yes, unfortunately this is not healthy eating habits.

does your weight seem to stay right where it is?

thats because you arent eating correctly.

you shoudl ALWAYS eat breakfast. ALWAYS, becuase if you eat something early, it wakes your metabolism up, and gets it going all day long. if you wait until 3pm to eat something, then your metabolism is off to a very slow start.

did you know its actually healthier to eat tiny portions of healthy food 5-6 times a day?

it is. and if you completely take meat out of your diet, and dont replace it with a protein substitute like tofu, you arent getting all of the nutrients your body needs to be healthy.

you can be a size 0 and be LESS healthy than someone a size 10. crazy right?? its true.

it doesnt matter how skinny you are, if your not healthy and dont get all your nutrients, you are just as likely to have a stroke or a heart attack as a very large person.

so to conclude, DO NOT EAT ONCE A DAY. eat 5-6 small meals a day. (your metabolism slows between meals) to keep it moving fast, eat every few hours.(it doesnt have to be a large meal, just a salad, or some tuna fish, or piece of fruit or some veggies.

hope this helps.

steph 21/f

well, im not going to lecture you, like you said you dont need that. But if you feel that you are mature enough to have one, then thats your decision.

Usually cloudy white discharge is an early sign of pregnancy. Many women do not have traditional sypmtoms sometimes. I know some women who didnt even know they were pregnant until they were many months along.

if you have any questions, or are curious, the best thing to do would be to take a pregnancy test. I wouldnt wait until your birthday but again, its your decision. You really need to know as soon as you can because if you ARE pregnant, you need to start taking prenatal vitamins as soon as possible to make sure your baby is healthy.

hope this helps! =]

well, its not america thats being mean. Its the people in your area.

In the southern states, suprisingly people are MUCH nicer!

really, you are hurting yourself more by caring what others think. But when it comes to others, stop trying so hard. you might be coming off desperate to them, and most people dont know how to handle that maturely. Make sure you arent trying to change yourself to please others. you need to love yourself first, and just find the right crowd for you. chances are, you might be trying to fit in with people that are never going to change, so just find some people who accept you for who you are. You will be much happier.

=]

steph

this is an advice column and you should expect several different opinions from different people.

i noticed that Bahaima gave a pretty good peice of advice, and warned you to be careful. I agree with her. I have been with my fiance for almost 6 years now. when he broke up with his ex girlfriend, he never talked to her again. he was over it. and we have had a very successful relationship. He is also older than me and when he graduated high school and moved on to college I had absolutely nothing to worry about.

i dont think it was fair that you gave bahaima a 3 rating just because she gave realistic advice.
if he sees his ex everyday and he stll has feelings for her, there is a slight chance he will try to get back with her.

im not saying that it will happen for sure, but there is a chance. and im just being realistic with you. and i want you to be careful that you dont get hurt by him. it may not be what you want to hear, but you shouldnt rate us LOW just because you didnt want to hear the truth.

i am here for you. if you want to ask me anything, just inbox me.

im a girl and all the signs you told us about like her touching your arm, admitting she wished she saw you more, etc. these are all signs of flirting and interest.

be mature about it and simply ask her on a date. Let it grow from there.

=]

i was in your exact position when i was 16. heres the best advice i ever got.

"as soon as you stop looking for love, it will find you"

i thought this was a load of crap.

amazingly, i gave up trying to find a man who would love me. a few months went by, and a guy named Chris asked me out.

we have been together for 5 years now. We;ve lived together for 2 years, and we are due to be married in December!

stop trying to please everyone all the time. It will make you look desperate. be confident, love yourself first, show guys that you dont need a man to be happy, and they will come crawling on their knees to be with you.

i agree with what rainbowcherrie said.

just be mature about it. if you want to be with him, give him a 2nd chance. and let him know that you got hurt and you are going to need him to earn your trust back. and that you are going to be careful so u dont get hurt again.

communication is the most important thing. while yall are kissing and alone, ask him where he wants this to go. tell him your feelings. the worst he can say is that he just wants to be frieds.

he may be distant because he doesnt think you like him because of the answeres you give people when they ask. tell him the truth! be mature about it.

when you are first starting out, your period is going to have a mind of its own. it will change thinckness, color, timing, and flow.

some girls have naturally heavier flow than others.

you dont need to be using tiny pads. i know they are comfy, but they rent right for you! buy the HEAVY pads OR, if you want comfort, get tampons. if you put them in right, you cant feel them at all. dont be scared.

steph 21/f

unfortunatly, there is no chat rooms that are guaranteed to have only kids your age in it. sadly, we live in a messed up world and there are creepy people who act like kids to prey on girls like you. if you do flirt, whatever you do

do NOT offer to MEET them, do NOT give them your number, address, or FULL NAME

people can find you with info like that.

im 21 and when i was 14, my friend tried to meet this guy that she met online. She tried to meet him at a mall. i went with her. we were sitting at a table in the food court and he texted her and asked her where she was. i told her not to tell him she was sitting at the table. I told her to dial his number and look around to see if anyone answers their phone. so she did.

there were no young guys our age standing around us and when she dialed his number, we heard a phone ring...

we watched a creepy fat guy answer his phone...and when she said hello, he started talking to her and we saw his lips moving with the words he was saying.

i hung up the phone and we stayed very still and acted like we were tlking. she never called or talked to him again

be careful.

hey there. I think I can help you out!!

ok, so let me tell you a little about myself.

I name is stephanie, in 21 now, but Ive been living on my own since I was 17. my parents home was a toxic place for me to be. My parents and I got along great! BUT, they didnt get along with eachother at all, and when they decided to split up, they both moved into seperate 1 bedroom apartments...which left me no where to live. They were so selfishly caught up in their divorce, they didnt have time to worry about me. I made a BIG decision that a kid should NEVER have to make, but in the end, I decided the best thing for me to do, was to take care of myself.

ok. so this is where my advice begins.

I dont feel like your mother has ANY right to take the things that YOU pay for. you are an ADULT, if you are paying for your car, then its YOURS and she cant touch it. same with the cell phone, laptop, etc. in this situation, most parents use the "You live under MY roof" excuse.

make it very clear to her that if her behavior with your things does not lighten up, you will no longer be "under her roof". giving her this ultimatum may just me the eye opener that she needs to realize that shes alienating you!

Ive lived on my own for 4 years now, and while Ive never had any trouble paying the bills, my biggest peice of advice to you is IF THERE IS ANY WAY TO STAY HOME, DO IT. but, i know that young people like us have our limits and we can only take so much until we just cant take it anymore.

ok, now

IF YOU DO happen to move out, i want you to know that it CAN be done. I want to be realistic with you, and let you know its going to be VERY HARD. and VERY STRESSFUL. IT is going to take alot of sacrificing on your part and it will put lots of stress on your relationship.

but it can also be the most liberating experience in the world. and it feels great to know that you are supporting yourself and you dont owe anyone for your success! :-)

ok some good tips. the keys to success:

1. whatever you do, dont get ANY credit cards. if you have one already, keep it, but NEVER max it out and start using it for emergency purposes ONLY> too many people I know abused them and now are barely in their 20's and have ruined their credit already. I was smart and NEVER GOT ONE to begin with.

2. be careful with your relatonship with your boyfriend. Chris and I have been together for 5 years and when we moved in together, it made us MUCH closer, and now we are due to be married in december. BUT living together will also give you more things to fight about so be careful. dont let stupid things hurt your relationship.

Chris and I live in a 620 sq ft apartment in the Houston area of Texas. Heres a list of our bills.

(keep in mind I make 10.21 and hour and he makes 12 an hour)

1. rent: $565.00/month
2. electricity on average is about $100 a month
3. my new car is $306.73 /month
4. his new truck is $300.75 / month
5. my insurance is $221 /month
6. his insurance is $151 / month
7. groceries are about $ 150-200 /month
8. cell bill is $132/month
9. gas for both of us is about $180/month


and these are just the necessities. If you want anything extra, like cable or internet, remember thats going to be extra.

also keep in mind, for us to buy everything to furnish our apartment, it cost us about $200 including furniture, dishes, etc.

it can be done. what you need to remember is that the first 6 months you need to watch your money like a HAWK and make sure you are sticking to your BUDGET. this means no going out partying, blowing money on unecessary stuff. after about 6 motnhs, you should be able too look at your expenses and know what you can and can not afford to blow.

bills are the number 1 priority. you can ruin your life if you dont pay them. so spare yourself the trouble, and just pay them. no exceptions.

im very excited for you and I want to be there for you for support!!

email me and we can talk more about it. I can answer any questions, you can ask me anything, and i have more advice to give but this post is getting really long.

im here for ya girl! mail me!

stephanie.ellick@gmail

how big would you say it is?

if its tiny, and doesnt seem to be in place, it could be a lump. if its more on the larger side, it could be a cyst? or a normal part. I think I have a strange feeling circular object too. Not sure if its normal.

im a professional artist.

i can tell you that art has no right or wrong answers.

customizing something that is plain and boring is a GREAT idea!

when you do something like this, you are making a statement and the art on the shoes should reflect who you are.

first of all, im not going to call you a murderer, but there were other options.

the 1st thing you should do if you get pregnant unexpectedly is to consider adoption. you SHOULD have carried it out full term, gave birth, and then gave up the baby. most people will pay all your hospital bills for you if you agree to give them your baby.

INSTEAD, you might have seriously damaged your uterus, and possibly never be able to have children now.

I dont think after an abortion, you should excercise at all. You have to "heal" which means you need to take it easy for a while. I seriously hope that you consider other options if there is a next time. abortions can do serious damage to your body, and also you are now subseptable to many infections.

i dont think this bleeding is a good sign. Get checked out to make sure. they should be able to tell you why you are bleeding and how long it will last.

when I think "rocker" i definetly do not think of Audrina P. or megan fox. Kat Von D is definetly more of a rocker style, go to google and search for kat von D in the images. look at some of her shirts shes wearing and see if you can duplicate those looks on your shirt. Its an artistic experiment, there is no wrong answer, have fun with it!

i do this all the time in photoshop, its easy, but im afraid that software is very expensive.

Email me the picture, tell me what you want left and what color, and i will email it back to you if you want.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

yes, you do need both. The engagement ring is the ring he puts on your finger the day he proposes to you. this is the super fancy pretty one.

THEN, you wear it everyday, and on your wedding day, when you say I DO, he puts the wedding band on your finger. YOU wear both. it doesnt look odd. google it and see some pictures.

i have the new sidekick that came out last year, and for a long time, i LOVED it. but now i really wish i could have gotten the behold. I am stuck in a 2yr contract so i cant change phones now.

anyone can accomplish anything with a good enough teacher to teach them!!

your instructor must not have been doing her job well enough if you werent catching on.

Find a new instructor, before getting started, sit with them and let them know what your goals are. They will be realistic with you and a good instructor will accept a good challenge and know the baby steps they will need to take to get you there.

Im sorry that you are in this tight situation.

The ONLY way the two of you are going to make it sucessfully, is if you have a serious talk with her. Let her know exactly what your earnings are, and exactly what you are willing to spend. Im 21 and me and my fiance live in an apt together.

NEVER ever put yourself in a situation where the bills take ALL your monthly income. Its important to have some "emergency" money because, BELIEVE ME, unexpected problems do happen. There is rent, electricity, groceries, gas, cell bills and some others. Honestly, in order to make it, you are going to have to be very careful and budget your money wisely.

You can make it work, but its going to be hard, and you need to use caution and be honest when it comes to extra expenses.

let me know if you need any support. Im here for ya!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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