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How do I act on a date? I want to make a good impression!
I am going on a date with a really nice guy soon and I want to make a great first impression on the date. He knows me from work but I really want to show him a different side of me. I am really already shooting for another date after this first one, as long as everything goes smoothly and there isn't some twisted shocker by the end of it. I think I know him pretty well but I want him to be as interested in me as I am in him.
I know I need to dress nice and be polite, but I'm sure that's not all. He's never seen me outside of the work environment and I really want to wow him with myself. I am a pretty down to earth girl, and I don't do anything wild or risky (I don't drink, smoke, have sex, etc.), but I want to show him that I'm interesting.
Can anyone just tell me how to make a great first impression on a date? I mean, how in the world do you act on a date? I don't want to be pushy but I do want to show him I'm into him. What do you do on a date? How do you act on a date? Are there specific things I need to say or do while on a date?
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First off, if you smile at him and don't act as if you're bored, or act as if something is wrong, hes going to have a great time. Hes as nervous about this as you probably are. Or hes not nervous at all, and you being nervous is going to seem cute and endearing.
Second off, RELAX. A quote from the movie Hitch (appropriately edited for gender), while I marshal further thoughts at 5:47 in the morning.
"He said yes, when he could have said no. He made a plan, when he could have just blown you off. That means it is no longer your job to make him like you. It's your job not to mess it up!"
In retrospect, I think that was a bad quote for the purpose of relaxing you. Oh well, its already there. However, you should be informed, that its REALLY hard to make a bad impression bad enough that he won't go for a second date if you express interest in one yourself.
Here are examples of the few things that can drive a guy off in a hurry
- Talking about personal drama thats not funny
- Talking about marriage, kids, and your plans involving those for the future.
- Talking about your family when its not funny
- Being a bitch (really not hard to avoid)
What should you do? Be yourself. Relax. Crack a joke or two. You don't have to be polite, you have to be friendly. They arent the same thing.
Ask him questions about himself and let him talk a while. Let him ask you questions and respond. Smile at him alot.
Smiling is big. Not a huge grin like a 5 year old who's proud of the fact that she just ate a whole watermelon (man my metaphors are getting wierd thise late, arent they?) but a small "I'm enjoying myself" smile.
Smiles let him know "everything is ok"
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I've always thought charm is the most impressive thing there is. So channel your inner Holly Golightly (the main character of "Breakfast at Tifany's". If you've never seen it, watch it now!), and charm the pants off of this guy.
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This is an article entitled "How to Be Charming." Quite useful ;D.
Another great tip is to smile! There's a little saying that everybody is pretty when they smile, and I believe it is true. A warm beautiful smile shows that you are interested and are able to have fun.
Lastly, and most importantly, confidence is key. Nothing is more attractive then someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who isn't afraid to show that to the world. So even if you don't have it, fake it. Sit up straight with your shoulders back and your head held high. Speak at an audible tone and don't be afraid to show your opinion.
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So naturally you might be nervous. That's fine, because most people get a little nervous on dates. There are just a few key things to remember.
-First, please remember who you are. By this I mean your strengths, your hobbies, things that few people know about you, your philosophy, or anything else that is unique to you. Being able to sustain a conversation is very important during a date. When the two of you talk, you will find out pretty quickly if you are alike or not.
-Second, you should try to remain calm. This is where most people blow it. It's like as soon as they see the guy [or girl] they freak out, turn red and forget everything. If this happens to you then it's okay the date isn't over yet! Say hello and get a conversation going.
-Lastly, as for the whole "making a move" part, you should pay attention to his signs. He might like try to hold your hand or something like that and if he does you should let him. Whether or not you want to kiss him, is your choice of course so do what feels right.
I hope that you have a great time on your date and many more to come.
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i know this is kinda like the answer that you expect to here but seriously... be yourself. Cause if you try to be someone else to impress him then he may fall for the someone else that you're trying to be and not you. And they you'd have to act different the whole time you were dating him. haha so yeah good luck hope it goes well!
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