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Hi I have a wedding in july, I want to buy a dress, but i don't want it to be too over the top, a nice palne formal dress. Do you knwo of any good stores/boutiques where i can find a nice dress for like 50-70 dollars...????Btw I live in Toronto so if you knaw any store around where I live that'll help too???

try going on dessy.com also http://www.talkpromdresses.com/formal-prom-dresses.html is a nice site. maybe they have those stores in toronto ? im sorry i couldnt help anymore =[

tell me if you find a dress =]

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my mom was telling me about chickens she used to have that had big fluffs of feathers that stuck up on the top of their heads. she said they used to be known as hippie chickens. what kind of chicken would this be?

my mom said something like cochran but shes not sure because there are different types of chinken with big fluffs of feathers on their heads. sorry that i couldnt give you a specific answer.

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well what is something i could give my bf when i move? i want to make a memory scrapbook thing but something else that he can remember me by. im giving my bffs rings or those little token things but i dont know what to do for him. cause those are more for girls arent they? thanks so much :)

i think the scrapbook is a brilliant idea ! sorry that i cant give you a list of things, but i really think the scrapbook is a good idea.

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Im almost 15 and a girl and I have a friend who is 3 and a half years older then me but still we are more than friends. Me and him have had sex for the past two years at least once a week share each others money, and see each other everyday. he was even living with me for a while. thing is he doesnt want to be more than friends and i do. He says its the age diffrence but the only person who could cause problems would be my mom and she wants together. His mom does too! Ive talked to him about this a while back and this was still his reason but this was about 6 months ago. Now i just dont know how to bring up with him. I have never cared about anyone like i care about him. Everyone says i should just give up and leave him alone but i cant even if we stay friends with the things going on in my life i couldnt make it without him. But im still getting hurt with the reletionship and know what to do. Advice?

look. i know this is hard to hear, but he only wants you for sex. if he doesnt want a relationship but he continues wanting to have sex, then hes using you. im sorry. really, i am.

write back and tell me what happened =]

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I like this guy, and for the past few weeks, I can't explain it, my life has been so much better, and the best parts of my day where when I got to see him, even if I didn't get a chance to talk to him. It takes a lot for me to like a person like that; I haven't fallen this hard in years.

This week I actually thought he *might* like me back, but now I find out that he most likely has a girlfriend. :/

If he does have a girlfriend, should I still put my effort into liking him, or should I forget about him now while I'm still ahead? I've been hurt too many times in the past, I can't handle being led on again.

try being friends with him while he has a g/f but first ask him if he has a g/f to be sure. if no then ask him if he wants to do something together, as friends. if he says no just keep flirting (but only little things) and maybe hell ask you after a while. if yes, then i hope you know what to do. if not just write back and ill be glad to help you. oh yea, please write and tell me how everything worked out. =]

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So there are these two guys, that I think I like. Let's start with guy one, we'll call him X.

X was my best friend in 5-6th grade. In 5th grade, he asked me out but I didn't like him in that way so I said no. After 6th grade, our friendship kind of faded but now in 8th grade we are better friends. He doesn't think I'm that hott, he probably wouldn't go out with me. But he's still just so amazing. He's funny, and is mean but in his own way that everyone loves. Did I mention he's a great guitarist? I was at a concert for his band and when he sang and played guitar he was just so cute. I want to be the girl he sings about in all his rock songs. I am literally willing to start losing weight for this guy.



Now guy number two. We'll call him Q.

Q and I were complete best friends in 5th grade. We'd hang out every weekend with my other best friend, "J." In 5th grade, Q was CRAZY about me. He asked me out and went nuts for me for a month or two. He punched his friend for talking about me behind my back. But I never answered when he asked me out. I 6th grade, our friendship faded. He became "in love" with J, and then later became obsessed with some slut. But I always sort of liked him, even if he was mean to me. And now, in 8th grade he actually has been very nice to me this past week. We laugh a lot and sit near each other. He hasn't been mean at all. He wrote this song for X's band, and when I heard the lyrics my heart practically melted. So I guess I like him. Oh, and he has the most amazing pair of eyes i've even seen.

So my problem here is that I don't know who'd be better. X, I would have to wait until he thought I was pretty, and Q I wouldn't really. Q is kind of a follower and I'm afraid that he's nervous to ask me out. I'm good friends with most of his friends, but I guess they don't approve. I just don't know who is more worth it.



q is definitely worth it. if x doesnt think youre pretty enough than its his fault (and loss)and hes probaly a jerk if he cant see that youre a beautiful girl inside and out. and besides q actually punched someone for you.

maybe q is just waiting for you to make the first move. you know that it doesnt always have to be the guy to make the first move even if we want it to be. you can miss out on a lot of great things if you sit around and wait for other people.

i hope this helped and please write and tell me how it ended up.

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18/f
I had a boyfriend for three years, but then I was going though a lot of problems so I wanted to take a break. Throughout this whole time we still kept kissing and everything, so I really don't even know why I called it a break. Well, mostly because I was being very ill-tempered. Well, two months passed and we went on like this. Holding hands, everything.. But I still kept hurting him. We knew that we loved each other and everything though, so when I was finally done sorting out everything (Actually, the problems are all back now so it was really STUPID of me to even do the whole thing!) We went back out. Then, a week later he broke up with me and said he didn't want to be with me anymore because it wasn't the same. A week after that he has a new girlfriend and forgets about me. He said I took too long to ask him out and many other things.

So what do you think? I wanted to freaking marry the guy. Is there any chance of us going back out again? It doesn't seem like we will by the way he acts towards me and I regret being mean to him so much, but we were technically going out the whole break :( I was just being very evil at times. I hate it so bad. Please, I need help with this! And don't tell me to move on. I have tried, TRUST ME. I know this is the guy I want for the rest of my life :( I really know it, but I don't think he feels the same way about me anymore because I ruined everything. I have even cried everyday since he broke up with me :( Sometimes it gets so bad I just wish there was a time machine and I want to go back so bad I have panic attacks. And I have talked to him about ALL OF THIS, and he just says that it's okay, it doesn't matter that I hurt him because he found someone new. I just can't beleive it at all. A week ago before he was with her he told me how perfect we were. And I am pretty sure he was being genuine.. He is just trying to get rid of the pain maybe? Maybe he does like her? I don't know. Please show me a new perspective :(! and please, please think about everything I have written here.

i think that first you should try being a (good) friend and change. be just as nice as you would be to any other one of your friends. im sorry, i know that you dont want to hear this, but i dont think you guys were meant to be, trust me. ive been in the same situation and after a while i kinda sorta got over him. well, enough to date other boys. i suggest trying to date others, NOT TO MAKE HIM JEALOUS, and see if after youve met others youre a little more over him, if that makes sense. if this is your first "real love" you wont be completely over him for a LONG time. but youll like other boys and maybe hell come crawling back to you, you never know =]

tell me how everything worked out

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Hey Yall,
This is MiSSc, and last Sat. I met a boy from a TV show I guess, and he's from the 'Last Boy Standing' YM Magazine. We had a 20 minutre conversation and he signed two autographs for me, and one said, "I hope to see you later and hope you get the call back! Derek Ebner". Our agent said that he was trying to "set him up" the whole day. So I told her that I have a homecoming next Sat. (tomorrow) and I was wondering if she could ask Derek if he would want to go with me. Well, the results was that, unfortantly, his homecoming is the same night as mine, and he's homecoming king so he can't come, but if he could, he would REALLY want to go with me. I was really happy that he does actually like me! But sad. And now I am confused...I REALLY like Derek. Not because he's famous or going to be a celeb. or anything. But I like to be around him, I like it when I'm around him, I like to talk to him, he has a gorgous smile, he's SO hot, he writes beautiful poems, and really down to earth. I like him SO much and can't stop thinking about him. But, I would feel weird asking my agents to tell him I want a date with him. And I don't know if they'd feel safe giving me his number and adress. So...WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!? I'm CRAZY over him! And he likes me too. But he's shy, so I don't think he'll call up the agents for my number either. So, PLEASE HELP ME SOON!!!
Love you guys!
~MiSSc~

you sound like a great person and i say just go for it...call his agent(s)(?) and ask for his number...if they dont feel comfortable giving you his information leave yours (#,information,etc.) and a message (call me,id like to talk to you or something) and if he calls back-there you go. if not, then he probaly isnt that attracted to you in which case i would be really really sorry.

tell me how everything turns out. please. your "story" is so interesting =]

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ok i have the awesomest boyfriend in this INTIRE world! hes the sweetest person i know...any ways he wants to kiss me and hes a real good kisser ive heard...but how do you make out with some one? im reallly nervous that he will try to do it and i will have nooo clue! i know that sounds really dorky but im really not sure! thanks!xO

l0l..just talk to him about it...i know it seems embarrassing (however you spell that)but at least when its over hell know it was your first time and that you can (and will) improve.

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im going out with a great guy i mean i love him 2 death but all he seems 2 want 2 do is hug kiss and hold hands and cudle i know im young but i mean i love him so much i just dont know wat to say. im just scared bc 2 months ago the same thing happened with me and my ex then we got in a fight and broke up. But when i was going out with my ex he was the same way . I love my bf 2 death but i just dont want 2 be hurt again or hurt him again. wat do i do plz help

haha you sound like me =]
all you have to do is tell him youre not emotionally ready to hug,kiss, and hold hands. if he doesnt stop, dump him. i know its hard but its better than being pressured to do something youll regret for the rest of your life, if you know what i mean. please write again and tell me how everything worked out.

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alrighty
there are 3 boys that i like. (lol im a little player jk) well anyways. one boy i have liked since the 7th grade, and the other 2 i started liking this year. the first boy Ill call him T is kinda ugly but the only reason i like him is because he is funny and nice.(he is not the one ive like in 7th grade). my friend asked him if he liked me and he said no but he is always smiling at me and stuff. W is so cute. i told everyone i liked him and he found out. i feel kind of weird around him. I have no idea if he likes me.some times he sites by me in class when we arnt doing anything but i dont know. finally J(the one since 7th grade).My friend's boyfriend and him are best friends. They said that he was always talking about me. Well the other day my friend said something when we were all together about his girlfriend. wich made me kind of mad which is dumb because i told my friend i was over him. But my friends boyfriend told me that he still likes me. here is where i need the advice. i dont know who i like more w or j. i cant ask one of then out because they say that w only liikes pop girls who hang out with a sertin group and if i asked him out and he said no that would be really imberising for me and i cant ask j out because he hase a girlfriend already. Im not really into t so he is out. should i not do anything or should i act like im really into one so he could ask me out. i am kind of mad a j because his friend was talking about me to him even when i was there and he just agreed. that ticked me of because he is apose to be my friend. should i be boyfriend free for a whill or something. what do u think?

i think that you should go out with w because #1 j has a girlfriend #2 hes willling not to stand up for you when someone talks about you and #3 you said you dont like t that much so that only leaves w...but its your choice. i hope this helps and please get back at me and tell me how everything worked out.

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ok... im 16/f never been dating before.. but dont think im ugly or nething i think i looks middleupper class girl and 34B+ bra and a hi but not to hi butt and i only weight 112 pounds 5'6 thats my hight and i think im got ugly and ne thing but guys never ask me out like never some guy flert me but they are like really ugly and all... but no body really seriouly i like ask me out and i like this hot hot hot really fine guy in my shool but he is too hot to be my b/f ( dont think he konws me) but i need help to get me a b/f... help me out what should i do to get boy's attention
PS there is a guy at my art he is ok i want him to be my 1 week b/f but how??????

okay first of all NEVER EVER EVER think that a guy it too good for you. EVER. because hes not. trust me. when you see him do something to make him notice you like saying hi or smiling at him. then when he starts to notice you a little bit more keep eye contact longer than you have to but dont stare. then flirt. if he doesnt want to go out with you try being his friend first, maybe when he gets to know you hell start liking you, if not its probaly better just to stay friends. if youre not friends and he doesnt want to go out with you, (i know you dont want to hear this) but hes not worth your time.

i hope this helps. and tell me how everything worked out. =]

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I go to math lab to see all my friends. and there's this guy who goes there to hang out with me and my friends, his name is Ryan. He is really charming but not as good looking. anyways, my friends told me that he likes me (because ryan told them). I found it kind of obvious. You see the problem is one of my friends Alison who is there likes ryan, but he doesnt like her at all. and one of my other friends Sam doesnt like alison because they think she is annoying. Even though I just wish she wouldnt be there. She just comes for Ryan. And I kind of like ryan. he told my friends that he likes me and he thinks im really cute and stuff. But I dont know what to do. Today he was acting really bored around me. Im not so sure if I should go out with him. Hes got a great personality but sometimes I see the weakness in him. What should i do about him? And alison? and what should i do because whenever i talk about a guy he always questions me. OMG what the heck should I do about this huge mess??

maybe you should try talking to alison about ryan and find out if she minds if you go out. but if she says she doesnt but you see she does or she says yea then dont let a boy come between your friendship. i know its hard but boys come and go..good or best friends dont, theyre harder to find than some boy that youre not going to like after a while anyways.

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ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year a some months and we really love each other he loves me i love him. but the problem that we've been having for a while is the fact that my dad doesnt like him and hes mean to my boyfriend. my dad jus says its somethin about him he doesnt like but i think my dad is only like that cuz he doesnt like seeing me wit my boyfriend and this causes us to fight and argue all the time. it gets to the point where my B/F doesnt wanna talk to me for about 2-3 days he doesnt want to come around my house. but other then that my boyfriend and i pretty much kno wat we want to happen wen we get over the whole issue we keep having.. hes leaving to the navy next month and after 3 months of boot camp hes gonna b stationed in jacksonville and he wants me to come live with him n i want to SOOOO BAD. i hate living in my house and i wanna leave so bad but wat im scared of is wen my boyfirend gets back from bootcamp r we still gonna b together he says he wants to get married wen he gets baq n i come move with him but is it gonna still be that way wen he gets baq n how do i tell my parents im gonna live wit him i kno for a fact that there not gonna b ok with it. but its my life n i feel if i do it im gonna b happy about it but then i dnt kno?????? wat should i do i want my relationship to be good but its not :{

i think that you should try talking to your parents (your dad especially) and try to find out why they dont like him...maybe you should trust your dad if he has a bad feeling about your guy. if you are over 18 then i agree that its your life but think about your parents, (i know youve probaly heard this a million times and probaly dont want to hear it again but its true) theyre just worried about you and they love you... i would wait until he comes back and see if you guys BOTH still feel that way, and either way it would save you a lot of trouble between you and your parents.

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I am from Pakistan

Dear Sir,

First I Masturbate quite often, but when I had a UTI (unknown reason, don’t have sexual reason), I left it. I took antibiotics which doctor suggested me. Now I don’t have infection but whenever I got erection or masturbate I feel burning in my penis. If I left masturbation and try to avoid erection then I feel quite comfortable for a long unless I got again an erection. I don’t know why I feel burning in my penis.

How I can solve this problem permanently and have proper erection without any burning later or at the time of erection.

Please help me out.

Thanks

Regards

Faisal Altaf
I am from Pakistan

i'm sorry i cant help you out on that...im a girl so i dont know about all of that =] sorry.

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Okay, so I went out with this guy a couple years ago for about three months and then we broke up for reasons I forget, but it was pretty gay ones. Well now, he just recently came back into my life and is always hanging around me in bio class and texts me constantly, and asked me to send him a pic, so I did, and he made a comment saying, 'You look so much bigger' basically referring to my boobs. Not that it bothered me, but I'm pretty sure he's going to start mentioning going out again and I don't know if I want to because of two reasons. One, he's into drugs and smoking and all that shit, and I am completely against that and don't wanna have to deal with that. And also, my mother knows he is into all that and I don't wanna have to deal with my mother giving me crap for dating him. The second is that he was my first boyfriend and I just don't know how it'll turn out now because I don't want to get hurt as badly as I did before. So what should I do ? Should I talk to the guy and if I should, what should I say ?? Sorry if I sound completely clueless here but I am in desperate need of advice ! Thank you soso much !

if its against your "morals" to use or be around someone that uses drugs then dont. seriously. hell probally try to get you to use them, getting you addicted, and ruining your life forever. also, i wouldnt do that to your mom, if you know what i mean. it would probally be really weird too since he was your first boyfriend.

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13/f


ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?

yea.. totally !!! if i were you i would be proud of myself !! and i know youve probaly heard this a billion times but your virginity is something special (like a gift) but you can NEVER get it back..and youll regret it later on when/if you see that that wasnt the person who should actually have your virginity. trust me.

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heyyy everyone im 15 and i like this guy and i love him. hes soo amwazing but anyway ive been wanting to tell him about im afraid because i dont know what he will say and i dont want him to think he has to say it bak because he doesnt i want him to say it when he means it or if he means it now. ive known him for awhile and hes helped me alot and im also afraid that since im his like best friend it would be weird if we dated but i wanna be closer to him than just a friend its confusing lol. i need help!! i dont know if i should tell him how i truely feel or just wait til he says something im not sure which way to go i just dont want to lose him as a friend! ok thanks you guys!! and if you have any questions to ask me like about this if you didntget something message me in my inbox k ( :

im in the same situation right now =] just tell him and dont be shy with it (are you a shy person?). the worst he can do is say he doesnt like you. at first just kinda tell him that you want to be more than friends but you arent sure how he feels. then just see how he responds =]
thats what i did and weve been together for a couple of months now.

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soo i want to lose weight! but the problem is mainly just around my stomach but i read on the internet that if you want to lose weight from one area you have to lose it from all areas? is that true? and i like my curves im crrently a size 12 in UK sizes. n i like my boobs but im scared that if i lose weight i will lose my boob size which is now 34D or DD sometimes i can fit into a C but i like it and i like my bum! lol so how can i get a flat stomach and yet have big boobs an big bum and that? like will yoga help? and also is there somehtng that can keep my boobs up? becuase i feel there a bit low? any advice will be appreciated thank you guys mwah x btw im a 16/f x

im the same way =] and that is not true !but i suggest just doing some situps everyday...maybe start out doing about 10 and work your way up from there. also, 17 magazine offers GREAT workouts for specific areas.

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14/F. okay so i dont no what is wrond with me. i used to be so happy, then i started cutting myself, idk why, and then on everything has just been going downhill from there. nothing ever makes me happy, and my recent mood change has made all me friends mad at me, and i can't tell them what's wrong because i dont even no what's wrong. im always tired and i never want to do anything. i dont laugh anymore and im never happy. depression and bi-polar run in my family, so im beggining to think i have one of those...i dontg no what to do and all i can think about is getting home and cutting and thinking of ways to kill myself. idk what to do...if anyone can help in anyway, that'd be great. so i'd like to no mainly if i have depression or what. thanks.

i used to have the same problem and one day i overdosed and had to go to the hospital for a week plus over thanksgiving. i used to cut myself just like you do, but once i almost died all i wanted was my life and to make the most of it. i think that maybe you should see a counselor or maybe even a therapist and get some professional help. BUT TRUST ME, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY so dont feel like that just because you are seeing someone. maybe you should also go to the doctor and get some medication for depression/bi-polar disease.

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