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friend needs help
my friend thinks it's funny that she's not doing her homework. Every time we try to talk to her, she doesn't listen. She's failing and i don't know wht to do.
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Tell her she is failing and falling majorily behind and she wont be able to go onto the next grade if she does this and she will barely pass if she does and they only get stricter as you get older and higher in grade level -_+trix+_-
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if she doesn't listen to you, then get someone else to talk to her who she WILL listen to. You could all arrange to go round to someone's house and do homework together, this might help. If not, then you have to let her learn from her own mistakes, one day she'll realise that she isn't doing herself any good. :)
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Dear Homework-Help,
This may be the hardest thing to do, but it's the best thing to do as well. You need to talk to her parents about her not doing her work. Maybe they don't know about it. If they can't do anything about it, try talking to a counselor in your school, or her teachers, in private. Tell them whats up, and I'm sure that they will be happy to help you out. Your friend will get back on track with school...she just may be a little bit side-tracked with other work right now.
Hope this helps!
Signed,
DearBritney
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if she's not listening, let her be. its her fault she trashed her life. shell regret it later.
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Maybe you should ask her why she doesn't do her homework, is it because you need help if that's the problem tell her that you are there for her. Let her know that you dont want her to fail, and you know everyone doesnt really want to do there homework but they have to in order to pass. Let her know you two can work together and finish it. If there is a problem tell her that its ok everyone goes through the same thing.
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Well, I think you might not be doing the right thing. I understand that you're concerned with your friend, but do you know why she hasn't been doing homework?
The reason why I'm saying this is because it could be any reason. Some people can't handle school as well as some others can. What I mean by that is that she might have stopped doing her homework because it was too overwhelming for her. She might also have trouble understanding the homework and she has given up. Also, maybe she's depressed and doesn't feel like doing her homework. The best way to help her is to know why she hasn't been doing it. And the truth is that if you constantly push her to do it and talk to her about it, maybe she'll feel even less motivated to do it. That's why I think you should seriously ask her if she has been having problems in her life and then do what you can to help... And remember that yes, education is important.. But her well-being and her safety are more important.
Maybe she's not doing her homework because she is going through a "rebellious phase", if you see what I mean. If that's the case, I would stop bothering her about it. More than likely, she will get out of that phase soon enough. If things get worse, I would talk to her about it ...
When you're in middle school or high school.. You don't only get one chance. Your friend isn't the only one to have school-related problems. I know that you're worried, but to reassure you I can say that more than likely she will get over that phase.
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Well tell her what she could miss out on and what might happen if she doesnt ever do it.
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Do you know why she's chooses not to do it? Maybe she's having a little trouble with the assignments and is uncomfortable telling anyone for fear of how it may make her look. Quite often, people who have trouble with particular things resort to comedy to cover-up what they feel they lack. See if you can get her alone and talk to her about it. Explain to her why YOU feel so strongly about the steps she's taking. It may help a great for her to know that someone truly cares enough to discuss it with her. But take care not to try and alienate her. If she is having trouble with something, she may already feel a bit insecure about it. Anything that she may read as being an attack on her will only push her further away. Ask her if she is having a little trouble and if there's anything you can help her with and tell her that you would be more than happy to do so. You might even approach it as if YOU'RE having a little trouble with it and having her study with you may help YOU alot. Yes, she'll know what you're doing, but it will also make it easier for her to accept.
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Tell her that this isn't a laughing matter. If she continues to not do her homework, she might fail the class and be held back. Then she'd be in school forever!! Ahh!
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U NEED TO SIT DOWN WITH HER AND EXPLAIN HOW SERIOUS THIS IS, I MEAN WE ARE TALKING TRANSCRIPTS HERE, AND THIS IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT TO YOUR ACADEMIC FUTURE AS WELL AS HERS. U KNOW MAYBE ITS NOT THAT SHE DOES NOT WANT TO DO THE WORK, WHAT IF SHE JUST DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THE MATERIAL. ASK HER. OFFER HER SOME HWK HELP. BUT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD U DO THE WORK FOR HER BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW THATS NOT HELPING.PERHAPS SHE IS UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING OR SOMEONE, ASK HER ABOUT THAT TOO. MAYBE U CAN HELP.
I HOPE THIS HELPS
PRINCEZLADYD
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She may be nervous and trying to avoid letting you know what is wrong. If she doesn't understand what is going on in school, she may not want to admit it. I think offereing to do homework together sounds like a good idea, and hopefully she will accept your offer. If you are really concerned you can bribe her - do homework together then something fun afterwards.
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Now its just time to be honest, remind her she is going to be held back and end up in summer school. That all the good times she thinks she is having is going to end her back in the same grade. And remind her how much people are going to make fun of her because of that..
Cspinzoa1
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Tell her that its not funny and you dont find it amusing. Call for a study group or even talk to her parents about her behavior.
-shay :-)
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