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i am really good friends with this guy. i never really thought about it, but he comes up to me one day and tells me that he likes me. now, dont get me wrong, but hes a really nice guy and i will feel really bad about saying no when he asks me out. worst of all, my neighbors are his aunt, uncle, and cousins. im basically in a loose-loose situation. what do i do?
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Just tell him you would rather be friends with him. Tell him not to waste his time trying to get you because you would much rather be friends. Then ask him out as a friend, sort of like a test to see if you do like him.
Lizzy
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ok. honest advice: don't go out with him if he's not the right guy for you. try to just be friends with him instead. he'll understand, and maybe he won't even tell his aunt uncle and cousins. *thank you for your time*~luckiedice~
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This is a very difficult situation. You are just going to have to tell him something like he is a nice guy and all, but you don't feel that way about him. Yes, he will probably be hurt, but what else are you going to do? You have my sympathy.
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tell him that his friendship is more valuble than anything else you could have between the two of you and that if you did go out that it would be really strang when you two broke up that you would rather be friends.E-mail me at cyborggt2003@yahoo.com
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Okay. I'm guessing that you don't have any romantic feelings for this guy, correct?
Situations like this are always uncomfortable, but with a little finesse, they can be handled.
My first advice to you, is don't worry about things that haven't happened yet. But, if you're really sure that he'll ask you out eventually, then try this.
Tell him that you are sincerely flattered and that you appreciate the invite. However, you already have feelings for someone, and therefore, you feel it wouldn't be fair for you to say yes to going out with him, because you couldn't possibly return his feelings.
Yes, I KNOW it's a little white lie, but sometime we need to tell these benign little fibs in order to spare someone's feelings, and telling him that you are already interested in someone else is going to much more comfortable for both of you when you deal with eachother in the future, than if you were tell him that your simply not interested in him.
However, if you feel the need to be completely honest, then do so, but let him down EASY. Whatever you do, DON'T lead him on in order to save his feelings, because you'll only hurt the both of you in the future.
Sincerely,
Samantha
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Why would you say yes to him if you don't like him? Plus I don't think he'd be so excited over the fact that he got rejected to tell his aunt, uncle, and cousins. Do you really think he'd be like "A GIRL REJECTED ME!! ISN'T THAT GREAT??".. no.. so just say 'no' if you really don't want to go out with him.
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say no. it's better not to be in a relationship with someone you don't like then be in one with someone you don't like. no matter how sweet or nice he is.
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Tell him how you feel. If you guys are really good friends, which i dont doubt your are, he will understand. Just be as nice as you can about it and give him a good and honest reason why you dont wanna go out with him. Its not worth it (saying yes just to make everyone else happy) if it makes you miserable. So dont worry about it and just tell him the truth. It will be ok.
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You have to follow your heart tell him that you don't like him that way. Don't stop being his friend. Deal with the consequences later.
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Be kind and tell him how you feel, but be gentle. It would be worse if you were to go out and still not like him at all.
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I've been in similar situations, and I can tell you one thing. In that type of situations, the best thing to do is to be honest. You could try to date him to see if you'll start to like him the way he likes you, but if you are completely sure that you don't want to date him, I don't suggest you to do that. For now, you don't have to tell him how you feel because he hasn't asked. But when he'll ask you out, you'll have to tell him no... That doesn't mean you have to tell him in a harsh way. It just means that you have to tell him the truth. But let me give you an advice. Don't use an excuse like "I'm not ready to have a boyfriend yet" or something that's not completely true, because that could really compromise your friendship if you find a boyfriend later. The best thing you could do is to directly tell him that you don't like him that way for now but that your friendship with him is important to you ...
About the neighbors. There's absolutely no reason why they would get mad at you for this. If you don't love this guy, you don't. Chances are that they probably don't even know he likes you. I mean, most people don't want to tell their family about the person they have a crush on. :P And if they do know, they'll understand! They've been young too.
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You should tell him you dont want to go out with him. You have the right to choose who you will go out with and your neighbors cant do anything about it.
-shay :-)
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