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How to tell someone...
How do you tell someone, such as a motherly figure (not really your mother), like a really good adult friend, how takes things very seriously, that you might be depressed, and you cut, and you want to well...commit suicide...
I don't want her to tell my parents, and freak out! So how would you go about telling someone that kinda of information? like through a letter, and how would you being it up?
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This is a hard one. What I do know, however, is that you will break the vicious circle of repetitions in this behavior if you just tell her. Now, for how to do so...
Just get her in person, and tell her that you're dealing with something serious, and that you trust her. Start off clearly that you don't want your parents to know, yet. Ask her if she will try to help you, first. I'd recommend, first, to tell her about the thoughts behind it, so that, when she does see your injuries, or in this case, hear about them, she is now in the phsyche to be prepared. If she is incredibly far away, a letter would be valid. Otherwise, I'd just let it out in person, so that she can see how serious you are about having her help you. Then, I'd immediately call a hotline of some sort, or look in the phone book for diagnosis/counseling for depression. It IS a phsycological disorder. Don't blame yourself.
If you're afraid that she will freak out, call her first, and ask her, if you were to send her a letter revealing something very serious about you, what her reaction may be, and if you could trust her.
There are plenty of scar medications out there, too.
The best helper in this kind of thing is God. I don't know if you know Him, but I'll tell you one thing, his love his enough to stop any compulsion or destructive behavior, and bring you back with grace.
-BB
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Personally I would say something along the lines off, I need to tell you something and I really need your help with this, but I dont want my parents to know, then tell this person what you want to say.
although, if you are feeling depressed and suicidal, your putting this person into a postion, where they might feel that they have a duty to tell your parents...
You defo need to tell someone about the way your feeling tho.
well done for trying to break the Self harm cycle.
Hope this is off some help
Moonshine x
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First of all:
A pat on the back for you for trying to bring it up to somebody. Those are very dangerous behaviors that are a permanent solution to a temperary problem. So for that, a round of applause.
If I were you, I would sit her down, and just explain what has been going on in your life. If you have scars on your arms, show her them- and from there she should get the message. Tell her after that , that you are suicidal. Once you tell her about it, sure things will be difficult- but they will get better.
Good luck, stay strong, and once again- that is a very good choice for wanting to tell her.
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i would just grab the person aside and say "i need to talk to you about something vry important. alone."
i was on your boat once. but i told the wrong person. and they told my parents. so be sure you know what your doing. but proceed to get help and quick! suicide isnt a pretty thing. neither is cutting. plus, its very time consuming. (covering up your cuts and making sure no one sees them. prefferably someone you dont want to see them.)
so yeah. tell this person you TRUST and then ask them to help you get help.
try an anti-depressant. those things work wonders.
anyways, i hope it all works out and please. get some help.
take care! :)
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