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he's back again...
Okay, so I went out with this guy a couple years ago for about three months and then we broke up for reasons I forget, but it was pretty gay ones. Well now, he just recently came back into my life and is always hanging around me in bio class and texts me constantly, and asked me to send him a pic, so I did, and he made a comment saying, 'You look so much bigger' basically referring to my boobs. Not that it bothered me, but I'm pretty sure he's going to start mentioning going out again and I don't know if I want to because of two reasons. One, he's into drugs and smoking and all that shit, and I am completely against that and don't wanna have to deal with that. And also, my mother knows he is into all that and I don't wanna have to deal with my mother giving me crap for dating him. The second is that he was my first boyfriend and I just don't know how it'll turn out now because I don't want to get hurt as badly as I did before. So what should I do ? Should I talk to the guy and if I should, what should I say ?? Sorry if I sound completely clueless here but I am in desperate need of advice ! Thank you soso much !
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if its against your "morals" to use or be around someone that uses drugs then dont. seriously. hell probally try to get you to use them, getting you addicted, and ruining your life forever. also, i wouldnt do that to your mom, if you know what i mean. it would probally be really weird too since he was your first boyfriend.
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His lifestyle is so much different than yours. If it was something minor, like maybe the type of movies or music you like, you could work around that. But drugs are bad news, no two ways about it. At best, you'd have to tolerate it (something you should not do); at worst he could suck you in to that lifestyle, with all the dangers that go with it.
So say to him: Hey, we can be friends, but I can't get involved with someone who's into stuff that's dangerous and totally against my way of life.
It's unlikely that he'll change for you. And chances are that you would get hurt again, because people who are into drugs need to feed that first. Everything else doesn't matter.
Good Luck.
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