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Golddiggers
Ok so this friend of mine is really rich and all kinds of girls try to get with him all the time. He's had it happen a few times that the chick he's been with uses him for his money.
He says he doesn't care that girls go after him for his money because it's just a way for them to connect and get to know each other better. I think if a girl is after your money, she's after your money and she isn't interested in getting to know you.
If I had that kind of money and I knew a girl I was seeing wasn't in it for the real me, it would be a MAJOR turn off.
What is your opinion on this? Wouldn't it bother anyone that people are after such a supreficial thing?
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You are absolutely right, but I can see where he is coming from. He can't get rid of the money. It's almost like a part of him. If a girl knows about the money, should he waste the opportunity that they might end up happy together? I'm sure you've seen the movies where people date each other because of a bet and they end up liking each other. Same concept. Even if the initial intentions weren't good, something good could come out of it. Yes, it bothers me a lot that some people (both girls and guys) go after material things instead of each other. However, that's their personality flaw though, not your friend's. Don't give him a hard time over something he can't control. Be happy for him that he has so many opportunites. He sounds like a smart guy. I don't think he'd get mixed up with a girl that just wanted his money for too long. I hope I helped you understand what your friend is going through a little better. Remember that it's not always black and white. 99% of the time it's some form of grey.
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I would bother me alot. It says something about a girl who only wants a man for his money. If your friend doesn't mind that so be it.For me I look for things that matter in a guy not what he has in his wallet.
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Hell yeah that'd bother me. I have a friend a little like this and I always always make sure I pay my way so he doesn't think I'm using him. I'm guessing the kind of girls who go out with him for his money are far too shallow to have any concept of "getting to know" someone.
But hey it's his life. Just sounds like you're gona be the one picking up the pieces when these girls ditch him. Hopefully after a few heartbreaks he'll learn.
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I think when girls do that.. it's just very sad. Not only is it wrong but it's really mean and he's just letting them do that to him. Yes they are going to try and get to know him but for the wrong reasons. He will start to like a girl a lot and when she hurts his feelings he will understand what you were talking about the whole time. It bothers me a lot too and I would never allow it happen to me.
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It wouldn't just bother me; it would tick me off. I'd want someone to be attracted to me for me, not what I can give them materially. Just give it time. I think your friend will learn that a girl that's interested in him as a person, rather than a bank, is much better. I was in the reverse of the situation. I was the one with money and dating a bum of a guy. I wised up pretty fast once I realized I was just being used for the money.
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It would bother me a lot!
I think that unless he becomes one of those love 'em and leave 'em types, his attitude may change as he gets older. I would hope so anyway.:)
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