...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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i really like this guy. he's been really weird lately and says that he wont go out with anyone until hes in tenth grade. he did like me for a week, but he wont answer any of my friends about me. i want to stop liking him, but i just cant! i really like him! what should i do? (link)
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Be his friend until he gets to 10th grade. If you rush things for him you may never have a future with him.
-shay :-)
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I like this boy named Robert. The only problem is he doesn't know. How can I tell him? The next problem is he doesn't know my name. I think I'm cursed. What should I do? (link)
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Well you should at least get him to know your name before you tell him how you feel. Maybe talk to him.
-shay :-)
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i went to camp with this guy and i slowely fell in love with him. i liked him for three years and now we rarely talk anymore. im not sure if i like him in a crush way, i like him more as a brother. i miss us talking. i dont want to go up to him and start randomly talking, i'd look like an idiot.what should i do??? (link)
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He wont think your an idiot he'll enjoy your company. Think if he came up to you to talk how would you feel? He may just be shy.
-shay :-)
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at the dance s i always rejected this guy i know, but now i like him and he probably wont ask me. he has a girlfriend now, he went out with her to make me jealous, so he doesnt like her. what should i do? (link)
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You should ask him to dance. Maybe you shouldnt reject anyone anymore you never know what will happen.
-shay :-)
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i am really good friends with this guy. i never really thought about it, but he comes up to me one day and tells me that he likes me. now, dont get me wrong, but hes a really nice guy and i will feel really bad about saying no when he asks me out. worst of all, my neighbors are his aunt, uncle, and cousins. im basically in a loose-loose situation. what do i do?
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You should tell him you dont want to go out with him. You have the right to choose who you will go out with and your neighbors cant do anything about it.
-shay :-)
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I like this guy named Joey and he is an 8th grader and I am a 6th grader and I really like him but I don't know what to do! People are like ask him out but I don't know what to say what should I do? (link)
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I think you should be his friend for now because at your ages numbers matter a lot.
-shay :-)
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My friend and I over the summer got really close. A little too close I think! What I mean is that whenever my friend hangs out with someone else @ school during lunch, I get really jealous!!! We are still really close it is just that I get so jealous like she all mine! What should I do? Do you have any suggestions?!?!
~Cocoabean24/7
P.S. Is yor nme really Shay? because I know I guy named Shay at my school! (link)
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If you hang on to her to close she may just slip away, you should know that. Let her do her own thing every now and then or she'll get sick of you. Maybe you could try hanging out with another friend every so often to losen your grip.
{I know! Some guys have the name, Shay too, but you MUST know Im a girl!lol}
-shay :-)
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Hi, Jollylollipop! I LOVE your name! Anyways, I need some help: I really want to earn money, but I am not 12 yet to babysit. What should I do? I REALLY want money!
Signed,
Money Hungry (link)
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Mow peoples lawn or wash there car. Ask your parents if theres anythig you could do around the house for some extra money.
-shay :-)
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I like this girl, but i dont know if she likes me. People say that we would be a great couple, and people also say that she does liek me. But if i ask her out and she says no, then i would be so embarressed. Mainly because we have been friends for a while and she might not see me the same way.. What do i do?
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It never hurts to take a chance. Ive turned guys down bunches of times and the way they react is that its okay and they go back to there normal lives. Ask her out and even if she says no stay in touch with her.
-shay :-)
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I AM CURRENTLY DATING A GUY THAT IS IN LUV WITH ME. I DONT KNOW IF I LUV HIM, I FEEL WEIRD AROUND HIM. IN A GOOD WAY. ITS LIKE NUTHING ELSE MATTERS. HE SAYS HE LUVS ME MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY... AM I IN LUV?? (link)
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Posibly, theres a very good chance, but I think you will know for sure when you love him,
-shay :-)
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my friend thinks it's funny that she's not doing her homework. Every time we try to talk to her, she doesn't listen. She's failing and i don't know wht to do. (link)
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Tell her that its not funny and you dont find it amusing. Call for a study group or even talk to her parents about her behavior.
-shay :-)
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i posted this question earlier:
what do you do when u fall for you best friend? i know it sounds like the CLASSIC relationship question.. but i really dont know what to do! i have been best friends with this guy for 3 months.. that mite not sound like a long time... but we have grown really close in that time! i like him as more than a friend now and when he starts to talk about who i like... i dont know what to say! he says im shy.. and well i agree.. lol cause im not the foward type to just come out and tell someone that i like them... i dont want to ruin our friend ship by telling him how i feel, but what if he likes me 2 and he wants me to make the first move?? please someone help me..
and id like to thank everyone who answered.. but one more question on that subject.. we go to tha same school and im in 8th and he is in 7th... i know that shouldnt really matter, but ppl will make fun.. what should i do if we do get together and that happens? thanx tons (link)
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Well usually at that age numbers matter a lot. Maybe you should just be his friend for now.
-shay :-)
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I often feel really lonely. Most of my friends have changed, and I don't know who are my real friends anymore. Some of my friends became really snobbish since they entered college.. And they act much differently towards me. It's like I annoy them, like i'm not cool enough. Also none of them ever have time for me.. Sometimes, I tell them to invite me when they do things together, yet they never even think of me.
Since two years, I also met a really nice guy named Kevin. He really is my best friend, but since a few months he's been completely ignoring me. He is always talking to his online girlfriend. When he can't talk to her he calls me and complains how boring things are without her. I feel like I'm a "last resort" thing to him.
How can I know who's my real friend and who isn't? (link)
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Im afraid your friends have moved on. Its very sad I know, but you can oly move on too. Im thinking that Kevin does care about you, its just your second and his girlfriend is first which is no problem. Try to get to gether with him and your old friends and see whats up.
-shay :-)
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Is there any way to know how it works that when a person cares about others, that person is overlooked, but if that person doesn't care, more people care about them? I've cared about a lot of people, and when I stopped caring so much, I got more attention AFTER I stopped caring. Is there any logical explanation to this? I'm seventeen and can't seem to get a boyfriend, not that I need one, but it would be nice to have someone special who cares about me. (link)
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Well some seem to want the love and care for all people so they pay more attention to the people who dont care to earn it. But I say you keep caring that is a great thing that people sometimes take advanrage of.
-shay :-)
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OK, Here's the deal. I kind of dated a guy a while back and when we stopped talking, I turned to his ex-girlfriend and found out a lot of stuff about him. It took so long to get over him and I can finally say that I AM OVER HIM for sure. Anway, his ex and I became confidants and we talked trash about him to each other all the time (ya know like girls do) and in a way, I really think that she's to be credited for me getting over him. Well, we were talking one night and I knew that the two of them had slept together when they were dating (they went out for like 2yrs.) and I told her that I was glad that I hadn't slept with him. He was her first and the only guy that she has slept with. She found out not too long ago that she has cervical cancer...she told me this and continued to inform me that her doctor had told her it was from HPV (the std). Ofcourse, she and I are both convinced that this guy is responsible for giving it to her (after all, he is the only guy that she has ever slept with). That's not my only problem: he has no idea that she has cancer and she is sooo scared to tell him. He and I share a mutual friend and that friend just happens to be my best friend (the two of them on the other hand hardly ever talk). So here's where the advice comes in, "our" friend knows about the cancer thing with the girl (he knows her too) and he has been on MY back about it ever since he found out (an accident by the way)...he wants me to tell the guy that he is carrying HPV and that his ex has cancer. I KNOW that he needs to know but why should I have to tell him??? I haven't even seen the guy in six months, he's dating someone now and chances are they're sleeping together. I would hate for someone else to get a venerial disease just because this guy is the selfish slug of a man that he is but i don't know what to do....PLEASE HELP! (link)
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If you are really her friend you should inform him. Ask him if he has it so you will know for sure that he gave it to her. I hope your friends okay!
-shay :-)
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Well basically I'm really out of shape. I don't play any sports i don't take dance classes or things like that. And i would like to stay in shape even though it's really hard for me. Does any body know any excersises that i could do over a couple of minutes to keep me in shape? (link)
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Do crunches, pushups, and run. Those are really great exersizes for your fitness. Try an internet search or a library for more ideas.
-shay :-)
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ewwww.......I am constantly spitting out green mucus in a styrofoam cup as we speak...any thing that will get rid of it? Help! its so gross... (link)
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You see a doctor about it or talk to an adult. You may have some sort of disease.
-shay :-)
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I have been married to a man I consider my soul mate for eighteen years. We have a 5 year daughter. My father died about a year ago. My husband loved him more than his own father (who is a selfish, egotistical, non-caring male). The loss touched us all greatly. I turned to taking care of my mom (my father's dying wish) and my daughter. I didn't realize that my husband had turned to drugs. On Feb 17, 2003 he was arrested and sentenced to 15 years. His tenative release date is Oct 2013. On Valentine's day (3 days before his arrest) his present to me was a broken leg. I still love this man. He seems to have changed since he has been in jail from the letters that he sends. Ironically it will be Valentine's day before I can see him. He was never violent during the times previous to my father's death. But he built a persona of me in his mind that he seems to hang on to. 10 years is a long time to wait. I have been told by others that he will be a harder person when he gets out. I had returned to school and will get my degree in Spring of 2005. I am not sure if I should remain married to him or not. I am afraid that all the lovely words he is writing is because he is afraid of abandonment. There are a lot of other details too numerous to mention but pertinent to the situation. But because of what he has done I have lost my home, my transportation, and my life. Should I give him a second chance or not? (link)
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Well I thik by the time hes out of jail he will definetley be a better person. I think that maybe you should really talk to someone. Is your heart still set on him or are you just in need of love and comfort. Think about it.
-shay :-)
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I'm about as butch as the next girl. I don't shave anything, I hate make up, I have a mean left hook, I don't take any crap on the street. My husband is a sweetheart, I found a rare gem in him, but his bull dyke best friend hates me. I have tried EVERYTHING to befriend her. I have tried ignoring her, I don't know what else to do. She HATES me. She tells total strangers what a seething bitch I am (well, I am) and she has tried to break us up many times. She has even threatened me with physical violence. I don't tell him who to be friends with or not, but she just won't let up. It's making him take a 2nd look at his friendship with her, and I'm afraid he's going to leave her behind. What can I do? I think she may be jealous of me. Does she want him, or me, or both of us. She has a history of sleeping with his other girlfriends, but I'm not bi. I'm letting him sort this one out for himself, but I feel kinda bad about it.
Violet (link)
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She is very jealous of you and she wants your husband. You really should talk to your husband about her and what shes done. No matter what you need to talk to him about her.
-shay :-)
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Me & my BFF really wanna pierce our bellybuttons. She's got hers done already, but I can't get mine thru! Any tips?? (link)
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Ask your BF got hers done. Go to claires they should have some really cool peircings though.
-shay :-)
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