin to the prostate that is spongy inside the female reproductive system. It's wrapped near the urethra.
If stimulated correctly through intercourse or other stimulation can produce up to a liter (milk bag full) of fluid that is released. I was looking for a scientific non-how-to fact sheet online to explain it further but didn't find one. An Internet search will yield further information if so inclined.
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Okay,
I wanna have sex with my boyfriend,
But I can't cause I am always on my period,
And it's not notural cause I am on my birth control and I am taking it everyday, But I have periods twice a month and then I can't cause of this gross brown stuff that comes out when I am nnot on my period. What do I do? Also.
Me and my boyfriend have been planning on having sex for a while, But his mom won't leave us alone and she doesn't trust us, What do I do? Where do I go to have sex with him that's still romantic and at his house? HELP ME PLEASE! (link)
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You need to call the doctor who put you on this type of B.C. He/she needs to know that you're having never ending periods and discharge. It's a serious situation that warrants immediate action.
They'll see you immediately and work to correct it. I would tell your mother exactly what is happening and see a doctor immediately. They'll get you off of it but likely wait awhile before transferring you onto something else.
May I suggest something? Instead of pills ask them about NuvaRing. Once a month you slide it into your vagina and it releases the right amount of chemicals/hormones to prevent pregnancy. It may agree with you more.
Don't delay in seeing this doctor either as this can mess up your reproductive system if you let it go and besides who wants the problems you mentioned above to continue?
WAIT to begin any sexual activity until such times as this issue is handled by the doctor and you get an all clear. As for privacy find a room with a lock on the door or do so at your place rather than his. While it's not legal for people under 18 to have sex nobody can stop you but do be very, very careful.
Even though you don't want adults knowing that you both are sexually active you should tell them. You'll need their help with the birth control from hell situation and need to be 100% honest with any doctor they take you to. You definitely need medical help as this won't just go away as you have evidenced.
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17/f..naturally.
I've been with my boyfriend for about five months now, and just recently we became sexually active. We talked about sex quite some times before, and we were both ready and he uses a condom and everything.
My mom is totally ok with him, and she thinks I've been having sex with him for a lot longer than I actually have. But I know she's okay with it and everything, just tells me to be careful and to use a condom, seeing as she knows our relationship is serious and he's a responsible guy.
However, due to the irritating irregularity of my period, but also the fact that I'm now having sex, I'd like to go on the pill.
I know my mom will be okay with it...I just have no idea how to ask her this.
It's not like we have a very open and casual relationship, thus I am finding it hard to ask her about it. I'd rather not do it behind her back, because there's no need for it.
Just looking for any tips or ways on how I should approach her about this?
Thank you. (link)
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Since she already knows you are sexually active and want to be responsible she will welcome this. If you have difficulty talking to her about it write her a note asking to talk about it and get things seen to. I think she would rather you be on birth control than not. Perhaps she assumes you are.
You need to tell her about having menstrual periods that are irregular and difficult to put up with. This shouldn't be as embarrassing as you think. Both sides are bound to be relieved in the end.
She will see how you have thought things out and want to be safe rather than rush in like some other girls with sex. This shows you have a strong head on your shoulders and I think she will be happy with that. Let's face it no parent likes their kids being sexually active but they do like to see that they are protected.
Also, are you sure pills are the option you want? You have to be religious about taking them at the same time. I always recommend people look into NuvaRing which slides into the vagina one a month and releases chemicals to prevent pregnancy. Probably the safest and easiest to deal with.
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Okay first of all, I live in Australia.
I don't have regular visits to the dentist and i brush my teeth about once a day(im too busy to do it more) but sometimes i dont brush, and i don't floss either. And i know what your going to say: "Well what did you expect". I just need help.
I woke up this morning and my mouth was full of blood, and i had a small blood clot. I brushed my teeth, then washed my mouth out with salt + warm water then i washed my mouth out with mouth wash, and the bleeding has stopped, for now. Theres still a small red thing where it was bleeding from and if i press on it, it will start bleeding again, so i won't do that.
Can anyone tell me how to get rid of it? I don't know if its gingivitis either because my mouth doesn't hurt and i don't have swelling at the moment but it most likely is gingivitis. Dentists cost ALOT and i dont have any dental insurance or whatever, all i have is a medicare card(i dont know if america has it so i dont know if you know what medicare card is) and I don't think my bulk billing doctor can help because he aint a dentist.
Can anyone helpp? The dentist isn't an option because i have no money, especially ranging from hundreds of $$. (link)
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Any rational dentist who is out to protect his practice and his license will treat you. It's a dental/medical emergency that needs swift care.
Will they charge?
Of course, but they aren't out to break you financially. If you go into his/her office and explain how badly you need their intervention they'll help.
They will probably (like most dentists I know) assess you and come up with a payment plan or option that will work out. It's a ton different with an emergency which this sounds like. It's NOT a normal run-of-the-mill dental problem. Ask them about options as I know they'll find some way to help you.
Tell them about the red thing bursting and blood clots as that will get you seen to. Try also seeing a medical doctor as well. None of this is normal and we can't be sure (not doctors) that it's even Gingivitis or something more or less sinister. Either way you need their help as this isn't something you can lick on your own.
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when will wii fit plus be in stock in ohio valley? (link)
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That depends on individual stores, their inventory, orders and where and when you frequent. Keep calling around and checking stores as that's how I ended up lucky with the original WII FIT and Balance Board.
If all you want is the new games and WII FIT software you can get it separate on its own, take it home and use your WII and original balance board.
Another alternative is to look for the original WII Fit bundle and buy this software on top if it's the balance board you can't find.
I would look at Electronics Boutique (EB GAMES) stores the most to see what they're getting in. I know in some instances they take pre-orders for games/equipment if paid up front. Ask them about what they're doing for people who can't find it.
While Nintendo can't tell you what stores will have one in stock they can give you a run down of stores in your area that are more likely to have one. Try 1-800-255-3700 and see what they say.
When an item will be in stock is based on store by store not a geographic area or state. Keep trying. There's likely a shortage due to Christmas. In a month or two they start mass producing them based on demand.
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Well today I had sex with my gf and before I start off, this isn't the first time this happens to me.
Sometimes my penis grows weak while we are having sex. This does not happen during the first time we have sex, but when I want to go again after about 10 minutes it will get hard,but then weaken during the sex itself. I really can't explain it any better, and sex with a weak penis is no good.
I want to make my girlfriend get to the climax, and now i'm getting really desperate, as if i'm not good enough to make her feel good.
Can somebody help me please, I'm desperate. (link)
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It's possible that the valve in your penis that traps blood flow inside to produce an erection isn't functioning correctly.
It could also be nerves or psychological. You need to rule out a physical problem causing you unable to maintain an erection for sexual intercourse. You need to consult an urologist.
In the meantime, if you consult any adult novelty store, condom store etc you can get a plastic ring designed to keep blood in the penis and prolong an erection. Just ask someone at the store about a ring for that. They have a real vulgar name for them that I can't repeat here but they actually do work and if it helps you... well, it's a good thing.
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i break out. i used to think it wasn't so much, but i just recently realized its pretty bad. its not a lot of zits, its just they are so hard to get rid of, and in the worst places, and they hurt. when i wash my face, it gets rid of the infection, but i still have red scars. i cover those with makeup but i wanna feel good WITHOUT makeup on. how do i get rid of zits AND the scars they leave behind? (link)
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There's NOTHING at all disgusting about you or this problem. Severe acne and blackheads are pretty common and tough to beat. Why? most people are led to believe over the counter creams and remedies will take care of all acne. That simply isn't so.
For tough problems like yours what you're needing is medicine and a prescription strength cream that burns through the bacteria, unclogs the pores and keeps acne and blackheads from coming back. Anything other than that will do nothing at all to help.
You need to see your family doctor to discuss your problem. He/she might have sample bottles on hand or can write the prescription themselves. However, most would refer you to a dermatologist if it's really, really severe to the point said specialist is needed. Most likely, they'll just write the prescription and after a few weeks your face will be nice and smooth. You do have to continue using it as a preventative measure though.
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hi i am a 30 yr old mother of a 7 year old child and have wondered for a while if there is a possibility of her being sexually abused? the things that make me wonder are
1. when she was 5, almost 6, teachers at her school caught her and another little boy touching eachother and even performing oral sex.
2. i found her showing her friend how to draw a penis.
3. i walked in on her rubbing back and forth on a stuffed animal 3 times.
i just dont know where she would get all these ideas from and her dad is not in the picture so the only person i can think of who it could be would be her step grandfather because we live with my parents. any help is appreciated. thanks (link)
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While they need to know it's inappropriate touch it's a common issue with children that young to have to tell them it's not okay to allow anyone including classmates etc. touch private parts period.
What isn't common and definitely very, very wrong is the sexual act you mention teachers saw with her and another student. Obviously kids know nothing about these practices unless someone sadly has been violating them with it. You need to find out where she learned this behavior and go after the adult, teacher or daycare and get police involved.
As far as crude drawings go kids make a lot of them but not at her age. How she knows what one even is or what it looks like is highly troubling. It's a sign of something amiss.
As far as rubbing against stuffed animals that is pretty normal for her age and doesn't mean she was taught the behavior but again could have been. Don't scold but ask her why she does it, did anyone show you this or did anyone touch you etc?
Go directly to her and ask her all of the questions you asked us and get an honest answer and tell her she can't lie because it's wrong if someone did these things to her. Then, you'll really know. Counsellors and doctors could get that out of her but she's more apt to tell you especially if someone's told her not to tell.
There's a lot you that suggests abuse but it's also possible there isn't frequent abuse and that a student she hangs out with is the bigger victim who is showing others how to do this behavior.
You do need to investigate this further and remove her from that school or daycare centre until you do so she has no contact with the child or adults usually around her. Call the principal of the school immediately to look into this and the student she was with and his family. Lodge a formal complaint with them and the school board.
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It seems like I am being made fun of for owning a Macbook laptop. Why is this? I had an Acer I really loved and nobody ever made fun of me then so what gives? The acer was stolen and my school had good prices on the Mac so I bought one.
the "Mac people" I have become one of tell me it is because our computers are so much better but I am not really having that experience so I feel like I am being made fun of for no reason.
I don't get it. The only thing i can think of is that I paid about 4 times more for my Mac and I can't run anything for windows (which is like, everything) on it.
I know I should have bought another like my first one but I wanted to fit in in college with the cool mac kids. What actually happened was like I volunteered to sit at the lunch table in highschool that everyone throws things at and makes fun of the nerds who sit there. But nerds don't use macs! Am I the only one that isn't a musician or an artist who is using a mac?
Signed,
Beginning to feel really stupid. (link)
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Buying a Macintosh was an intelligent investment. You unfortunately, haven't been shown how to get the maximum out of yours.
You actually can run Windows on a Macintosh as well as MS Office. The OSX operating system allows you to switch between Mac and Windows operating systems on your Macbook with ease. You can also run most printers, cameras and other things.
If all you want to do is write papers etc. get the I Work program and Pages. You can convert everything you write into MS WORD, PDF or text file.
As far as games go download a free program called Bootcamp. Quote "By installing Boot Camp and Windows on an Intel-based Mac, you can boot into Windows and play any Windows game provided that the minimum system requirements for the game are met."
You can also do a ton of design and graphics a PC can't. Above all else, Mac's don't get viruses at all. Those making fun of you for for having one have likely never used one. It's exactly like a PC and you can do 100% of what you do on a PC with a Mac.
If you want to run Windows on your Mac you'll need to buy that part separately, but really don't need it at all to so what you want to do.
I think it would be in your best interest to go to apple.com (or .ca in Canada) and look on their site for the location of the nearest Apple Store (in most big cities) where you can go there and get an appointment with a Mac Genius who will answer all your concerns and show you how to use your Mac Book for everything you want to do and then some. Appointments are free.
Don't worry about what you paid you'll come to see it was worth it. You can do everything you did before exactly the same on this machine and run Windows latest operating system too provided you purchase it as an add on but in reality, the Mac people you know as well as those at the Apple Store (who aren't on commission) will show you that you don't need it. But to answer your questions you can have Windows if you want it on a Mac with no viruses and no error messages, spyware or anything else.
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I had this one dream that's really been bothering me and usually for my dreams I can go to dream sites to have certain things interpreted but...I don't even have the slightest idea with this one.
I’m in an airport and everyone’s walking to places (as they should) but there’s no sound and no one’s talking at all, just walking. I have no idea where to go so I just keep walking and I see my dad in the large crowd, located at the door where I just entered from. I turn back and walk to him. He takes my hand and we start walking and there was this four-way intersection in the airport (by intersection I mean a four-way hallway) and I thought that we would head straight but he stopped in the middle of the intersection and said, “Let’s stop here,” and I asked why and he said, “Two people died there. Don’t you want to die? Everyone does."
CREEPIEST thing ever! I swear I didn't watch any horror movies or anything. Maybe it's one of those dreams that does't mean anything but maybe it's one of those dreams that do. (link)
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Dreams are nothing more than thought pictures. They are your fears, desires, stress and whatever you think of during the day magnified as you sleep at night. Often they have no meaning (as in this case) and are nonsense and then there are those tied right back into fears, desires, stress, phobias and things that terrify or interest you.
It means nothing at all to real-world situations when you are awake. It's your subconcious mind bringing all these things to the surface as you sleep and dealing with them by creating the pictures that go on in your head as you sleep.
While you may be sleeping your brain isn't and nor is your fears, desires, stuff you're afraid of etc. This is how it's manifest while you're sleeping.
I wouldn't worry at all about the dream itself. Likely if it means anything at all it's about your fear of being separated from people and death itself. The airport scenario may have to do with departing and arriving and your thoughts on it. Maybe it's metaphysical but then again it's probably nothing. It can't hurt you or cause permanent trauma so I wouldn't get too freaked out by it.
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ok... so i want to finger myself but i dont know how im 13 for god sakesXD and scared but im just so naughty and hornyy all the time i need moree exciment please helpD:! (link)
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This site has a rule where people can receive lifetime bans if we provide tips on anything remotely sexual in nature.
Having said that if you explore on your own or are Internet savvy nothing can stop you from the information you seek. Having said this every person is 100% different with what they respond to. What works for one person won't for another. Finding out on your own teaches you about your own body.
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Is there a video guide to shaving your vagina? NOT pr0n! I just am scared to death I will cut something off that I could use in the future LOL!
So is there an educational video to shave your vagina? (link)
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Try an Internet search engine. We can't provide even educational links only those of drawings (scientific) of anatomy and reproductive system. This would qualify as a how-to and can't be posted due to minors on our site. I'm sure if you're Internet savvy...
As far as information on how not to hurt yourself or cut yourself that can and usually does get answered here by female advice givers (which I'm not.) I'm only posting this so nobody links up to a video which is against our rules.
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I feel so stupid writing this, but I seriously need to know how do you tell if a boy wants a kiss??
Is there some sign that he is ready for one?
I am SOOOOO read to plant one on him but I don't know if he wants it!
Help! How on Earth do you tell if a boy really wants a kiss?
Thank you! (link)
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Carpe Diem! Kiss him stupid ;) The best kisses aren't planned. They are spontaneous and for that reason memorable. You want your kiss to be forever in his mind. I would just plant one on him when alone and when you feel secure to.
There's no real way to tell if he wants to kiss you or not unless he seems to lean in or say something that could spark one. If you keep waiting for that to happen you might not get to a kiss. If he's shown that he likes you back than initiating a kiss should be no big deal.
If you're unsure of him or whether or not you should kiss him you can say "I've always wanted to kiss you is that okay? Some people actually enjoy being asked as that's as big a surprise as just doing it. If you did it this way you'd at least know he's receptive. Either way if you're 100% sure he likes you back you're okay if not be sure of where your relationship stands. That's the only way you'd ever be embarrassed if he didn't like you that way.
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My mom came into my room to put clothes away and I was in the middle of masterbation! She saw EVERYTHING!
She just closed the door and left me alone. At dinner she didn't say a word. I could hardly look at her. :(
How do I look at her again? How do I make things normal? What do I do or say or do you say anything?
Please help! (link)
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Are you male or female? It matters. If you're the same sex she'll probably talk to you about it reassuring that it's normal etc. If you're a male she'll likely have your father talk to you about what happened and promise to knock in future.
Until that occurs just go on as normal as there's a huge chance she'll never say anything. Mom's know that masturbation is universal with your age group both sexes and that 90% of males (all ages) and 70% of females according to stats do it. They probably knew or suspected you would be.
I wouldn't mention it to her or them unless you're approached with it first. In the future lock your door or get a doorknob put in with ability to lock and be discrete.
She's probably as embarrassed or more so than you are and likely will say nothing to try and have what happened go unmentioned. That's extremely so if you're male but more likely to talk to you if you're a girl or have dad do it. And it's not the end of the world if they do either. But for now treat life as it were normally.
You can't really make things "normal" or say something to do so. Over time it will be forgotten and they and you'll know that what you were doing is fine. The only lesson is to choose carefully where you engage in such activity and make sure you can't be walked in on. Trust me, this happens to guys and girls a lot. You aren't the only person and won't die if they did in fact mention it.
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This guy I was together with said he thought he had liked me and that he wanted a serious relationship, but he changed his mind and doesn't want that. Basically, he just wants to hook up and he pretty much dumped me for a slut. He said he wanted to be friends still and I want to, but he won't talk to me! He ended it 2 weeks ago and I've talked to him twice and I initiated it both times. It wasn't anything big just small talk. He's also a recovering smoker and he'll have mints when he wants a cigarettes. One day, my friend gave me some mints so I gave them to him. He said thanks but that's it. I don't get it. He'll say hi to me in school but he won't talk to me but he wants to be friends. Why is he taking no action? (link)
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He's just not that in to you. It's plain and simple. He's a bit of a coward by not telling you this directly but perhaps he thinks he's sparing you a real let down by having you figure that out.
He doesn't want to be your friend or boyfriend. Based on what you've said I think he was trying to use you for sex (hooking up) and nothing else. When you were too smart to go for that he found the other girl and forgot about you.
Also, he's bad news because he doesn't know what he wants in terms of relationships or friendships or anything of the sort. If was truly interested in you would you be getting the cold shoulder? You definitely don't want a wishy-washy boyfriend or a "so-called friend." I'd be cordial in the halls but move on to someone who truly values you and doesn't act like he does with you.
It's up to him to approach you now and for you to move on. If a friendship happens later (which I don't see in the forecast) than great but don't wait around for him to figure stuff out. I think he's sending a clear message that he's not interested in you as a friend or otherwise. And it hasn't a thing to do with smoking or not. He's just a jerk.
Remember your relationship ended for a reason and he found someone to hookup with a bad reputation. Do you really want him in your life when he's treated you like shit for a long time and only seems interested in hooking up and ditching?
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