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ok im really close with this girl and I really like her I've told her how I felt but she just wants to be friends shes afraid that if we were to take a step further it would affect our friendship so what do I do? (link)
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Oi Christ man...
Rein yourself in a little.
No, it is not meant to be. Nothing is meant to be.
Welcome to "the friend trap"
The friend trap is a position nice guys find themselves in quite often, because in trying to get a girl interested they become her friend, and that never works out well.
Step one. Sit down, take a breath, and realize that she isnt interested in you.
Thats right. Not interested. She does not and probably never will feel about you the way you do about her.
Now, a little insight for you.
Guys are logical. We look at a girl and think "shes attractive, I can talk to her, she makes me laugh, I think I'll form an emotional attachment to her"
Its usually a pretty conscious choice. We see, and pursue.
Women don't work that way. Women work off of emotion rather than logic. So she feels certain ways about certain people. She might not even know why at this point in her life (actually she probably doesnt, as most women don't reach this level of self awareness until some point in the 20s at the earliest) but she is attracted to certain people and unattracted to most everyone else.
At this point, we don't know why specifically you got the friends speech. What we do know, based on years upon years of history from guys across the globe, is that chasing her is almost 99% chance going to break up the friendship and still not have you dating her.
Give up. Find someone else. Tell her that if she ever changes her mind, you're interested, and pursue someone else. If there is any tiny hope in hell that she will be interested in you, its not going to happen until you stop trying to get her interested in you.
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I have decided that I want to stay a virgin until I'm married. My virginity is special to me. I've gone out with a lot of guys and they all end up wanting to be touchy and I'm just not into that. I don't want to be used. I want to be pure and be able to show my husband (when I actually get married, of course) that he really is a special person and that I cared enough to wait for a long time for him.
My problem is that I don't really know how to tell a guy that I refuse to have sex. I don't want to outright say I want to stay a virgin or that I'm keeping my virginity for my wedding night. That just feels too PERSONAL to me and the only time I would tell somebody is if we were in a serious relationship together and he needed to know.
I'm pretty young and I'm afraid to just say no and leave it at that, I guess. Even if I told a guy that I was waiting for marriage I think they'd think I was joking because of me being so young.
I guess my question is...
How do I tell a guy that I don't want to have sex without giving out too much personal details as to why? (link)
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Honestly, you should throw it out there immediately. If a guy loses interest because of that, then there are obvious incompatibilities between you and him.
More for the sake of clarity in the relationship than anything else. Personally, I would hate to go several months into the relationship before finding something like this out.
Level with him.
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I am going on a date with a really nice guy soon and I want to make a great first impression on the date. He knows me from work but I really want to show him a different side of me. I am really already shooting for another date after this first one, as long as everything goes smoothly and there isn't some twisted shocker by the end of it. I think I know him pretty well but I want him to be as interested in me as I am in him.
I know I need to dress nice and be polite, but I'm sure that's not all. He's never seen me outside of the work environment and I really want to wow him with myself. I am a pretty down to earth girl, and I don't do anything wild or risky (I don't drink, smoke, have sex, etc.), but I want to show him that I'm interesting.
Can anyone just tell me how to make a great first impression on a date? I mean, how in the world do you act on a date? I don't want to be pushy but I do want to show him I'm into him. What do you do on a date? How do you act on a date? Are there specific things I need to say or do while on a date? (link)
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/sigh.
First off, if you smile at him and don't act as if you're bored, or act as if something is wrong, hes going to have a great time. Hes as nervous about this as you probably are. Or hes not nervous at all, and you being nervous is going to seem cute and endearing.
Second off, RELAX. A quote from the movie Hitch (appropriately edited for gender), while I marshal further thoughts at 5:47 in the morning.
"He said yes, when he could have said no. He made a plan, when he could have just blown you off. That means it is no longer your job to make him like you. It's your job not to mess it up!"
In retrospect, I think that was a bad quote for the purpose of relaxing you. Oh well, its already there. However, you should be informed, that its REALLY hard to make a bad impression bad enough that he won't go for a second date if you express interest in one yourself.
Here are examples of the few things that can drive a guy off in a hurry
- Talking about personal drama thats not funny
- Talking about marriage, kids, and your plans involving those for the future.
- Talking about your family when its not funny
- Being a bitch (really not hard to avoid)
What should you do? Be yourself. Relax. Crack a joke or two. You don't have to be polite, you have to be friendly. They arent the same thing.
Ask him questions about himself and let him talk a while. Let him ask you questions and respond. Smile at him alot.
Smiling is big. Not a huge grin like a 5 year old who's proud of the fact that she just ate a whole watermelon (man my metaphors are getting wierd thise late, arent they?) but a small "I'm enjoying myself" smile.
Smiles let him know "everything is ok"
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Welll every summer i go on vacation with some friends and theres this one guy whos goes thats my age that i hang out with .In the begin of the trip he doesn't show much intrest in me and he'll kinda stay distant from me. but as the trip progress his start to flirt with me more and more. like he'll just start out like with little flirty thing like "oh your cute" and stuff like that and then he'll try to hold my hand and make excuses to hug me and stuff like that and it makes me really nervous and gets my stomach turning, and there sometimes when thing almost get really serious. but i dont want to take it that fare.And hes been doing it every trip for the past 3 years. But i really really like him but im not sure if hes just using me just to occupie himself over the trip. cause at times he'll bring up girls that he like and hangs out with so it makes me kinda upset and jelous i guess, and if were sitting next to each other sometimes he'll be texting girls that he hangs out with while he flirting with me which kinda makes me mad.=[[
so i dont know what i should do i dont want to tell him i like him cause i dont want to rewin are friends ship and im not sure if he like me or not? so im so counfused. And i really like this guy ALOT!! so what shoould i do???.... Please help me !! (link)
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Oh Jesus Effing Christ...
He likes you. Hes texting other girls because he wants to seem "cool" and he doesnt know any other way to do it besides showing you "Oh other girls like me"
The next time you see him, you should walk up to him and say something along the lines of "I'm seriously thinking about kissing you in the next few days" and just watch his reaction.
Priceless moments.
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let's say your boyfriend or someone you really like asks you to give them head. well, not asks you, but says it like "give me head." or "get down." or "how bout a blow job?"
how can you say no? or reject them? and they don't have to be nice rejections. (link)
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I prefer something a bit more pointed than just the "No" stated below.
In your shoes, I would throw out something like "If you ever say that to me again, I will never say anything to you, ever again."
If he gets angry, "you asked" is a decent response.
If he gets hurt/defensive, explaining to him that saying things like that to a girl is disrespectful and that you don't hang out with boys who haven't grown up enough to know that you treat other humans better than that.
Though, it would be perfectly acceptable to say "No" while giving him a look that says the only thing you want to do with his penis involves knives and severing.
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umm how to break it to someone gently? that you thought you thought you were just gonna hang out but it turns out that you guys went out? (link)
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Blunt and to the point, but caring.
"I didn't know you thought it was a date. I like hanging out with you, but I'm not going to date you. Its absolutely nothing personal, you just aren't the kind of personality type I'm attracted to"
Its important for both of you that you pretty much crush his hopes. Important for you, because otherwise it could turn into a long drawn out process of hoping that you don't want to deal with, important for him because guys are hard wired to chase the coat tails of the slightest bit of hope even if the hope doesnt exist anywhere in our minds.
Also, the personality types thing is a great line. The simple truth of life is that not everyone is compatible romantically with everyone else. In most cases where you simply arent attracted to someone and its not because theyre ugly, its true.
Lastly, language.
If you noticed, in the quote I said things like "Im not going to date you"
When you talk to him, he will pounce on things like "I dont want to date you"
He'll think "maybe if I just do something, anything, she'll want to"
Don't give him that weapon to use against himself. Tell him what you will and wont do. Tell him that you want to be friends but that you are not going to date him. You can be definite, and sure, leave no shred of doubt.
Do this, and you can probably salvage a friendship out of it, and he will at the least deal with his feelings.
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Are friends with benefits really that bad?
This kid Dillon wants to have sex with me but doesnt like me as a girlfriend...If I have sex with him is it such a bad thing? (link)
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Yes, it would.
You know, sex is alot of things to alot of people. Some people think its an expression of love, some people think its alot of fun, some people think its sacred.
The problem with sex and you mixing is that in this case, its nothing at all.
Speaking from an adult perspective, sex is complicated. It generates alot of emotions, passions, urges, and bonds between people. The problem with friends with benefits is that it tries to throw human nature out the window.
When people are friends with benefits for an extended period of time, one of two things happens.
- One of the two people grows to dislike the other. There isnt enough in common for even basic friendship between the two of you, and because the sex had between two people who don't really like each other is going to be terrible, you grow to dislike them more, as the only reason you are around them at all is sex.
- One of the two people wants a relationship more than friends with benefits. It might be you, it might be him, but you have enough in common to be friends. And from that, something develops. I mean, if you like someone as a friend, and you find them attractive enough to have sex with...
Most intelligent adult men see this as a perfectly valid reason to start dating a woman.
I'll offer you an additional thought to think about, from a perspective of a guy.
Guys who ask directly for sex aren't smart about sex themselves. They aren't worth much, either. Do you know the real reason women are supposed to make men work for sex?
Because for the most part, we will do exactly the minimum required in order to get it.
Its sad, its not fair, and it really goes to show you how lost the average guy is without a decent partner. But there it is.
So, if you require that a guy be a decent human being, care about you, be a decent boyfriend, and make you happy outside of the bedroom, then any guy who wants you will have to be decent, care, and make you happy.
And any guy who can't do that, is to self centered to want to, etc, won't get laid (and hopefully not reproduce)
Its also worth noting, that this is one of the areas most men do not mature in quickly. Often times guys who are worthless in their teen years turn into decent, responsible, marriage material later in life.
No, that is not an invitation to date older men.
The point is, that decent guys are fewer and far between at whatever your age group happens to be, because too many of them are not grown up enough.
Which is a very, very good argument to you for waiting a good while for sex. Date around. Kiss somebody. Keep them out of your clothes and make them work a little for what ground you give. Sex should mean enough to both you and them to go through that.
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hi im into games where you can transform or change into a different character and i cant find many games like it
here is an example it is a ben 10 game
http://www.cartoonnetwork.com/games/ben10/battleready/index.html
any help would be greatly appreciated lol (link)
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Spore
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I'm just one of those crazy anime girls. I've watched a lot of Japanese anime in my time. I have a few favorites (like Midori no Hibi, Naruto, Bleach, and even Dragon Ball Z) but am still looking for new anime to check out. I know I can buy anime on ebay (and watch some animes on YouTube) and other various sites but I need some good anime suggestions.
What is your favorite Japanese Anime? Could you tell me a little about the anime to see if it catches my interest?
Even if it's a very popular anime it's alright to suggest it. Like I said, I'm one of those crazy anime girls so I even like to hear other people just say which animes they prefer and why. I could talk about anime all day long! (link)
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As previously suggested, Death Note is effing AMAZING. Its not action oriented, rather its all mindgames and people outsmarting each other.
Ones you should definitely look into.
*Note: Some of these will be marked as subbed only, these suck in english, and getting the japanese with good Subs is almost a requirement to enjoy it*
Cowboy Bebop
Outlaw Star
Dai-Guard (Subbed only)
Original DragonBall
Trigun
One Piece
Rurouni Kensin
Gungrave (Subbed only)
Full Metal Alchemist
Full Metal Panic (No relation to FMA above)
Berserk *Special Note later*
If you like Manga, Hunter X Hunter is pretty good, and Berserk is awesome. Naruto and Bleach are both fun manga's to read even if you've seen the shows.
*Special Note* Berserk was supposed to be part of a three part series, but the studio only really did part 2. The Manga is much more complete and while definitely adult oriented is a great read.
Those should get you started.
Almost forgot.
Hajime No Ippo - Never got all the way through it, but it was good.
Princess Mononoke, Spirited Away, and Howls Moving Castle - Three of the most amazing movies by a visionary Japanese director. Absolute musts.
Saiyuki and Saiyuki Reload - Very adult oriented, rated R for language, violence, and sexual innuendo (Especially language and violence). But a very good and amusing series.
Hellsing - Get the english. Japanese doesnt do it justice, the voice acting in the dub is PERFECT.
Samurai Champloo - Another great samurai epic
Yu Yu Hakusho - Get it in english.
Gundam Wing - Classic
Gundam Seed - Less classic, but the only other gundam series I ever liked.
Akira - THE original anime movie. You aren't a true anime nerd until you've watched this.
Ive watched more anime than these, and of these that I've listed only Hajime No Ippo have I not seen the entire series.
In my opinion, if you're into anime, you have to see all these. Theyre great.
Also, many of these that are not movies have movies associated with them. Cowboy Bebop, Yu Yu Hakusho, Rurouni Kenshin, Full Metal Alchemist, and more. The movies are worth watching too.
I'm going to modify this last part.
Visit the following sites and give them a read.
Torrenting
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BitTorrent_(protocol)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PeerGuardian
Useful Programs
http://phoenixlabs.org/pg2/
http://www.utorrent.com/
http://www.safer-networking.org/en/index.html
This is an alternative to ebay. A quick note. Torrenting as a method of download is extremely effective. However, it is your job to protect yourself by knowing what you get into, what you download, and if you are allowed to. Also, it is your responsibility to protect yourself from the many viruses and trojans and such that exist in the world today.
Spybot will help. Spybot is to this day one of the best anti spyware programs I have ever seen. Tea Timer is a great add on that helps block unwanted programs from running at all, and monitors your computer to ensure that changes arent made to sensitive areas without your knowledge.
Peer Guardian is a program designed to block hostile IPs. Any time you connect to any download, anyone else on that download can view your IP information. Peer guardian simply blocks you from accessing (and thereby you from being accessed) by a large range of known hostile IPs.
While it is in no way a guarantee, it is a help when you want to avoid IPs known to give bad downloads, or to be associated with groups like the RIAA and MPAA who target downloaders often regardless of the legality of their downloads.
This is how I got all the anime Ive ever watched, however most of the anime I have and have downloaded I got before it was licensed in the states (thus, when downloading it was completely legal). While anime is on the very low spectrum of awareness it is still a risk.
If you participate, keep teatimer and peer guardian 2 running whenever you are downloading anything.
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is it better to have sex with lights on or off? dont give me the "it depends, or either" just sayy wich is better. lights on, or lights off. (link)
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Contrary to some posts below, the true answer is "It doesnt matter one iota"
Lights on or lights off is usually "Did we even think about the lights before we hit the bed"
Your question is unanswerable. It doesnt matter. Do whatever you want.
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okay so i made a dumb mistake long story short
i had sex today and my boyfriend didnt use a condom.. i know we should have and i have had pregnancy scares lately where i think im pregnant because i end up missing my period but i guess my cycle just changed a bit bit now its back on track..
i use this online thing to track my period and it says like ovulation day and such this website
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com/
and it says that today i was fertile... and i had sex without a condom ah.. and im only 16 and i know it was a mistake so im not looking for a lecture i just want peoples opinions of if they think i have a high or low chance of getting pregnant.. i mean .. he pulled out and jizzed so.. i don't think any got in me.. (link)
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Go get a morning after pill. Pretend to be older, get him to buy it, get an 18 year old friend to buy it.
Every minute, every hour you spend before getting it decreases its effectiveness,but if taken within 72 hours it still has a good shot at being effective.
Also, stop having sex. You are not responsible enough to have it safely, which also implies a lack of maturity.
You have a high chance of getting pregnant. If you are ovulating right now, you have a very high chance. Pulling out is NOT protection. Go get a MAP and close your legs.
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No, maybe fat isn't the BEST word. Obese is more like it. I'm 19 years old and I probably weigh close to 340 pounds. I have been obese for about 10 years now? No maybe less than that. It has to be less than that. Anyway, I'm getting off track.
I have always thought that because I'm so fat that I will never get a guy, however it was just a passing thought that would always return so I never was bothered by it, until the past couple of years. My self-image is so poor that when I walk into a building and I see my reflection though the glass I have to look away from it quickly so I won't see myself. Each time I look at myself I feel this wave of disgust, shame, and fear.
There is not a darn good thing about myself I find like able at all. Even my personality is called into question because while I view myself as a good person, I find that my faults (such as my Irish temper & obesity) will conquer over any good will I have. I feel so scared that I won't ever find a man who will find me attractive in anyway at all that I will never marry and have a family, like I want to.
I feel ashamed of myself so much that I refuse to apply to work at a near by clothing store because they won't hire a fat girl that can't even fit into the clothes they sell. Also, I'm even starting to have trouble finding clothes my size at Wal-mart. My grandfather who is a WW2 vet never says a thing about my weight, and yet in my mind I think that he deserves a better granddaughter who is pretty than I am.
I don't know, my mom constantly tells me I need to lose weight but for me I just can't stop myself from eating. Oh I notice when I'm over eating but I just can't stop until I'm full. My brother who is younger than me is only a few pounds short of being considered a healthy weight for his age group won't stop insulting me by calling me a fat a**, fat w***e, you know all those good names.
My self-esteem is so poor that if I do meet a guy that might hold real interest in my personality that I will never be able to trust him on his word because I will always assume that he's just saying it to be nice and polite.
Anyway what a pity rant I threw out into this wonderful Advicenators section. I just wanted to know if anyone had any tips for an obese woman to lose weight, right now I'm trying to convince my family to eat at home as much as possible since take-out isn't a good idea. Any exercises that would help me lose weight would be great.
I have no idea how to boost my self-esteem since all I want to do is hide in my room. If anyone knows what to do regarding that, it would be helpful...
Sorry for typing so much but I can't sleep and I have class in a few hours so I was hoping this might calm me down and help me to rest.
Thank you to anyone who answers. (link)
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Talk to your family doctor and have him recommend a nutritionist.
Talk to the nutritionist. They know alot about the body. From there you can get recommendations on things like dietitians, possible solutions, etc.
Thats really the best suggestion. You have stated you don't have the self control you want or need. You need outside help to shore up where you're weak and to help you figure out your strong points. You need to make losing weight an actual life goal as opposed to a wish or a dream. And then pursue it.
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What are some really awesome games for the Nintendo Wii? I really want to buy some more Nintendo Wii games but need some good recommendations please! A list of Nintendo Wii top games are okay too but personal choices are extra nice!
Also, I can order at online stores or go to game stores like GameStop to pick up the game so if it's a hard game to find don't worry! Any recommendation is good to me!
Thanks! (link)
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The new Mario Kart is pretty sweet, the wheel controller is fun to use once you get used to it. If you feel like investing in four of them and bringing some friends over that can turn into shouting and elbowing as you fight for that last inch at 3 am pretty quickly.
Smash Brothers Brawl is effing AMAZING. One of the best games I have ever played.
Likewise, if you like fighting games Budokai Tenkaichi 2 is pretty sweet. The fighting controls take a good long while to master, but once you get used to them you can have some pretty damn nice battles. Trick is, you need some friends who play it as much as you do, because the learning curve is pretty steep.
Metroid Prime 3 is a suggestion. If you don't have or havent played Metroid Prime 1 and 2, I suggest buying them ASAP as well. Your wii will play them and from what I've heard Metroid 3 is one of the best first person shooters most people have seen. I havent gotten to play it.
The Zelda is amazing in so many ways.
You should really list what you have so there are no repeats though. Lets people know what you like and make similar suggestions.
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Do shrooms show up as food poisoning in urine drug tests? because I was told it does.
And How long do Shrooms stay in your system (like not how long you trip but how long till they wont show up on a urine drug test)?
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That depends entirely on the test being done. But no, if a test picks up psylocibin mushrooms it will show up as just that.
Thing is, that most tests test for specific things. THC (Marijuana) Amphetamines (Coke, Meth, Etc) Opiates (Heroin, many proscription pills, etc)
Though, psylocibin does not stay in the body long. Usually 24 hours. Many substances stay longer, THC, the active ingredient in Pot, can stay in fat cells and other parts of the body as long as 6 weeks after smoking if the intake was high enough for a period of weeks.
For a urinalysis you're looking at a 24 to 48 hour grace period, and a better than 70% chance that they wouldnt test for it at all. Most tests done that look for something that obscure are done with blood or hair follicles, usually when they want to know your drug history (example, any pilot has extensive drug testing, they check for just about everything you can imagine and many things you've probably never heard of)
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ok so to this day i am "the vigin mary" as my friends say. I have never even kissed a guy before and i am 14! PROBLEM: I am one of the most developed girls at school and a ton of guys only date me to get in my pants. But I am not willing to just give it up because I want it to be the perfect moment for me. Its monumental!! So how do I know exactly when its the right time or if its the right guy? (link)
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There are no perfect moments, right guy, right time, etc.
These things are myths. Created because most 14 year olds don't understand the concept that you should ALWAYS be choosy and you have to give them some reason to prolong things and wait as an additional motivator.
What you should do, is wait until things like this are NOT the reason you have sex.
Usually, most people don't manage that until 17-18 or older.
Also, guys are all horny, and we all want sex constantly. If you're "developed" expect that to be even worse for you. What you need is a guy who expresses alot of interest in you outside of sex.
Lastly, you should know that even in adult relationships, once sex becomes involved often the relationship stops growing for a good while, because that becomes what everything is about for a decent bit of time after.
Cross that with a 15 to 19 year old guy, and the sooner sex happens the more the relationship just becomes about that, and they aren't mature enough to be developing the rest of it in stride.
I dont know when you will be ready. Can't tell you that. What I CAN tell you, is that you are not ready NOW.
And general wisdom states that this won't change for a few years at the bare minimum.
Lastly, as noted below me somewhere, there are a bunch more things you should be worried about than "the right time to have sex"
Go to school. Go play a sport. Go join some clubs. Go do something stupid and embarrassing without resorting to intoxicants of any kind. Enjoy things and stop worrying about "the perfect moment"
If you do things right, find a guy you want to date because you like spending time with him, have a life, go to school, you'll work your way around to the sex part in due time and might actually be ready for it when you make that inevitable decision.
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I'm 13 and i pop my fingers. I really want to stop, but my finger get stiff. Is it really unhealthy to pop them? And is there a way to stop? Please help? I don't want to be old and in pain all the time! (link)
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Popping fingers is not bad.
The popping you hear is air bubbles moving out of your joints and the ligaments that connect them and such.
Its actually not a bad thing for flexibility. Its a myth that it causes arthritis. Also a myth that doing it makes your fingers worse. As you get older ligaments and joints get roomier, so popping becomes easier.
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To make it simple: I cheated on my boyfriend. Twice. Once was with a boy I took a trip to Europe with. We made out after having a few too many drinks. This was back in April. Just a few nights ago, my friend and I went to our friend's apartment and we also drank, so I ended up sleeping on the couch with one of the guys, and we also made out and he tried to finger me but I didn't let him.
I feel like pure crap. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. I don't even know why I did it, but I'm guessing it was just the thrill of being with someone other than my boyfriend for once (since we've been together so long and that 'infautation phase' has passed). I love my boyfriend more than words can express and he loves me too. There are very, very, very slim chances that my boyfriend will EVER find out about these mistakes. So, I chose not to tell him. These hook ups meant absolutely nothing to me, and were mostly the result of too much to drink (which I have only drank one other time besides these two).
Any advice on how to cope/what to do? I am not going to tell my boyfriend, but I just need some general advice and to know I'm not the only one in this situation. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hmm. I was going to say don't tell him, but you beat me there.
Let it hurt.
I'm serious. Don't "deal" with it. Don't try to feel better. Remember what you did and let yourself remember what it feels like to betray a loved one.
Its a great way to not do these kinds of things again. Sometimes pain is the best teacher, and to be honest, as someone who has done things he is not proud of the best way Ive found to not repeat the behaviors is to sit there for a short while and think about how truly fucked up of a person I can be if I don't control myself.
So now, I do control myself. Alot. And I'm a much better person for it.
Modify your drinking habits. Don't share couches with friends. Pay attention to yourself and your behavior.
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I don't understand why girls send naked pictures of themselves to guys. I'm a female, and strictly good friends with a couple of guys that have a whole lot of pictures of girls i KNOW and am friends with on their phone. It freaked me out to be honest with you. The girls weren't even dating the guys..
Basically, I have no idea why you'd send pictures of yourself to a guy when it's pretty obvious they will be sent around. It doesn't make too much sense to me.. (link)
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See below answer.
Seeking attention mostly. Even negative attention.
Along with a severely unhealthy lack of attention to consequences. Those images count as child porn if theyre under 18.
Count yourself lucky that genetics gave you enough brain cells to not do stupid shit like this. Many arent as blessed =p
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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
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Find a way to get money, however you have to. Borrow from friends, take an odd job. Just do it fast. A friend of mine pawned her computer in college for this purpose. Its neccesary.
Go to the clinic thats 4 hours away.
Anything else can put your health in jeopardy, put you in legal trouble, and especially put him in legal trouble if he helps induce a miscarriage.
Honestly, this is the point where you tell your parents if you know they'd help you. As much as it would suck, if thats what it takes to not screw up his and your lives, do it.
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Sorry this will seem very vague, but I want to be in fear the guy in question ever finds this.
There's a guy and I think he might ask me out. The only problem is, I know for a fact it will only be so he can have sex with me, or he will try to pressure me into sex.
Now, I'm not asking whether I think this is what he wants. After all I'm being vague, that would be stupid. I'm pretty sure these are his intentions.
Usually I'd say no, but the only problem is I sort of like him. So should I say yes and give him a chance and if he tries to pressure me into it I say no and dump him? Haha help! (link)
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Up to you.
In all honesty, some guys just need to be slapped. Teenaged boys are like puppies. You have to rub their nose in their shit.
My only question to you arises from the word "pressure"
What does "pressure" mean? Will he beg and whine and plead and convince? Or will he put hands where you don't want them to go and start trying to remove clothing.
If you think hes harmless and honestly want to date him, go ahead. Lay your limits down firmly and clearly, if you have to state exactly what he's allowed to do and not allowed to do, do so.
If he exceeds your bounds, slap him. Verbally. If he repeatedly begs for sex and is annoying, dump him.
You have a good head on your shoulders. You'll know if hes going further or doing things you dont want. Dont let him. Period.
In a worst case scenario, I've not met the man who can withstand a woman stabbing her fingernails into his balls and twising hard. Laughing about his tiny penis while doing it sweetens the pot.
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