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Laura/22/England



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My earing is stuck in my ear. I can twist the earing and its fine, but my problem is the back won't come off!!!! I can twist the back but i can't push it forward or pull it backwards.

The earing as been in my ear for a while but I have never had this problem with other earings. Yea i should know better but i'm busy with work at the moment so some times i forget to change my earings.

What should i do? I tried babies oil but the back still won't budge. Should I keep twisting the back to see if it'll come off on its own? Or should I try some other liqud product? HELP!!!!!!!!!

Is it a butterfly back? They do get stuck sometimes, probably because of a slight build up (soap etc)
If you can't do it, get someone else to basically just pull the back whilst pulling the front at the same time. May take quite a bit of force, but it should become unstuck :)

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How do I stop my period for a hour

You can't, hun. Why do you want to stop it? You'll find you can do things you normally would whilst on your period, even swimming.

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On december 30th i got my tragus pierced on both sides. rugby reason has started and at practice my ears get banged on alot and they bleed and they have a bubble on the inside and outside of both ears. would it be okay to change my piercings into a post? Im scared if i try to change the jewlry i wont be able to get it to go through cuz of the bubbles. ive been wrapping my head in pre wrap and tape to keep them from getting dirty but then my ears are a crusty bloody mess afterwards and i think if i had a post instead of a big hoop theyd get hit alot less. is this a good idea?

Definitely change them to high quality bars, yes. Have a piercer do it for you if you aren't comfortable doing it yourself.
Those "bubbles" are probably hypertrophic scarring - I've had them on a few piercings. They're very annoying, but they do go.. it just takes quite a long time.
Also, do sea salt soaks 3 to 4 times a day, for about 15 minutes each time. Just hold it over the piercing - it helps a lot.
Oh. and do not pop them!
Any other advice needed about piercings, let me know!

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what happens if yu get an eyelash in your eye?

You should get it out, because it becomes very irritating, just like getting any other foreign body in your eye.
I get an eyelash in mine all the time, ha. I hate it, but I make sure I wash my hands, grab a mirror, blink to make it come to the front of my eye and touch it - it should stick to your finger.
If you can't see an eyelash in there, it could have worked it's way out and just left your eye irritated - or if you know it's in there but you just can't seem to get it out, you're gonna have to drop by to a doc and get them to fish it out (which has also happened to me!)

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I have acne on my back. I've tried alot of stuff to get rid of it like washing my back every night. Its almost summer which means tank tops and bathing suits and I want it gone by then so it's not embarrasing. Last summer was horrible because I had it and I couldn't swim. Please help! What can I do to get rid of it fast?
Thanks!

What do you wash it with? You'll need a medicated soap. Medicated creams will help, too. Have you actually seen a doc? They will prescribe them to you, you can buy some over the counter as well.
I know Tea Tree Oil/Witch Hazel works with spots, so after washing, try putting that on them.
Make sure your clothes are clean before wearing them and you change your bedsheets often. Drink plenty of water and get your daily vitamins.

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My mom never wants to spend time with me. I asked her if we could go to the mall to buy me a better bra today, and she invited my 11 year old sister. I realized we've never gone to the mall, just the two of us. I'm going through a tough time ( puberty) and I can't talk to her about it. What should I do?

Don't take it personally, hun. You're probably just over reacting - puberty causes your hormones to go all over the place.
It's probably not the fact she "never wants to spend time with you" - have you ever thought how your 11 year old sister may feel if she didn't get invited to go shopping with you both? I bet she'd be a little bummed out - younger brothers and sisters always get that little extra attention, you don't have to feel jealous and pushed away by it. :)
Talk to her when your sister's in bed or playing etc, I reckon you just need a little comfort at this time - don't forget you have friends to talk to as well.
Good luck!

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Omg! There's this guy Brendon i am or was friends with and over last summer, he left for a few days. Well when he came back he had to move beacuase he lived with his grandpa and his grandpa had died. I havent talked to him since school went out that summer and i dont have any way to contact him. I want to see him again so badly, and drop all this stress i have on me over him... I cry over it all the time..... Can i get some help here? PS Friend was bein a little B**** and said she talked to him after his grandpa died, but wont tell me how. Makes me stress out even more. Also tried to tell me she knew him best, and he asked ME out! HE CARED ABOUT ME!! I WAS OVER WITH HIM EVERY DAY OF EVERY WEEK UNTILL HE LEFT AND I CRIED MY EYES OUT WHEN THE BIATCH CALLED AND TOLD ME HIS GRANDPA WAS DEAD!!!!!! I WAS IMPORTANT TO HIM!!!!!!!!!!! And i know i still am......... We still have a connection and i can feel it..... I just want to talk to him..... but i dnt know how...... (Brendon if ur reading this it's LJB... I miss you!)

Hey, is he on any social networking sites? Enter his name on them (like Facebook for example).. even Google his name, even an old phone number/email if you have it - sometimes people pop up this way.
Was he part of any groups? Was he close to anyone else? Ask other people close to him if they have any idea.
I don't know where you are in the world, but here, people can get access to the electoral roll via our council offices, is there something like that you can do in your area? Taking it up to a higher, more professional level is your best bet if the above didn't work.

Good luck, let me know how you get on.

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what does it mean to spoon someone

"Spooning is a cuddle when both partners cuddle facing the same direction, i.e., the front of one person is in contact with the back of the second one. The person whose front is in contact with the other's back is referred to as the "Big Spoon" and the person whose back is in contact with the other's front in referred to as the "Little Spoon". "Big Spoon" is a position held predominantly by males, whilst "Little Spoon" is typically the female, or smaller partner."

If you still can't picture it, type "spooning" in to Google images. :)

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Okay so in my vagina in the back right inside the entrance it feels like big bouncy ball sized bumps 3 or 4 of them. They aren't in my vagina but maybe my anus? I can't feel them through the back wall. They're kinda hard but can move. I'm able to push them and it feels like they move in my anus. What could these be. I've never noticed them before except for the past two weeks. They don't hurt. Thank youu.

We aren't doctors hun, so it's impossible for us to diagnose you, especially over the internet.

What you could be feeling may be something really simple and nothing to worry about - like your cervix for example.

Make an appointment to put your mind at ease. Any lumps should be checked out.

Good luck.

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i am 21 i smoke and do pills and i am on high blood presure meds but when i went to the bathroom a hour ago it seemed that ....that erge i had was blood more then feces the water wasent totaly red but more red then clear no pain or anything maybe alittle burning or iching after if you canhelp me i would be much apritated

Get to the doctor. There's plenty reasons for blood in stools, some which aren't anything to worry about and some which need treatment asap.

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i'm 15/f and a couple of days ago on Thursday, I started getting this sharp pain in my heart to my back every time I took a deep breath. Now it's Saturday night and my heart started racing for just going up and down the stairs to my room. However, I went to the mall and walked for a pretty long time but didn't seem to have any problems. My heartbeat sounds pretty weird too. I'm going to go see the doctors on Monday. Could it be bad? Does anyone else have this? What should I do?

Sounds very similar to something I had when I was around 12 years old. I'd randomly get palpitations, chest pains and my heart would make a "squeeking" sound.
I had numerous tests and the specialist said it was a heart murmur. I didn't need any medication for it and now, I don't get any trouble with it (I'm 22) I'm not sure why it started then, but I remember being told a virus could have triggered it off - I'll never know for sure.

Now, I'm not a doctor, but I'm saying, things like this are common and sometimes, they just pop out of nowhere, which cause a lot of worry and stress!

Try not to worry about it - whatever it is, you've already done the best thing by making a doctors appointment.

Let me know how it goes in feedback, good luck!

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i am getting my cartdilage peirced, and i want to know if i should get my tragus done too? Im aasking because i really dont want an infenction. and i heard it alot of times gets infected. and im not afraid of getting it done, not at all. but i dont want to get an infection. I heard it is normal for the pericing to get sore after a few days after getting it done. But the thing is it would be a pain if i got an infection. I heard for the peircing to full heal it takes anywhere from 7-12 monthes for it to heal. and i have spring soccer in abut 3 monthes, and we always have to take out our peircings even if they are studs. (hopefully they will make an exception :) lol) but i really, really want it done. But is it worth it? and how do i clean it? can i touch it? HOW DO I KEEP IT STERILE (IF I WANT TO GET IT DONE) SO I DO NOT RISK AN INFECTION? and should i get a stud or hoop? thankkkkkk you xoxo

I've had both and haven't had any infections.
Basically, go to a piercer you trust. They will explain the aftercare to you and make sure you follow it! Just cleaning it once/twice a day with sea salt soaks is what I did - putting all these ointments on it is a huge no no, because they just get trapped in the wound and can cause more harm than good.

Refrain from touching it - there's no need to touch it while it's healing, unless you're cleaning it - always wash your hands before handling a fresh piercing.

Healing time is different for everyone. My tragus was fine in a few weeks, yet my cartilage took about a year for it to be fully okay.

I suggest getting studs - they move around less and are easier to deal with (they don't get caught as much when you brush your hair etc)

and about your spring soccer, ask if you can put a plaster over it? If you aren't allowed, it should still be okay as long as you remember to put it straight back in after.


Any other questions, feel free to ask. :)

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So, I would honestly rate myself maybe a 3 or 4. That's what my (thankfully very honest) guy friends have said as well. Now before you get on to them, I am best friends with these guys and I begged them for honesty, so it's not like they randomly said, "Damn, you're ugly." ya know?

Anyways, I know at that rating it's impossible to be "pretty" on the outside, but I was just wondering, what are some things to look more presentable, closer to the "5" average?

Weight loss? Something different with my hair? I've been told there's really not much I can do and it's a matter of my face just "doesn't work." I have heard that I have a cute smile and pretty eyes though, so I figure maybe there's hope?

Any advice would be appreciated. Comments from trolls will simply be laughed at. :)

This is why you should never ask people to rate you! Some guys might think you're incredibly attractive, whereas others won't - that's life - not everyone likes the same things. Everyone is different in their own, individual way - you should be happy everyone's not clones :)

Anyway! Weight loss? Well, do you need to lose weight? If so, definitely. May I also suggest, tone up for summer. Working out makes you glow and look radiant, as well as look better and get fit.

Something different with your hair? Yes! Go for it. A lot of the time, girls feel boring and "ugly" if they've looked the same for a while. Changing yourself up boosts your confidence. Hair dye, cut, can't go wrong. :)

I'd really love to see a picture of you to help with the make up side of things, but you didn't add one. There's endless possibilities with make up. It's all about finding what works for YOU, which shades look good with your skin/hair, etc, so experiment. Good eyebrows also help structure the face, so if they're in need of a pluck, or perhaps you overplucked and are in need of an eyebrow pencil, groom away.

How about your clothes? Are you in need of a change/new style? Clothes help boost everyones confidence!

If you need any help, with anything in particular, feel free to inbox away!

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Im 17 dating a 22 year old with a child and im doing it just to pisss people off. WE have sex a lot

Hey, thanks for the Q.
Your title asks if you're a "slut" for doing those things.. In short, no, you aren't.
Although I definitely feel you need to have a bit of a reality check.. You shouldn't make yourself go through with things, just to piss people off. It's time wasting - you could have found yourself a lovely boyfriend who you actually want to be with in the time you've been messing around with this other guy.
Just ask yourself, is there actually much point giving yourself away like that to someone you don't even love?
I think you need to respect yourself a whole lot more and stop whatever game you're up to, sweetie. You're better than that.

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See at the moment I really like this guy Ryan we've known each other since last summer and someone told me he liked him which I could tell he did the only thing we did that summer was talk and just have the best time togther how we met is this group thing in the summer where we all met up everyday now that it's over I've liked him but now I can tell he doesn't like me anymore but I see him every day in some classes which I'm a freshman and he's a sophmore we like never talk anymore which makes me really sad now another girl from the summer group likes him but she goes to a diffrent school. And we talk sour him which at the moment the girl and Ryan keep talking through text and calls so after yesterday which I was crying I decided I let him go or a while then maybe later in the year bci think we have French togther next half so I'm having hope that one day we will talk again and it won't be awkward do you think he'll ever talk to me like he use to and like me again??

Guys are strange ones sometimes.
I know you want to hear the magic answer "yes he will like you again" but I'm afraid noone will know that for sure.
Instead of beating yourself up about it, can I make a suggestion? Right now, you have nothing to lose, so why don't YOU talk to him? It's 2011, guys doing the chasing is soooooo outdated! Girls should do some of the work too.
Does he have Facebook or something? Add him on there and start chatting, or next time you see him at school, just walk up and say it's been a while, how's it going?
Things can't happen unless you put in a bit of effort. :)

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I'm a baby and can't tell the girl that I like, that I like her. That's because I'm a girl, and have never been with a girl or liked a girl in this way. Nobody knows, so I'm so scared of somebody finding out. So, I wrote her a message on Facebook explaining my situation. I made a fake account and told her that I didn't want to tell her who I was yet, because I needed to know how she felt about the whole situation. My question is though, is there any way she could find out it's me. I mean, I know she couldn't just because we never talk at school- she knows who I am but our school is HUGE. I'm just wondering if there's any way on Facebook she could find out who I am?


If you don't share info on FB, then no.
(name, age, pictures, etc)

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My boyfriend and have been having a lot of sex and he said it'd be easier if we used some lube to get things started at first because I don't get really, really wet. I have some lotion (unscented and scented varieties) here and I was wondering if that works okay as lube for sex or not? We're both kind of young and we're both embarrassed to go to the the store for sex lube lol So, does lotion work well?

Noooooo. Lube is designed for those areas, whereas everyday lotions aren't. They'll dry out and will probably cause infections as well as damage condoms.
Get the original KY jelly. It doesn't say "FOR SEX!!!!KJSHKFDH" all over it - it's a lubricant which can be used with sexual intercourse as well as many other things.. so it's not exactly embarrassing to buy. :)

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Okay so I have had two incidents were I wanted God to make me be sure he was there. Once when I was about 9 and once just now. The first time I asked God, I asked if He would make the phone ring at a certain time. It rang a few seconds after the clock changed. Then I asked for me to get a text mesage or a call at 7:07 and I was still praying at 7:07 then I stoped praying and it was 7:08 and as soon as it turned to 7:08 I got a text. I thought it may have been a cowincidence so I Asked at 7:19 for me to get a sigh. This time my phone rang at 7:20 and I am wondering if God is doing this like tring to make me do something or think something. Please help an give opinions on what you think It is? Do you agree It is in fact God?.

You'll get mixed responses with this one, from people who believe in God, to people who don't.
Either way, it matters what you think, noone else.
If you like the idea of God trying to contact you via your phone and prayers, then so be it. Everyone feels/sees God in different ways.
Personally, I do believe it to be a strange coincidence, but I do believe in God.. and I do believe he contacts certain people at some point, or sends messages to them in ways we will never really understand.

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Is if reasonable for a guy to give a gift to his girlfriend at christmas if they started dating in Novmeber?

Absolutely! It doesn't have to be anything extravagant or bank breaking. Just a sign to show you care.. plus, it's your first Christmas together, so it's special either way :)

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how do you keep american eagle jeggings from losing their color in the wash? should i wash it separately by hand in cold water..? the pair i have are extremely faded =(

Do they have a care label and are you following the instructions properly? If you are.. or there isn't a care label, try the following:

Always make sure you wash them inside out

Hand wash in warm water inside out if you can, if you can't, put them on a delicate spin

Don't tumble dry, just hang them

Change detergent, it could be the one you are using is too harsh

Only wash them when they need it


Good luck!

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