My names Becks, Im otherwise known as moon.
Im 20 years old,although I am not that old, I have lived alot, and have alot of experince with diffrent situations and feelings through-out life.
I have been a constant counciller, throughtout my life and have been told Im a good listener and I also give good advice.
I will always be honnest and blunt about what I think, but Im also very good at seing a problem from every angle.
More about me.
I and am studying to be a blacksmith, hopeing to start my degree at the end of this year.
Website: myspace
E-mail: Freakchildx@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: London(se)/ W.Sussex
Occupation: student
Age: 20
Member Since: March 10, 2008
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Last Update: March 31, 2008
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what is "it" that hes talking about? (link)
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http://www.lyricsdir.com/daft-punk-technologic-lyrics.html
Thats the lyrics...
I think, its about computers and technology, hense the name TECHNOLOGIC
moon x
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How do you tell someone, such as a motherly figure (not really your mother), like a really good adult friend, how takes things very seriously, that you might be depressed, and you cut, and you want to well...commit suicide...
I don't want her to tell my parents, and freak out! So how would you go about telling someone that kinda of information? like through a letter, and how would you being it up? (link)
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Personally I would say something along the lines off, I need to tell you something and I really need your help with this, but I dont want my parents to know, then tell this person what you want to say.
although, if you are feeling depressed and suicidal, your putting this person into a postion, where they might feel that they have a duty to tell your parents...
You defo need to tell someone about the way your feeling tho.
well done for trying to break the Self harm cycle.
Hope this is off some help
Moonshine x
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When you get older and have sex do guys prefer for you to shave down "there" ive been wonderin for a while just wanted to kno (link)
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Nothing to do with sex for hygiene purposes, you should anyway.
Personally my thoughts.
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okay so i have this friend and i went to school with him in sixth grade, then he left and now he goes to high school with me [ironic, i know] and i didnt like him in sixth grade but he liked me and he liked me at the beginning of this school year, and i didnt like him still but now i like him and im not sure if he still likes me, and he talks to a whole bunch of girls but some think that hes really annoying but like idk what to do because we have one class together and i kind of want a bf, but not really i just get jealous when i see couples like my sister and her bf together and like idk what to do. cause i dont want to like come off on him as like oh my god im totally in love with you cause im not like that and like we go to catholic school so its not like i can wear somthing cute and have him be like oooh.. niicee. or watever. im just really confused and i dont know what to do, should i like give up? or should i like wait it out a little bit more, pleaasee heelp=[ (link)
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Hiya,
Why don’t you just go up to him and say something along the lines of "hey I like you maybe we could hang out sometime" or "maybe we could hang out some time"
Your young, and the worst that could happen, is he might not feel the same, but then at least you would know exactly where you stand.
Therefore you could move on, and (if you want to) find a boyfriend, that’s good enough for you.
Do you really want a boyfriend, or is it that everyone around you (your sister) has one so you want one too?
Are you sure of your feelings towards this guy?
I’m not sure what catholic school has to do with what you wear.
Guys shouldn’t be basing there like’s on what your wearing, and I know its like human instinct to want to look good, for someone you like, but chill remember if your both at a catholic school and you do wear some sort of uniform, his wearing it to!
So chill and just tell him how you feel.
Moon x
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my period is always late. and i am a virgin. just for complete reassurance..theres no way i am pregnant right?
like sure he's 'came' on me and like im sure he's precame while dry-humping and such..but without his penis inside of me and cum coming out theres no way i can get pregnant, right? :) thank you. (link)
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Very unlikely.
Your not actually having sexual intercourse, so the chances of you getting pregnet during four play, is very slim.
If you are having periods, reguardless of the timeing of them, you WONT be pregnant.
If you are really worried about it, why not talk to your doctor.
Make sure you take all the proper, precautions before and when and if you do have sexual intercourse.
Moon x
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Never in my life will I do this again.
I'm making a very long story short.
-i needed a ride home from a party
-friend said he could and wanted to hang out anyways
-got n car @ 2am. Said I had 2 b home at 230
-we didn't kno where to go... drove around to big houses n hills
-i said to turn around. He finally did.
>turned off engine.
>grabbed me ( you know when u watch movies and the girl gets raped? Well I always think, 'o why doesn't she jus play it off so he doesn't get mad?' well I did!) tried to kiss me I kissed him back after saying no.
>shoved my hand on his thing through his pants.
>shoved his hand on my private part.
[This still occured even though I kept saying NO. He kept saying ITS OK.]
>finally stopped n kept drivin
-drives a different way to this place to view the city.
-pulls over.
>grabs me across his lap, puts his tonge down my throat.
>tried to get up. He pulled me back down. And tried to kiss me again. I finally got up & said we gotta go home!
-on ride home we act like nothing happened.
-drops me off. Done.
I don't know if I should tell him how I feel? Ignore it? Act like it never happend?
I never want to see him again. But I have to because we go to the same school.
I'm not that type of girl AT all. I'm a virgin, but most people don't think so. Maybe he didn't? I can't believe he thought I would do that. I can't believe he did that to me.
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Heya,
In your question, it’s hard to tell if this guy actually raped you, so I’m going to try and answer your question from two different sides.
Lets just give him the benefit of doubt, maybe he didn’t realise that you didn’t want to do what he was up for (I'm not saying this is the case, just maybe)
You said you “play it off” I don’t think this was the best course of action at all, because this could have given him the wrong idea to start with.
But if someone says no to sexual contact, and the other person in question ignores this fact, surely that is counted as sexual assault, and therefore, maybe you should be telling a adult, about this experience
You mentioned that you go to the same school, well this is going to become very difficult and uncomfortable for you, so I suggest you tell someone about what happened, at your school, maybe a teacher, or a head of year (not sure if your from the U.K)
No-one should feel threatened at school, so really you should tell a teacher.
Personally if I was in your position, I would march right up to the guy and shout in front of everybody, about what he did, but I realise and think this isn’t the best approach you should take.
I think you should tell him exactly how you felt about the whole situation, and make him realise that his actions were wrong, this is if you don’t wish to take things higher.
If you feel nervous about doing this on your own, confine in a friend, and ask a friend to come with you whilst you talk to him.
I hope this is of some help.
I’m sorry you’ve been put into this awful position.
Moon x
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So, I don't actually believe my Father hates me, but he's deffinetly not like he usto be. He says I've grown up to be a bitch, and all this stuff and he's always accusing me of things I didn't do. He's accused me of stolen beer, messing with the thermostat and missing packs of ciggerettes- when I have two other older brothers who smoke, and drink! I'm 14, I don't drink, I dont smoke, I don't steal I don't anything and my Dad always yells at me. When I ask him for political help for my homework like the war in Iraq, and Isreal and Arabs he yells at me for being soo stupid I don't know, well that's why I go to him! So he can shead some light on the situation and explain things to me. I dont know why he always yells at me. Last year he had a heart attack and hasnt quit anything that would help him- so yehh I usto be horrible with that yelling at him all the time, and just being horrible. ive stopped swearing at him, but he doesnt give me anything to work with. I want him to be there, but he doesn't wanna be. I cook dinner for him, and he always complains that its cold or something and I always say "Well it didnt stop you from eating it" or " If it was so unbareable you couldve heated it in the microwave it's why we have one!" So I know thats being rude, but come one I cook WAY better then my Mother he should be happy! I want him to be, I want him to stop yelling at me all the time, I want him to care about my school day and be there for me. But he's not. He never will be- It's not fair that my brothers do all this stuff and he doesnt do anyything but I forget to start the dish washer and he'll hold it over my head for like years... I am crying right now because it's so hard living here, and putting up with him. I dont know why he doesnt love me enough to quit smoking and I dont know why he doesn't want to walk me down the ile with I get marride. I cant explain why he's always angry with me! Never his sons because they could get arrested and he wont care. And you can say he expects more from me, or whatever. But I wont buy that. If he really truly cared he'd wanna be here and hed want to hear about my day and tell me he loves me but he hasn't. maybe in 3 months..
He hasnt told me he loved me, or that he appreciates me in anyway. And I cant talk to him about it because he wont listen..
I dont know what I did to make him be like this, but I wanna fix it. So he wont be like this. (link)
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whoa.
I dont think that you should be blameing yourself at all here.
The way your father is acting doesnt actually mean that you have done something wrong.
Parents, although we all think that parents are perfect, and will never put a foot wrong, they are human and can cause as much pain as another person can.
I personally have nothing to do with either of my parents, because of the past pain they have brought into my life.
I understand this frustration you must be feeling, and the fact that you dont understand what your doing wrong,but as Ive said, just because your father is acting in this way does not mean you have done anything wrong.
You say you cant talk to your dad about it, but what about your mum ?
Couldent you write him a letter, or txt him or even email him, telling him how you feel, and say you feel unloved, tell him.
He should be aware about how his child is feeling.
On the whole smoking side of things, as a smoker, I can tell you it is one of the most hardest things to try and give up, and this honnestly has nothing to do with you, he should be giving it up for his own health, which in the long run does concern you having your father around.
Maybe your father is dealing with something,and this is why his acting this way towards you.
And maybe its because your the youngest, and to be honnest most teenagers (not all)do start to try drink and smokeing and drugs etc etc etc, and this might be why your father insatntly thinks of you, rather than your older brothers, because 14-18 is normally the ages of experiment.
Whatever the reasons your father is acting like this, its wrong that you are feeling this way.
My honnest advice would to write your feelings down and tell him,if he wout read a letter, txt him, he cant ignore a short blunt txt or even talk to your mum or brothers about it.
I hope this helps somewhat..
Moonshine x
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13/f
ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age? (link)
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Your 13 !
your WAY to young sweetie.
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HELLO,
My 16 year old neice stole my daughters $350 sunglasses she bought with her own graduation money at a family x-mas party. This week I saw my neice wearing them. What to do. Parents are unapproachable and can be hostile. What should we do?? Neice is in counseling for similar issues.
Carol (link)
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I would suggest confronting your niece
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14/F. okay so i dont no what is wrond with me. i used to be so happy, then i started cutting myself, idk why, and then on everything has just been going downhill from there. nothing ever makes me happy, and my recent mood change has made all me friends mad at me, and i can't tell them what's wrong because i dont even no what's wrong. im always tired and i never want to do anything. i dont laugh anymore and im never happy. depression and bi-polar run in my family, so im beggining to think i have one of those...i dontg no what to do and all i can think about is getting home and cutting and thinking of ways to kill myself. idk what to do...if anyone can help in anyway, that'd be great. so i'd like to no mainly if i have depression or what. thanks. (link)
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Heya,
well I think that your 1st step of action is to talk to your parents/guardians/or a adult whom you trust, about how your feeling.
Self harm is a way of copeing with things, and it normally is a way of taking your mind off of emotional pain, and replanceing it with a physical pain.
When you self harm what about trying to occupy your mind, putting yourself in a postion where it is impossible for you to self harm.
IE
- in a room full of people.
- Go for a run
- Using a red felt tip marker or lipstick to mark your body instead of cutting
- Useing a Putting a rubber band around your wrist and flicking it
The only people that are able to diganose you is a Doctor, so I would suggest going to your GP and talking to them about how you feel.
What about seing a school nurse, or a counciller.
It could also just be your age, with your hornomones running riot.
What about ringing childline (if your in the uk)on 08001111
I suggest telling a adult who you can trust, about how your feeling.
I hope this helps.
Moonx
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13/f
hi i just got my period for the first time on jan.31 and then i got it yesterday well my boobs are that grown they are like a 36 A and im sorta over weight [150+] well i need to get a bra from target or walmart [cuz i want one that like around 5 dollars] but the ones that are my size they dont fit AROUND me...
what do i do? (link)
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sounds like its not actually your size tbh.
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13/F
I have no clue whether i'm bi, lesbian, or straight. It's weird, because I can remember liking guys. I mean REALLY liking guys, as in, my heart would beat like crazy if my crush walked by. I've gone out with a lot of guys too, but I have that problem about getting bored after a while. It seems as though my heart doesn't beat like crazy and my stomach doesn't get that tingly feeling anymore, and I miss it. I still will show off for certain guys and whatnot, but I don't feel that heartbeat thing anymore. For anybody. I don't know what this means. I'm not too fond of the idea of me being a lesbian (absolutely NOTHING against a lesbian. It'd just be weird and all of my friends are super homophobic) I've just never imagined myself that way. So, what are some signs of being lesbian or bi? Also, is there another thing that means you don't like any type? I mean, you're still friends with them but you just don't like LIKE them. Thanks :) please note that i'm NOT homophobic, if I sound that way. I'm just having a tough time typing up my thoughts. (link)
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Your 13 sweetie, give yourself some time to grow up and discover who you are, dont worry about things that arent really important when your this young.
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I know someone who said that they don't really "cut" but they use anything they find that's kind of sharp and scratch their skin until it's just kind of raw... but they don't make themselves bleed, they get to the point right before they would bleed. They said they feel depressed but don't tell people that because they want to make everyone happy... and they just like having the marks on them and keeping it a secret. (link)
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This is self harm.
Self harm is a way of copeing mentally with the problems around you,a copeing mechonism, this doesnt actually mean your suicidal (but it can lead on to feelings of sucide), sometimes its a way of asking for help, without saying anything.
And as I said, sometimes is just a way of copeing.
If they feel depressed, they should see their gp.
Theres medication to balance the serotonin, within your brain to help with depression, and obviously there's other ways of dealing with depression and at the same self harm such as
- councilling
- talking with friends
- dealing with the root of what is making you depressed in the 1st place
Theres also ways of dealing with self harm such as
-Phoning a friend
-Writing down your feelings in a diary (personally when I self harmed I found this helped)
Listening to music, drawing or reading
-Going for a walk or a run, dancing, exercising or playing sport
-Counting down slowly from 10 to 0
-Finding a safe punching bag like some pillows
-Putting your hands into a bowl of ice cubes for a short time or rubbing ice on the part of your body you feel like injuring
-Using a red felt tip marker or lipstick to mark your body instead of cutting
-Putting a rubber band around your wrist and flicking it
It could also be attension, Im not saying that self harmers are attension seekers, because most self harmers wouldent want anyone to know.
I suggest talking to this person you know, and suggesting that they talk to their, gp or parents/family.
Heres some sites, in case you wanted some more infomation on self harm, and who you and your friend can talk to.
http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa
http://www.nshn.co.uk/index2.html
Hope everything works out
Moon x
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is it ok if you come on your period whle you are pregnant and what should i do (link)
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if you are pregnant theres no way you should be having periods, I suggest seing your gp or going to a+e or talking to your midwife asap.
Hope everything works out
Moon x
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when i realize i had feelings for my best friend (girl) i notice i am bi...or les? but i knew i went out with men just to test the waters if it was a phase. but it wasnt i couldnt keep my mind off of her. telling how i felt was so hard for me to do. i didnt have the guts till that day after high school i met up with her and told her how i felt. she just had a shock face. as days go by we still hang out and be good friends. she became closer as in leaning,teasing and close. i wonder why she felt okay with my feelings so i wrote her a note, didnt reply. after highschool two years past we still hang out. i told her to met me online to chat. so we did. i re explain my feelings and ask the question. she said she was fine with it and confused with her sexuality. i knew i had to move on. once i did but very slowly i met a guy at a party. told her about it in the chat room a month later, she got jealous. i ask her in the email why and she said that afraid fo me moving on
and being with someone else. she said she was jealous of my last boyfriends in high school. she qouted "iguess time will tell for the both of us". few months went by and i wounder (does she like me more than a friend?) so i ask her in a note. gave to her when i saw her. she didnt relpy for 3 weeks. with in the 3weeks i saw her. so i had to step up again. i ask up front and she was ignoing the question...then she said "i was just being over protceive" and she shook her head no when i ask "do you like me more than a friend?"
we hang out still with friends and at school (college)...but i am so confused about this. i like her for nearly 8 years and i just try my best to move on but why did i felt she lied to me? (link)
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I think this girl, def isnt the girl that you should be after.
If you have liked her for 8 years and this girl has constantly messed you around,are you going to wait another 8 years to be messed around even more.
Reguardless of her own confussion about her sexuality, your emotions are/have been put on the line, and if she cared about you as a friend, letalone anything elese surely she wouldent confuse you like this.
I think it would be better for you in the long run to cut this girl out of your life.
It is a rash thing to do but at the same time, I dont see what she brings to your life.
Ask yourself
- are you going to put your life/love life on hold, for someone who you might never have ?
- is she ever going to feel the same ?
- if you got together, would it work ?
- what does she bring to your life.
I hope everything works out
Moon x
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16/f. i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago. after that, basically, i've completely lost all touch with my inner self. my grades went down. some friends turned their backs on me. my parents are giving up on me. i feel horrible. i've become an attention seeking whore. but i'm depressed (i've been diagnosed.)
all because of a boyfriend..? there must be something wrong. it's very pathetic to see myself like this. it's like a drug to me now, this male affection/attention. and it's not like i'm putting less effort into my schoolwork. the grades just decline..
i'm sure this is not normal. any advice would be very much appreciated. =| (link)
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Heya.
Your in a vunrable postion right now (being depressed) therefore, I definetly think you need to spend time on yourself, and healing from depression does take awhile, but before your happy in yourself, things will seem alot more negative.
School is so important, you wouldent think it half the time when your there, and most (older) people will tell you how important it is,and believe me I've personally found out the hard way, that education is important, it seems, as if your putting a guy that you've been with before things that actually will have a all round impact on your life.
If your friends, were the true friends they wouldent turn their back on you, I suggest you confront them.
You say your depressed, have you throught that your depression is what is actually sparking off all these other problems, because when you are depressed, you can feel that everything and everyone around you, is crumbeling.
Have you been to the doctors?
As you are young, I think you should talk to a parent, or a teacher, or someone you can trust.
Hope everything works out
Moon x
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