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i have never dated a girl before but i do consider myself bi because i have had crushes on girls and they really turn me on(havent dated a girl because i cant tell which girls arent straight and im too much of a coward to tell a girl im interested in her). well my manager just hired this new girl i have worked with the last four shifts and i think she is extremely cute! and i love her personality we click. i just dont know if she would ever consider dating a girl or if she has before. one reason i became interested in her is because i kind of get the vibe she is interested in me. im not sure but she always talks to me, wants to always be around me and when we talk she stares at me like a guy who is interested in me. i always catch her glancing at me when she thinks im not looking. and today at work everytime she joked around with me she would touch my arm kind of like flirting. and i told her i moved an hour away and am only in town three days a week to come to work. she told me she wished i didnt live so far away and that she wishes she could see me more often. she asked for my number and joked around and said "so i can take you out" and laughed and said so we can do something outside work. it really feels like she is interested but there is a chance i think she must just be admiring me or really just likes me that much as a friend. how can i figure out her intentions i just dont want to come out and tell her im interested in her and freak her out if she isnt bi.
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im a girl and all the signs you told us about like her touching your arm, admitting she wished she saw you more, etc. these are all signs of flirting and interest.
be mature about it and simply ask her on a date. Let it grow from there.
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Well there isn't really a good way to find out fast, without having to worry about her actually not being interested and scaring her away at asking. I think you should just continue as you are, but slowly start showing you like her a little more, flirt a little more, etc. Remember not to come on too hard or too fast. If she starts coming on slowly more to you as well, it shouldn't take long to find out. If she is interested she may be thinking the same thing you are! And it does sound like she could be. And you should definately go out with her outside of work. That way you can see how she acs with you even more, and outside of work. And if she is only interested in being really good friends, then she should respect you and how you feel and not get scared away. Otherwise she isn't worth it.
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My girlfriend is the exact same as you. She's bi and quite shy about it. She's found herself interested in several girls but only a few times has she actually been able to express it to someone, usually only when she thinks the girl she likes is interested in her first.
Make a point to talk to this girl every chance you get. Seek her out as much as she seeks you out.
Also, flirt back. Compliment her and let yourself get caught staring at her. If you can't tell her flat out you're interested, just try to make it fairly obvious.
The next step is spending time with her outside of work. From what you've told me, I think she's interested in more than just friends. Girls don't stare at people they aren't attracted to.
Plus theres this part.
"she asked for me number and joked around and said 'so I can take you out' and laughed and said so we can do something outside of work"
The last girl my girlfriend was interested in (and the only girl she's actually done anything with) took this exact approach. She was flirty and such, but she wasn't the type to walk up and declare her interest openly either. Its kind of a defensive mechanism, what I read when I saw that is "I'm interested in you but I'm scared of saying it, so I'll put the idea out there in a joking manner and I can play it off as just a joke if I get a bad reaction"
Its something girls do alot. I've had girls I've dated make jokes about things they wanted me to do as their way of putting themselves out there without just belly flopping out in the open and hoping that I jump too afterwards.
The next time you talk to her, watch her eyes. Eye contact says alot about what a girl is thinking. One of my favorite things to notice is girls checking out lips. When a girl wants to do something, she glances at the part she wants to do it to. I've caught almost every girl I've ever dated checking out my lips during conversation without realizing it. Its a dead giveaway that the girl I'm talking to is thinking about kissing me.
Make eye contact with her, smile at her, compliment her, and return physical contact. You like her touching you in general, touch her back. It lets her know that not only is it OK, but that you like it when she does it and you want her to do it more.
And the very next time you see her, return her joke. Drop in something like "so you've had my number how long and you haven't asked me out yet? Are you planning to wait until we're old and wrinkly?" or anything along those lines. Said with a mischievous grin and a giggle, you'll get the point across without saying anything too blatantly out there, after all you're just repeating what she said, right? ;-)
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