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depression?/suicide...
14/F. okay so i dont no what is wrond with me. i used to be so happy, then i started cutting myself, idk why, and then on everything has just been going downhill from there. nothing ever makes me happy, and my recent mood change has made all me friends mad at me, and i can't tell them what's wrong because i dont even no what's wrong. im always tired and i never want to do anything. i dont laugh anymore and im never happy. depression and bi-polar run in my family, so im beggining to think i have one of those...i dontg no what to do and all i can think about is getting home and cutting and thinking of ways to kill myself. idk what to do...if anyone can help in anyway, that'd be great. so i'd like to no mainly if i have depression or what. thanks.
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ohk the first thing im gonna tell you is cutting is not the answer that is a slow form or suicide and its really not healthy.And at your age your body changes and reacts to certain things diffrently.It could also being your hormons getting used to your body.But mostly a week before you get your period yuor body gets ready and doesnt want you to move
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First and foremost, Do not commit suicide.
Try to talk to your friends, they will really understand what you are going through.
Let them know your are in a depression stage and you need someone to hold you and make you feel alot better.
Cutting yourself doesn't solve anything all it does is make you shed blood and leave a terrible mark. Im pretty sure your parents don't know what's going on with you either.
Try to see someone like a therapist or physcologist and try to get HELP IMMEDIATELY.
I really do not think you should be acting this way at such a young age, think about your future.
Think about your family; and how they would feel if you commited suicide.
They would really be devasted and also would be very upset that you let depression take advantage of your life.
I'm hoping you reconsider in cutting yourself and thinking about killing yourself.
That is not the route to go.
What would JESUS SAY"My child went this route??"
I'm here in prayers and in spirit.
Do what's right!
Hope I helped
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This sounds like depression. If you don't want to start off by telling your parents, you should tell your school counselor, or an older friend. They can help you. These aren't things that can often be recovered from without some sort of intervention. I know how serious these kinds of things can be, and I've known many-a-person dealing with these problems. What you need to understand is that you are not in the fault. Your brain is not producing enough seratonin if you are depressed. I also think that you should know that having someone else know makes you less ashamed and less likely to injure yourself or become sad and helpless-feeling. I know that it is always hard to tell someone something like this for the first time, but when they know, despite the tears of relief, you will be much happier. Trust me.
The ice cubes and rubber band things on here are clever ideas, but that is still injuring yourself. If you can bring yourself to, just chew a whole bunch of gum, instead, or punch something that isn't breakable.
To recovery, and,
God bless you,
-BB
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I think you do have depression. You should tell your parents and explain to them that you cant be happy any more and have them take you to the docter to get you some happy pills. You shouldent ever have fellings of killing yourself. And by polar is when your happy one hour and sad the next never inbetween. I strongly sugest you go to the docter because you most likley have depression expecily sence it runs in your family. I hope that my suggestion helps!
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Well you REALLY NEED to talk to someone before this goes to far tell your parents what is going on see a therapist and a the least talk to a school counseler becauswe you need to turn back... before its to late.
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Heya,
well I think that your 1st step of action is to talk to your parents/guardians/or a adult whom you trust, about how your feeling.
Self harm is a way of copeing with things, and it normally is a way of taking your mind off of emotional pain, and replanceing it with a physical pain.
When you self harm what about trying to occupy your mind, putting yourself in a postion where it is impossible for you to self harm.
IE
- in a room full of people.
- Go for a run
- Using a red felt tip marker or lipstick to mark your body instead of cutting
- Useing a Putting a rubber band around your wrist and flicking it
The only people that are able to diganose you is a Doctor, so I would suggest going to your GP and talking to them about how you feel.
What about seing a school nurse, or a counciller.
It could also just be your age, with your hornomones running riot.
What about ringing childline (if your in the uk)on 08001111
I suggest telling a adult who you can trust, about how your feeling.
I hope this helps.
Moonx
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It sounds like you're depressed, but it also sounds like you're giving into it as well. Think of depression as a vacuum that's sucking you in. You can either fight against it and walk away from it or you can walk right into it and let it swallow you whole. Walking away from it might not be easy, but I can guarantee you that it is certainly possible.
Everyone suffers from depression at some point in their lives. For some people it can be situational and it goes away on its own. For other people it can last a while and take medication / professional help to overcome. The good news about depression is that it can always be overcome. Don't let your feelings fool you into thinking otherwise. You're in control.
I have suffered from depression on a few occasions. Most of the time it didn't last long, but a couple times it lasted a pretty good while. What I began to realize is that each time I battled with it, I was making it worse. I was letting my emotions control me instead of learning how to control my emotions. I was constantly thinking negatively 24/7.
I was beating myself up and putting myself in the role of the victim, which made my depression much worse. Now I've learned how to deal with depression (and anxiety) appropriately through cognitive behavioral therapy and by reading everything I could about positive thinking. The internet is a wonderful resource for gaining such information. Now I'm not a victim, I'm a fighter.
The first thing depression makes you feel like doing is isolating yourself from everyone else. Think of that aspect of depression as a hungry animal that you feed every time you give in to it. The trick to overcoming depression is to love and care for yourself and to starve that animal until it goes away. Every time you shy away from friends and family, you're feeding it and giving it power.
You have to cut off that power supply even if it feels like you don't have the energy or willpower to come out of isolation. This is where you'll have to do some work. Force yourself to get back into your normal routine. Ignore those depressive emotions. Remember, you control your emotions, they don't control you. Once you take control and make positive thinking a habit, you'll feel better.
I can promise you that it won't be easy and that it'll take a great deal of effort and practice, but you're worth it. The first thing you should do is talk to your parents about how you're feeling. Open up a line of communication with them so they can help you out. If they're unable to help you, talk to a guidance counselor at school and be open and honest with them completely.
No one is going to punish you or think less of you because of this situation. Don't let the disparity of depression fool you. A lot of people will want to help you with this problem, especially since it's a problem that runs in your family. Let people help you and learn to help yourself. Turn off those negative thoughts in your head and replace them with positive thoughts.
Even if you don't believe them at first, you will eventually. The old saying is true: practice makes perfect. Think of how many times or how long you've been thinking to yourself "I'm so sad," "why me?" "I wish I was dead," "I can't take this anymore," etc. I bet you've been doing it for quite a while and now you've perfected the fine art of making yourself feel sad and hopeless.
You CAN turn it around.
Unfortunately, because bipolar disorder runs in your family, you may have to be put on medication. That can be tricky because some medications help and some don't and finding the right one takes time. Have a doctor diagnose you with the disorder before you begin to treat it. You may NOT be bipolar. Fortunately, medications can be very helpful in many ways, so don't let that get you down.
I highly recommend talking to a therapist as well as a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist will push pills on you. A therapist will try to treat you without pills first. If you, your parents, a guidance counselor, etc. can find someone for you to talk to who's both a therapist AND a psychiatrist, that would be best. Please go in informed before you talk to someone. Learn about the various methods of treatment.
There are so many helpful treatments and options that giving up shouldn't even cross your mind, but it's understandable that it does. Don't give into it and focus on facts, not feelings. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a really wonderful form of therapy because it helps train you to think more positively and it encourages you to take an active role in your own treatment.
I can provide you with many helpful links if you're interested or you can go to Google and do some research on your own if you'd like. If you need further help, don't hesitate to email me. My email address is on my column. I wish you the best of luck and I know you'll get through this. If I can do it, and if millions and millions of other people can do it, you absolutely can too.
Ignore those negative, scary thoughts that make you sad. Ignore those people who're getting you down because they don't understand. Focus on yourself and the people around you who care. You've already taken the first step and reached out to us. Take the next step and reach out to those around you. Be strong. Be brave. And go get the help that you deserve. You're absolutely worth it. :)
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i used to have the same problem and one day i overdosed and had to go to the hospital for a week plus over thanksgiving. i used to cut myself just like you do, but once i almost died all i wanted was my life and to make the most of it. i think that maybe you should see a counselor or maybe even a therapist and get some professional help. BUT TRUST ME, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY so dont feel like that just because you are seeing someone. maybe you should also go to the doctor and get some medication for depression/bi-polar disease.
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I would say you have depression. I don't want you to feel bad about your friends, because they don't understand. You need to find someone you trust and love to tell how you are feeling. You need to get help from a professional! Life is such a great gift, and it's not good to just waste it. There are many crisis hotlines or suicide hotlines that can help. Anyone you trust can get help. You can get medicine for your depression (see a doctor to get diagnosed) so that you feel better. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Whatever might be wrong with you right now, CAN be fixed. PLEASE get help. Your life is worth so much more, you've got a lot to live for.
Good luck.
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