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how to deal with a theft.
HELLO,
My 16 year old neice stole my daughters $350 sunglasses she bought with her own graduation money at a family x-mas party. This week I saw my neice wearing them. What to do. Parents are unapproachable and can be hostile. What should we do?? Neice is in counseling for similar issues.
Carol
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I would confront your neaice tho let her explain herself and dont tel her as stealing tell her that your daughter needs them back. If your neaice loves you she will listen. If she tels you there hers ask for the recipet and think on your feet!!
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I would suggest confronting your niece
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I agree with the columnist below- you got to say something, and you got to get those sunglasses back.
Her counselor needs to be made aware of this incident, so her parents NEED to know, whether they want to hear the truth or not.
I also agree that the best way is to say that you are understanding and not mad, that you just want the sunglasses returned.
I mean, really. If she were to have got caught stealing such a pricey item from a store, she'd be prosecuted. So by bringing this to her parents attention, you are actually helping niece in getting over her problem.
ygs-29/f
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This situation obviously needs to be addressed whether it be your niece or her parents.
Even if they do get hostile, they probably react that way because they either don't want to believe that their daughter is doing this or they don't know how to deal with it and they are embarrassed.
If your niece is having counselling then obviously telling her off and making a massive deal out of it could make things worse. She's obviously going through some issues and stealing could be one way of calling out for attention or help.
Don't hold back on not taking the sunglasses back though, what she did was wrong and she needs to realise that she can't do things like that.
Take them back regardless of how messy the situation is. It's not right!!
Talk to her parents and let them know that you are aware of the troubles she is going through but she can't just help herself to things that aren't hers. Just let them know that your not mad, even though you probably are.
When ever she is around your house or your daughter just keep prized possesions away or locked up and out of her reach until she can over come this habbit.
Hope I helped :)
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