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PLEASE HELP
I like this girl, but i dont know if she likes me. People say that we would be a great couple, and people also say that she does liek me. But if i ask her out and she says no, then i would be so embarressed. Mainly because we have been friends for a while and she might not see me the same way.. What do i do?
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Well talk to her about it and if she doesnt see you in that way that you see her then you are going to have repect that and not hurt the friendship from which she may be trying to protect in fear of ruining-trix
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Someone born when someone dies..
Someone laughs when someone cries..
If you love someone let them know..
For they may leave tomorrow..
And never ever know...
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go for it! but first ask her friends to see if she feels the same way.
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i think you should talk to her friends, then ask her to hang out sometime. then maybe she'll get to know you more, than eventually like you.
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Well, situations such as this one can be very touchy, and therefore, I understand your hesitation and concern.
In this situation, I think it really depends on how long you have been friends, how close you are to each other as friends, and how much you value that friendship. You're going to have to gauge that for yourself, and then do your best to use common sense and caution when applying my advice.
That said, you could do a couple of things. First, you could invite her along with a "group" of friends that you both like to go out and do something, and then just try to spend a lot of the time talking and having fun with her as a FRIEND. This way, you have the opportunity to "go out" with her and get closer to her, without turning it into a "date". If all goes well, you could do this more often, and just see where it goes. You'll know whether or not she's interested in having you for more than a friend before too long I would think, and then when you're more sure, you can feel comfortable asking her out on a "date."
The other thing you could do, is schedule study time together, or just find a way to TALK to her without anyone else around. Then, bring up what OTHER people tell you all the time, kind of laugh about it, and then ask her if that ever happens to her. If she says YES, then ask her what she thinks about that. If she says NO, it doesn't happen to her, then ask her why she thinks it keeps happening to you, and what she thinks you should say to these people about it. I would suspect that if your careful in your wording, and you're not TOO serious about it, you'll find out how she feels about you, and you can just take it from there.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
Samantha
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as a girl i think it is very sweet that a guy likes me. But i kmow it can be embaressing! But i think you should totally go for it! and if it is too much face to face, send her a note or even if that is embaressing, send her a note as secret andmirer! but if you don't like my ideas, fine! But i still think that you should go for it!
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Come on, what are you waiting for? You've got to go out there and take a chance. What's life without some risk? My boyfriend and I were "just friends" for 10 months before he asked me out. You can't go through life without coming across some embarrassment. Who knows? Maybe she's dying to go out with you, she's just waiting for you to make the first move. If you find yourself to shy to ask her face to face, write her a note or call her up.
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maybe u shouldnt ask her out just yet.. wait till you know for sure.. but its fun to take chances sometimes! if people r telling you that she likes you, then she probably does.. when you are talking to her, leave little hints that you like her.. or just ask her who she likes.. she probably wont tell you, but if she hesitates then she likes you... atleast thats what i do! haha! well i hope it works out..
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I have a friend in the same situation. He liked me but never told me until our sophomore year in high school. Sit down with her and ask her question about pervious relationship. If she excepts something just tell her. If you dont want to do that you can ask her how would she feel going out with a friend you knew for awhile and if that would change anything. Everything shoudl go smooth after that. Just dont have any of your friend go to her and ask her if she likes you thats the wrong step. Just do it yourself.Explain what's in your heart, it may scary her alittle but she let her know that she'll always be your friend and that she can talk to you about anything. You may have to take rejection for her but dont let it change the friendship.
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ask her out. duh. she's not going to ask you if she doesn't like you or if she's idiotic and old-fashioned. if you want something you've got to do it yourself.
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Well, I think you sort of answered your own question, but I totally know how you feel. If your friends tell you that they think she does like you, I would trust them. Okay, so maybe they are wrong.. But I really think you should find out for yourself. You don't have to directly ask her, but you can try to tell her subtlely that you like her.. You could be really nice to her, like give her presents and things like that. I know it sounds silly, but it can really work. Make it seem really obvious that you like her. You know why? Because if she goes up to you and tells you she doesn't like you but that she thinks you like her.. You'll have the choice to tell her that you've only been friendly to her because you like her as a friend.
Also you can ask your friends why they think she likes you. If they are just trying to match you two together, they won't know why. :P I really, really doubt it though.. But if they are sure of it, they will probably have noticed certain details...
There's a lot of things you can do to tell her how you feel as well .. You don't necessarily have to ask her out the conventional way. Writing her a letter or painting a portrait of her or giving her a special present to ask her out would be a nice alternative, no? Just use your imagination, and I really doubt she'll say no..
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In my experience, it's a little weirder for guys, and things may take a little while to return to normal if things don't work out, and some people have that silly love-at-first-sight-or-not-at-all thing... but still, if you think you'd make a great couple, go for it.
Try suggesting a night out with a movie and dinner (I'd suggest movie first, then a late dinner or coffee -- you'll have a fallback topic of conversation and your dinner chat won't be cut short by the movie schedule)... it's a little classier and less awkward than "will you go out with me?" and if she's just interested as a friend then she can ask if she can bring someone or just treat it as two friends catching a flick and some food. That way, you're not cornering her, there's no awkwardness in responding however she pleases.
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just ask her! She should be flattered that you feel that way! If she won't talk to you after it, then she's a BIG jerk!
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LOOK!! ALL YOU CAN DO IS TRY IT. THE WORST THING SHE CAN SAY IS NO AND DONT FEEL EMBARRSED. IF SHE IS YOUR FRIEND AS MUCH AS U SAY SHE IS THEN IT WONT MATTER. YALL CAN STILL BE FIENDS!!!
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Well lets begin with this if you ask her out she shouldn't say no because of the fact your friends because. Depends on wording like want to do something thid saturday, or would you like to go on a date this saturday. I think you get the point. Now go with the first approach because while on the date you have the option of talking about each others feelings. And trust me its not worth not telling your friend that you like them, because if you do that you may never tell them and that will lead you to not knowing weither or not she likes you. Hope this helped
Cspinoza1
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It never hurts to take a chance. Ive turned guys down bunches of times and the way they react is that its okay and they go back to there normal lives. Ask her out and even if she says no stay in touch with her.
-shay :-)
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