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What's the point in caring?
Is there any way to know how it works that when a person cares about others, that person is overlooked, but if that person doesn't care, more people care about them? I've cared about a lot of people, and when I stopped caring so much, I got more attention AFTER I stopped caring. Is there any logical explanation to this? I'm seventeen and can't seem to get a boyfriend, not that I need one, but it would be nice to have someone special who cares about me.
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I know how you feel ... But I refuse to believe people are like that. I mean, if those people didn't care about you while you cared a lot about them.. I think it might be because they took you for granted.. Friendship is like that very often, I think.. It's not because they don't care about you that they do this.. I think it's because they trust you so much and feel so comfortable in their friendship with you that they don't pay attention as much. I think that when that happens, you should remind them to pay attention.
I also know how you feel about wanting to have a special persn who cares a lot.. I'm glad I actually found that person.. And I'm sure you will as well. I think maybe you should look for that person.. But don't look too hard. Have a positive attitude with people. I mean, when you're at school, look at people around you and find interesting things about them even though you don't know them. I've observed people like this a lot before.. And I actually made friends that way. I know it sounds really stupid, but it does work. Because that way, you might notice things that you wouldn't have noticed otherwise. Also, I know it might sound cliché but -be yourself-. If you act different than usual and wear clothes you normally wouldn't wear for yourself.. Yes, you might have more chances to get a boyfrend, but you won't have more chances to have someone special who cares about you. Don't try to impress guys, but be nice to them..
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LOL. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL. I AGREE. SOMETIMES WHEN U DON'T SHOW EMOTION, U GET IT, BUT WHEN U DO SHOW IT U DON'T GET IT BACK. BUT LISTEN, DON'T GIVE UP SO QUICKLY. U CAN'T REALLY BELIEVE THAT THIS NONSENSE WILL GO ON FOREVER. I MEAN I KNOW U MUST GET THIS ALOT AND U PROBABLY THINK IT A LOAD OF GARBAGE, BUT U SEEM LIKE A CARING PERSON, AND IAM SURE IF U WAIT JUST A LITTLE WHILE LONGER U WILL NOLONGER BE A VICTIM OF UNREQUITED EMOTION.U KNOW MAYBE ITS NOT THAT U CAN'T SEEM TO GET A BOYFRIEND , MAYBE THEY JUST CAN'T SEEM TO GET U, MAYBE JUST MAYBE, THEY ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR U AND THEY KNOW IT.
I HOPE THIS WORKS OUT FOR U IF ITS POSSIBLE LET ME KNOW WHEN U FIND SOMEONE SPECIAL, OR BETTER YET WHEN SOMEONE SPECIAL FINDS U.
PRINCEZLADYD
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Well some seem to want the love and care for all people so they pay more attention to the people who dont care to earn it. But I say you keep caring that is a great thing that people sometimes take advanrage of.
-shay :-)
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Well, I'm not that great about boys, because I live with my mom and sister and no one else, and I don't have a boyfriend! But I will give it my best shot! Ok, I think that you should just try to be yourself, and if a boy doesn't like you the way you are, you shouldn't date him. but if you really want a boyfriend I suggest that you go to dances, because my friends got a lot of boyfriends that way!
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There is nothing wrong with being such a caring and loving person but if you overdo it you'll scare guys away. If you're not sincere with your actions, people would notice it. You're getting more attention now probably because you're not being phony anymore. You could still be caring and loving but only to those people close to you and to those you really care about...and not to every person you know even if you hardly know them. Be patient and be yourself...You'll find someone special when the right time comes.
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Actually, there is. When you care for someone, they have a tendency to take that for granted and no longer feel the need to strive for your concern or caring. But, just like anything else that we, as humans deem valuable, once it's taken away, it's THEN that we realize how important it was. Don't take it personally. A great deal of people do this. But, don't settle for it, either.
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Yea, you gain the attention because the person/thing they used to take for granted isn't there anymore. Its like when someone likes their best friend and the other is too busy to notice, the other person begins to gain another crush and the bestfriend realizes what they took for granted is there for them like they used to anymore. Its funny because many people seem to be asking me about what wrong with me I can't get someone special? In todays world finding someone who wants you isn't easy, it takes time and you have to wonder when you get a boyfriend are you going to put time into the relationship? Everyone goes through what your going through there is no easy explaination to give, except for the fact people do want to be desired. I hope this helped you.
Cspinoza1
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