about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

Of all the movies iTunes provides, which movie would you recomend for anyone to purchase? I want to buy a good decent movie that is worth my money on my iPod.

Well, a few I'd reccomend are:

- 13 Going on 30.
- Saw 1-4.
- Stay Alive.
- Zoolander.
- Mean Girls.
- School of Rock.
- Sky High.
- Finding Nemo.
- 10 Things I Hate About You.
- Underdog.


Those are just some I saw on iTunes that I watched and liked.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I have a test on monday for school and i need to study some words.The problem is that whenever I study, I forget what i studied the day of the test.My question is, how do i remember what i studied so i dont fail that test?Any advice helps thanks!

Try making up memory tricks!

For example, every week in my english class, we have a vocabulary quiz. My friends and I make up little memory tricks with the words, such as:
"Becca was quite [word] when Alex stole her book."
or something like that.

I hope this makes sense and helps? =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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well what is something i could give my bf when i move? i want to make a memory scrapbook thing but something else that he can remember me by. im giving my bffs rings or those little token things but i dont know what to do for him. cause those are more for girls arent they? thanks so much :)

I really like the idea of a scrapbook.

But make it really special. Fill it with not only pictures, but like, ticket stubs of movies you 2 have seen together, or make a page of your top 10 favorite things abotu him. Fill it with magainze clippings with words you think describe him, or write him a poem or story. Or a 'remember when...' page. Just have fun with it and make it personal. I'm sure he will love it.


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is there such a thing as a 5 dollar or a ten dollar itunes card?

or does it just start at 15 dollars?

I've never seen anything under 15, so I'm guessing not.


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im going to the avril lavigne and boys like girls concert and i wanted to know if anyone that already went to it knows some of the songs they sing

get back to me if u can thanks!

I've never been to their concert, but I can guess what songs Boys Like Girls will sing (seeing as Avril Lavigne's concert set was covered below).


My guess is they'll sing:
1. The Great Escape. (definete)
2. Hero/Heroine. (definete)
3. Thunder.
4. Heels Over Head.
5. Five Minutes To Midnight.
6. Dance Hall Drug.


Those are my guesses on what they'll sing, as those are the most popular. They'll probably sing the rest of their songs, though, because they don't really have many others.
Have fun!


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I got an abortion in January and right after i got it i started on the birth control pills and i've been taking them correctly ever since. I had my period since feb 25th is something wrong?
I have sex with my boyfriend almost every night, so i don't know if that means anything but i don't eat much either. So my stomach feels weird at times... please don't tell me to take a pregnacy test. thanx

We are not doctors here, and cannot diagnose you. Any time that you're feeling side affects (or whatever it is you're feeling), your best bet is to see a real doctor.
My advice?- Go see your doctor, as this can be something serious. I mean, it can be something really unimportant and not serious at all, but it's better to be safe than sorry.


-Laura. (15-f)

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i wanna try some frech recipes that look really good and i have a familiy that does like trying something new like that.what do i do?i have a bf who loves it when i cook french foods.can you help me please?

Make crepes! They're definetely a good starting point, as you can fill them with a variety of different things, AND they're not too ahrd to make. Not to mention they're delicious ;]


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im 13/f

ok so theres this guy that i like in my 2nd 3rd and 4th period classes. he sitts beside me inn all of them. in 2nd, he ALWAYS talks to me instead of his like best friend. then in 3rd, he is like a complete jerk and ignores me and is always telling me to shut up in front of his other friend. then in fourth, he talks to me like nothing just happened. im so confuseed...sometimes i get the feeling that he likes me and them like 10 mins later i feel like he hates me.

HELP!! i need to know what he is thinking!!

We can't tell you what he's thinking.

All I can say, is that maybe he doesn't know if he likes you or not. Maybe he's as confused as you are. I would just ask him what's up and why one minute he's your friend, and the next he's a jerk.


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how do you get one? a discussion board?

As in, a forum? On this site?

If that's what your talking about, my friend has the perfect guide:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504815


=D


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13/f
okay i got my very first period on January 31,08
and i havnt got it since.
when do you think i will get it again??

We cannot see the future, nobody can tell you when you're going to get your period next.


All I can say, is that the length of time between your very first and second period, could be months. It's nothing to worry about, unless like, July rolls around and you still haven't gotten it again.


-Laura. (15-f)

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in this video, what is the title or author of the second song?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDEs07VsJug&feature=related

i tried typing the lyrics but i have gotten nothing. thanks for you help

It's 'Mean Gurl' from the Mean Girls soundtrack.
It says it in the video description...


-Laura. (15-f)

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what do you think autisim really is please be polite

"Autism is a brain development disorder that impairs social interaction and communication, and causes restricted and repetitive behavior, all starting before a child is three years old."


...what else would it be?



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I am a sixteen year old female, I am 5'4 (64 inches) and I weigh 109lbs. I am not fat but I would like to be on the more toned, healthy side since I eat really bad. I eat lots of greasy and sweet foods. It is really hard for me to commit to a good diet unless it is planned out at exactly the hour and day, every day of the week. I never have breakfast and when I do which is rare, I eat something like a snickers. I need a diet plan for every day of the week exactly planned out for me.

eg:
Monday
6AM - Glass of water, apple, toast?
8AM - Glass of water, (fruit, other food)?
TUESDAY
(ect.)

Also I need a plan on an exercise I can do that will not bore me and hurt a lot.
I do not like sit ups but I am willing to do about 50-100 every night. If anyone could come up with a really detailed plan on when I should eat what, drink what and when to exercise I would really appriciate it.
Also, I would appriciate a good healthy suggestion on cereal that I can eat in the morning so I can shed a few pounds.

To start, you need to eat breakfast. It kick starts your metabolism, body funtions, etc and you are MORE likely to lose weight when you DO eat breakfast.
- Don't think I'm just saying that either, my mom is a registered nurse and this is a fact.


Anywho...
-As for what you should be eating:
Cut out junk food, obviously. Eat fruits, vegetables, and protein.

- For what you should drink:
Stick to water, and healthy fruit juices, preferably those without a lot of sugar (i.e. apple/orange juice, V8 Splash, etc.)


Here are a few websites I found that may be able to help you:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/loseweight.htm

http://www.essentialnutrition.org/lwhw_doc.php

http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/lose_weight_safely.html


-Laura. (15-f)

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okay so ive had my period for about a year and a half. Its so irregular and sometimes I skip a couple months. I masterbate sometimes so I was wondering if that had anything to do with it. Just wondering what's up with me. I don't think I should have this irregular cycles.

First off: For the first 2 years of having your period, it's going to be irregular.
Since you've only had it for about a year and a half, it should still be irregular.


Second: Masturbation does NOT affect your period in any way, shape, or form. So, that has nothing to do with it.


If you're that worried about things though, you can visit your doctor or gynocologist to get a second opinion, as I am not a doctor.



-Laura. (15-f)

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I am down and out.I havelost almosteverything that mattered to me in life and now I found out that i am sick very sick.
I have decieded that it would be better for everyone if i end my life
.I know all the reasons not to but the pain in both my body and mind are unbearable.
SO i need to know if there will be any help from the government for my exwife and sons when i do this.Please just tell me if there is someone for her to contact to help them thru this.
Thank you for any help

First of all, please, please, PLEASE do not end your life. It will not make anything better.


I know you're probably reading this thinking, What does a 15 year old girl know?
What does ANYONE on this site know?
They don't know about me or my life!
They don't even really care.


What I DO know, is that you deserve to be living.
You deserve to be alive.
You have the rest of your life ahead of you!
What we DO know, is there are other options.
And that's the thing, we DO care.
There are people who care about you, who want you alive. It's ok to feel down and out and as though you've lost everything, we all feel like that at some point. What's not ok, is how you're planning to deal with it.


There are options other than taking your life.
You can go to your doctor, and ask for something to help subside the physical pain.
You can talk to someone, tell them how you feel, and this can help your mental pain.
It will be worse if you take your life for both your ex wife and your sons.


Don't you want to be in the life of your children? Please, take a moment to think about it. Taking your life will cause you to miss out on everything. Their first words (if they haven't spoken them already), their first day of school (if it hasn't happened already), their graduation, their 16th birthday, their wedding, their entire life! You need to be a father here, and continue living. If not for yourself, for your children.


I hope, honestly, that your views have changed after reading this. PLEASE talk to somebody. PLEASE go to your doctor and tell him/her how you're feeling.
PLEASE GET HELP.


I wish you all the best.
When you feel as though you've hit rock bottom,
the only way you can go is up =]



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People see me as a shy, quiet girl. That's my personality... but I want to change. I want to be one of those girls who can be really loud. But I don't know how to be loud and change my personality. Any helpful advice would be appriciated

Honestly? I don't think you should change yourself. I don't think you really can 'change your personality'. Let it happen naturally, if that makes any sense?


I used to be like you, in middle school. I was the quiet girl who never really said anything, the one who had friends, but didn't really fit in well with them. But then in high school, I met a new group of friends and they really helped bring me out of my shell.

If you're still in middle school, you'll change in high school. A wise person once said, "You change more in the 4 years of high school, than you do your entire life." I think that's honestly true.


If you're in high school, try making new friends. I'm not saying you have to dump the friends you have now, because you don't. I think it's just a matter of feeling comfortable around them, and ultimately, comfortable with yourself. So find people that you're comfortable opening up to, and gradually, I think you'll bcome more open, and not afraid to be louder.


I hope this makes sense =]


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Anyone got any ideas on what I could do? I am pretty bored right now. I got a TV in my room, and a computer in my room(I am on CPU right now). What can I do? I can't really leave my house so. What can I do? I also have a Wii, an Xbox 360, a Ps3, and a DS light. Any ideas?

I'm sick, too >:|

I've been reading a lot. Books and magazine. Try that. Or writing?

Or oyu can try one of the 4 electronics you already have?


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Well I hooked up with this guy and found out he has a girlfriend the next day so what should I do, what should I say to him? does this make me a slut I feel disguisted with myself that I affilated myself with him.

First off: Don't feel disgusted with yourself. If you should be disgusted wth anybody, it's HIM and not YOU.


I don't think this makes you a 'slut', because you didn't know he was in a relationship. I think it makes him a jerk for not telling you.


What I would say to him, is something like: "Listen, I know we hooked up, but it's not going to happen again. You HAVE A GIRLFRIEND and failed to tell me. You're in a relationship, and I'm not just going to ruin it. So, don't expect anything more than a friendship from me (if even that)."


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What should I say if I want to be her boy friend?

What do I say?

When or where should I say?

If it is on AIM or something like that, how should I get her AIM without it seeming plain out obvious why?

I read somewhere that in front of a crowd is bad, because you can both embarrass each other, either way. I think this is why: If a girl rejects the boy, the boy gets made fun of, which will probably make the girl feel sad(if she has a heart :P), and if they go out, their friends will bug her about it.

Just tell her!


Life is too short to not take chances, seriously. If you don't make a move, you'll spend forever and a day wondering what could've, would've, or should've happened between the 2 of you.


Tell her when you're alone with her, is my suggestion. It' just more intimate that way.
If on AIM, just ask her for her screen name? It's not big deal. Then, just start a casual conversation, and then say it.

As for what to say, just tell her how you feel. Tell her you want to be her boyfriend because you like her. Then tell her WHY you like her, and that you hope she feels the same way.


Good Luck! :D


-Laura. (15-f)

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has anyone read the book, Forever by Judy Blume?!

i want books like that, like the same plot and everything..with all the details..

ANYONE?!?!?

This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen.

- You'll love it, I promise. I've read it at least 10 times and I STILL getchills when it ends :D


Other than that, try:
If We Kiss by Rachel Vail
What My Mother Doesn't Know By (not sure of the 2st name) Sones.
Lost It by Kristen Tracy.
Doing It by Melvin Burgess.


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