about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

what does it mean when people say like...id tap that?

They would have sex with that person.

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where can i find a cheap computer desk

Target, Walmart, K-mart .. you can even try Goodwill? There isn't anything wrong with getting furniture there.

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What have you heard about the ion straightener? I only know that they are 100 dollars here at sally beauty salon. Are they good? do they do ur hair good? Anything i should know about them?


Thanks!!!

They are good but they are just like any other hair straightener. They all straighten your hair and it will fry it. I think Chi is much more worth it. For straightening hair I suggest you get this spray. It's called Ion and you just spray it in your hair before using any hot irons and it will protect it from damage.

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Ok if you really like someone, but they're going out with someone else but you know they like you, would it be stupid to wait for them? I really need to know what you think about this! Thank you so much!

XoXoJamie

It would defenetly not be stupid to wait. If you truely care about that person you would wait but don't let them keep you waiting forever because that's just not fair.

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My best friend asked me out last Friday, and I said no [being the idiot that I am] because I thought he was joking [yeah, I know, it's stupid, but he's done it before]. I've liked him for atleast 4 years, and I just missed my chance, which makes me really sad. My other best friend asked him today at school if he was going to ask me back out. He said no, but he still like me.

So basically, he liked me, asked me out, I said no, and now he's not going to ask me out anytime soon. I feel like such an idiot! I've been gushing over him for FOUR years, and he said he`s not going to ask me out again [that meaning that he isn't going to go out with me now. I'd ask him out but he'd say no, most likely.]


I have no idea of what to make about this situation. What do you think I should do? Thank you so much in advance.

The reason he probablly doesn't want to ask you out again is because he is afraid of what you will say. It's not the end of this relationship. You need to talk to him and tell him why you said no and that you really do like him. Don't have your friends tell him anything but you should talk to him yourself and tell him whatever is on your mind. You guys will end up going out. It doesn't have to be right away, but you will be together.

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Ok so this friend of mine is really rich and all kinds of girls try to get with him all the time. He's had it happen a few times that the chick he's been with uses him for his money.
He says he doesn't care that girls go after him for his money because it's just a way for them to connect and get to know each other better. I think if a girl is after your money, she's after your money and she isn't interested in getting to know you.
If I had that kind of money and I knew a girl I was seeing wasn't in it for the real me, it would be a MAJOR turn off.
What is your opinion on this? Wouldn't it bother anyone that people are after such a supreficial thing?

I think when girls do that.. it's just very sad. Not only is it wrong but it's really mean and he's just letting them do that to him. Yes they are going to try and get to know him but for the wrong reasons. He will start to like a girl a lot and when she hurts his feelings he will understand what you were talking about the whole time. It bothers me a lot too and I would never allow it happen to me.

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is it bad to charge your battery every day??

thanks

Not at all.

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so i met this guy at the movies friday and he use to go out with one fo my 'friends' if u say that but they had a horrible break up or w/e ; well he askes for my # and when i left he kissed me goodbye - i talked to him that night and my friend he use to go out w. was having a going away party saturday night and he's like go cause i am - i wasn't gonna but since he was i was liek alright

well all night my friend was worried about him and he called me a couple times and told me he was on his way ; but i couldn't tell her that it was him b/c it just seemed wrong - well the ended up fighting and yah he left but he came down and kissed me goodbye and one of her friends saw but i know her and hes like 'this never happened' to her

well i talked to him a again and for the superbowl he said i could go over his house so me and my friend went and he had friends over too ; then this girl who is best friends with the one he use to go out with came too.and me and him were on the couch together kissing and whatever . so im afraid shes gonna go tell the other girl about us and i'll get stuck in all this drama

also a lot of people say he's a player and i don't really know what to expect we talk alot and he sounds like a great guy . but if i get in that drama with my friend when she gets home and he ends up screwing me over i'll just seem like an idiot ; and i really don't know what to do because i think i like him but i don't know if it's worth it because me and this girl aren't good friends at all and i don't even like her that much i just dont find the need to have enemies if you know what i mean

he's also getting my mind off my last bf and we started talking on valentine's day so yah he just makes everything better and really seems to care - but he can just be a good pplayer

please help me because i really don't know how to go about this whole problem
-thanks

You and that girl don't seem to be very good friends so you shouldn't worry so much. I know you don't want to start arguing or anything but if she gets jelous she will get mad. That's the stupid thing about girls like that. You should talk to her about it before her best friend tells her anything. Tell her the truth and that you might like him. They are over and they broke up for a reason so it doesn't mean that no other girl can go out with him. When people say that he is a player don't belive them because you don't know that for sure. Get to know him more and just hang out and see how he is. When guys go out with a lot of girls and stuff does not mean they are players. People get that confused a lot. Anyways, just tell your "friend" about you guys and if she gets mad and jelous then that's her problem so don't even listen to her.

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everyone in my grade says that if you are around someone who has there period for a long time then you will get it too (after you already had it a few times)
i don't know if it is true, but it seems true becasue i think it happened to me..
does anyone know if it is really true though?

No that's not true. My friends mom said the same thing but it's just a saying though. She said if the person who has their period sits in a chair and you sit in it after, you get your period the next day or something and it's bogus. Lol, but you probablly got it because it was the time of the month or by coincidence.

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HEy yall in a few days im getin a ipod nano and i have some question

DO you think its worth the money??
Ill rate high

I think it's really cute and if you like the size of it then get it. When I went to get a new iPod I was going to get an iPod Nano but I didn't think it was worth it that much. It's 250 dollars and it stores about 1,000 songs I would say but instead I got the newest one that plays videos, movies and stores pictures and it was 320 dollars and that is defenetly worth it. It's bigger and all but it's a lot better. The head phones are also better and louder. If I were you, I'd get the bigger one.

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okay i want to put my advice column in my profile but when i copy it into my porfile a message comes up sayin : No column was found with the specified username, or there was an error in the username specified. If you would like this name for yourself, register at Advicenators.com and start your own free advice column! CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME SO MY LINK ACTUALLY WORKS

It does that to my column and to many others. I just took it out of my profile because it pissed me off so bad. I sent an e-mail to DN and he said that you need to put = before the user name .. something like that. I hope it gets fixed soon but it's not working for anyone right now.

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whats a cunt?

only search advicenators.com

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just died. She was 23. Should I go to the funeral, or will it be too depressing?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Yes you should go. If she was close then you have to show respect. Of course you will be sad and so will everyone around you so you guys have to help each other. It hurts but it would be the right thing to do.. which is to go. It will be depressing and sad but she deserves to have all the people that love her there.

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What would be a good present to get a girl on valentines day who u just started to go out with like 4 days befor ?
13/m

A card, couple of flowers .. they don't have to be roses and a teddy bear or chocolates.

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I really like this guy.
But ehre's the prob.
I'm in 8th grade, he's kinda in 6th.
He's also my best friend's cousin!
She dosen't care, but the age differece is kinda a lot.
He's not a little loseror anything, he's like mature and i like him.
What should I do?
rates 5's
thanks if you help!

2 years is not a big difference at all !! If you really like him age shouldn't be stoping you from going out with him. You might regret it later so I think you should just go for it. Don't care so much because I'm sure you guys would have a great relationship.

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I have a best friend and he has been my best friend for eleven years. He has been in love with me probably for the past couple years. He is the most loving, respectful, decent guy I have ever known. Whenever I am depressed or whenever I am having a problem, he is always there for me. He used to live in Maryland and I live Pennsylvania and whenever I needed something, he'd drive all the way up here to see me even if I didn't ask him to. He's just always been there for me through everything. He makes me absolutely happy and I'm sure that my happiness is more important than his. People always ask me why aren't we together, and honestly, I don't think we'd work out. Even though he is perfect for me, I dont think that I'd ever be good enough for him. I think I'd only bring problems in his life. Secondly, and this may sound weird, but I can't see myself having a relationship at this age with a guy I cant see myself being intimate with. Dont get me wrong, he is pretty cute too.. Lastly, I don't know if for some reason things doesnt work out and we'd break up and ruin our friendship.. Sometimes I hate myself for what I put him through, knowing how much he loves and wants me and me not being able to give him what he wants. Am I wrong? Like, I love this guy.. More than anything in the world. I'd like to be with him.. but I dont know.. I don't know what I should do.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

20/f

The only reason your relationship with him wouldn't work out is if you don't want it to. You have to want it bad enough for everything to be okay for the better. He seems like a great guy and I know that sometimes best friends go out and ruin their friendship but that's only because they don't even try to fix it and just leave it like that. I honestly think that you guys would work out and that your relationship would be fine. You don't need to be perfect for him and don't say you aren't good enough for him. You don't need to be because he loves you for who you are and he wouldn't want you to change. If you don't want to get into a relationship and if you aren't ready for a commitment then don't date him and just be friends. I think you should take the next step because you both care about each other so very much I don't see why your relationship wouldn't work out.

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Theres a guy i like and we r friends but we dont hang out we only talk in school and on the computer sometimes . well since its almost valentines day i wanted to tell him this weekend i like him on the computer.. well if he doesnt like me i dont want it to mess up r friend ship and him to feel wierd around me . well i guess my question is if he doesnt like me the same way do u think he would act different? but if we start to go out a few days befor valentines day do i get him something? and what would i get him ? well i think u give realy good advice .
Help!! 14/f

If you tell someone you like them and they don't feel the same way then yeah the person might start to feel okward towards you. I've been in that position and I defenetlly acted weird and it's the same with guys. First you should just drop some hints. Flirt with him and start joking around and telling him you like him or something and see how he responces. Telling him on the computer is probablly the easiest way but it's not the best thing. Guys like when girls are confident and when they can tell them in person. If you can't then don't worry about it. If you guys do end up going out you should get him a present for Valentines Day. Now don't worry about getting him something big or a lot but just get him something little that would mean a lot to him. Like a good cologne. The best one is Very Sexy for Him at Victoria Secret. & thanks. =) Good luck with everything.

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i feel like cinderella. my mom is sick and my dad is never home. i take care of everything at home and i hate it. if i was a stay at home person i would probaly have to help my sister get ready for school. i have to wake her up in the morning cuz my mom is sleeping. she has something call fibermialgia***. i need help. can anyone tell me what i should do to make myself feel under pressure about being both parents in the house when im only 15? and can anyone can tell me how to help my mom who has fibermialgia*, that would be great.

Fibromyalgia effects the muscle tissues and they become sore. Has she gone to the doctor about it?? If not, she really should. S/he could give her creams or pills for it. Anyways, you are 15 years old and I know you want to go out with your friends, but right now your family needs help and you would do anything not to. They need you right now so just try to help them out. Be the responsible one. Get your mom to go to the doctor. You won't live like this forever. Your mom will appriciate this so much and she is lucky she has a daughter like you helping around the house. You know what happened to Cinderella though?? She had a happy ending.

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ok, i'm in need of some advice on this one. . .my old gf (let's call her M) from about a year and a half ago has recently been acting very very nice to me. i think she has started to like me again, but i don't like her. and plus, i have a new girlfriend (let's call her C). C and M are both friends, but i don't know what to do about this situation. . .

If she likes you then you can't do anything about that and you don't have to like her back. Maybe she does like you or she just wants to be friends again. Eather way, be friends and don't let it ruin your relationship now.

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Is it gross or weird for a girl with very dark and coarse hair to shave her arms?

No it's not gross or weird. I know a lot of people who do and if you are going to shave them make sure you do regurarly so your arms aren't prickly.

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