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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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I am so stressed over prom! I'm even starting to hate it because of all the drama. Heres my situation:

-all my friends have dates
-i do not
-ive been debating over three guys who 1 hasn't asked me and the other 2 can't cause its not their prom
-my best friend is going with a guy who asked and shes friends with him
-recently we went out (a whole bunch of us) and my best friend brought a younger guy from one of her classes
-we had a great time and im thinking of asking him to come with me
-i dunno if my friend likes her friend or not, she told me that i should take him but keeps telling me things like ooh hes not a good dancer and oo hes younger. Shes always talking to the guy too, then again so am i. Should i ask him to come with me, i just want to go as friends and have a kick ass time, but i dunno wat to do, HELP! thanks in advance

hey! come on now, don't be stressed out, you could have it soo much worse! basically, to put an end to all the drama once and for all, ask one of the guys you have in mind right away! if you want to ask this younger guy, then go for it. don't listen to what your friend has to say about him and his dancing skills... so what if he's younger? do you like him? do you get along with him? will you have fun if you go with him? if you answered yes to these, then go ahead and ask him right away! once you have a date you won't have to put up with all the drama, and you will just look forward to all the fun you're going to have! so go ahead and ask him now! :) have fun!! :)

P.S. i am soo jealous, i wanna go to prom again so bad! haha enjoy it while it lasts, trust me! :)

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Hi,

I'm 14/f and well...

I am not sure how to start. Let's say my "friend" wink wink, was persuaded to go to her best friends (male/16) house - because he said he 'needed help fixing a computer in his basement'. Her parents were out, and they weren't answering the cell phone. She figured 'Hey, it will only be for a few minutes'. So she rode her bike there (he lived just a few blocks away). Let's also say her friends parents weren't home either.

Well the boy and her had been best friends for about 3 years now, because they had a lot in common. My friend thought she knew him very well, but obviously not. Once they were in the basement, he tried to seduce her. She was not into him, because she liked him as a friend. When she turned down his offers, he grabbed her shirt and hit her with an object on her back. It hurt very bad but she was only knocked to the floor. He asked her again if she was going to cooperate, but she didn't answer. He hit her one more time.

She felt numb and helpless and the boy raped her. Right on the basement floor. He forced her to play all his sick games and she was to remain silent. She wasn't sure if he was planning this and it all happened so fast. After he was done, he made her sit in a chair and listen to the rules. He told her to not tell a soul and he threatened her in an unimagineable way. Then he sent her off.

You would never think these things would happen to you, but they do. Right when you least expect it too. My 'friend' feels that if she tells her parents, that it will ruin the rest of their lives. She feels that they will never be a normal family again if she says anything. She does her best to cover the mark on her back where he hit her. This event happened about a year ago but it seems like everything is her fault. Is there a way I can tell somebody about the boy without letting them know it's me? It would mean a lot if I could get that pitiful excuse for a man arrested, without making a big deal over myself. I just don't want anyone else to get hurt. I looked into it but I need some more elaborate ideas. Thanks.

hey!! omg ok there is NO way you should have to keep this to yourself any longer! this is NOT your fault at all, and it is so unfortunate that it happened! but you need to put this guy in his place! you can't let him get away with this, and maybe even do it to other girls! he hurt you and put you through so much, and now it is his turn to have to deal with trouble, because he deserves it and asked for it!

if you tell your parents, it won't ruin your life in any way! it will actually make your life BETTER!! why? well first of all, you won't have to keep this a deep secret... it is such a big problem if you don't tell anyone about it, but you will feel so much better once it's out in the open! second of all, you will feel stronger. right now you may be feeling weak and helpless because this guy did this to you and there was nothing you could do about it! but once you put him behind bars and give him the punishment he deserves, you will have the upper hand on this and feel so much stronger and better about it!

honestly, you won't be able to get him in trouble if you tell anyone about it but don't tell them that it happened to you. they will need evidence, and they will need to speak to the girl that this happened to! this girl is YOU! talk to your parents... sit down and tell them everything! cry if you have to, just let it ALL out without holding back your emotions. tell a teacher, tell a guidance councelor, go to the police and tell them... just tell someone! they will all be of SO much help! you have to do this ASAP... not only for your own sake, but also to make sure that he gets in trouble for what he did! don't let him get away with this, his actions absolutely disgust me. none of this is your fault and you shouldn't have to feel this way about it for the rest of your life. get off the computer right now and tell your parents!! PLEASE!! and let me know if you need ANY more help... or if you just want to let me know how things go!

don't worry, once the word is out, he won't be able to do ANYTHING to you (even though now he still can because he is not in jail and he thinks you will never tell anyone)! you have to put this pig in his place!! :)

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I'm really lonely and need a boyfriend (or girlfriend) VERY SOON!! Wut should I do?

hey! well there are many different ways that you can go out and meet people, but while you are in the process, you should deffinitely learn to be happy with what you have... even if you only have yourself! you should never depend on someone to make you happy... just depend on yourself! yeah you may get a bf now and be happy, but what happens when you break up? do you go back to being lonely and depressed? learn to accept your situation and make the best of it, and be happy NO matter what! :)

also, the more you look for a bf, the harder it seems to find a good one. if you are desperate to be in a relationship, you will settle for anything that comes your way, even if it's bad and it's not even something that you want at all! don't do that! just go out more, be outgoing and be willing to meet new people. try and overcome being shy if you are, and go up to the next cute boy you see at the mall or something and talk to him! use every opportunity you get to meet new people! and most of all don't worry... it may seem liek you will never get a bf, but you will before you know it. you know how life works... most of the time you get things when you least expect them, or when you're not even looking for them! :) good luck!

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I have a question, and i don't know if it can be answered. But i will give it a shot.

Is there anyway possible to make yourself most creative? I like to write, but i find myself not being about to, it's like i can't come up with anything good. I try really hard, and nothing sounds right, it seems to be a bunch of just random thoughts put in one, with no thought. I really would like writing a lot better if i was more creative. How can i make myself be more open to new ideas that would help me be more creative, and more "neatly" with the way i write?

Thanks in advance

hey! well i dont know of how much help this will be, but writing is an art... it's not something that can be forced. so even though you may want to sit down and write a song or a poem, you can't force it. if you have nothing on your mind, then chances are there will be nothing to write about. wait until a problem arises or something is on your mind. then get a notebook, and sit down and just write! don't think about what you're writing, don't go back and re read and fix things... just keep writing. when you are completely finished, you can go back and fix things. if what you wrote wasn't in the form you want, then you can use the feelins and emotions that you see to write something in a different form!

it's no surprise that most of the songs out there are about love or friendship or basically some kind of feeling or emotion... no one can just sit down and write about nothing. you have to have something on your mind, and then let it all out and put it on paper! :) hope that helped!

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Ok this is serious and I'm really scared. Please answer this truthfully. So today I was with my boyfriend of over a year at his house. He was fingering me and then he stuck his penis inside of me...without a condom. = ( I didn't realize that it was his penis. I quickly got it out, less than a minute. Then he went and got a condom and he put it in there for about five minutes tops. He wasn't being the rough but what are the chances of me getting pregnate? oh and by the way i'm only thirteen, but i've had my period. what do i do if i am pregnant and what is the earlyest i would be able to tell? i rate really high

hey! ok first of all don't freak out, but when a guy gets aroused he has "pre cum" which can get you pregnant. there is not as much sperm in it as in regular cum, but still there is a chance.

if you act quick, you can go to a doctor or a planned parenthood clinic and ask for the "day after pill." it is effective for 72 hours after intercourse and it has a 70 to 80% chance of preventing pregnancy. i strongly reccomend that you do this, just in case, because you don't want to end up pregnant at 13. explain the situation to a parent or a trusted adult ASAP and go get this pill!

if you don't want to or can't do this (which i strongly recommend that you DO just in case) then you can take an at home pregnancy test and see what the results say. you will have to wait a few weeks for this, because it won't be able to read it now.

also, why did your boyfriend do such a thing without consulting you about it first? that wasn't very smart of him, and i would talk to him about it to make sure that it never happens again. sex comes along with SO much responsibility... i don't know if it's something you guys should even be doing if he is putting his penis places without your knowledge!! good luck, and deffinitely talk to him about it because he needs to be more responsible from now on!! :)

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English is my a second language. I don't know how I can improve my skils?

hey!! well i can probably help with this because i actually only moved to the US 8 years ago and didn't even speak a word of english, but now no one can tell. if you are older than 12 years old, chances are you will never lose your accent completely... I did because I was 12 when I came here, but they say that after that age, the part of your brain that is capable of learning a language 100% and allowing you to get rid of your accent doesn't function as well.

the best thing to do, and what i did is to speak the language as much as you can. browse the internet and read... read anything, it doesn't matter! when you don't know a word, look it up! maybe even try and find a word every day that you don't know and look it up! it will help!

also, watch TV and talk in english as much as you can! if you have family at home that speaks a different language, talk to them in english and tell them to do the same. try and use it as much as you can. if you surround yourself by it everywhere, then you will learn it fast and you will know it very well!

there is no miracle that will help you learn everything overnight, but you will get better with it with time! just talk to people, don't be shy and try to learn new things every day. :) good luck!

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I was in class today and these guys that I know were taking stupid pictures with their cell phones. Like, doing things that looked sexual (like taking a pic with 2 fingers together).


Well anyways, two of them came over and sat with me and my friend. We didn't think anything of it because we're all okay friends and they always come over to talk to us.


One of them pretended to be texting and the other one had his finger up to the camera and he took the picture. I didn't even know they had taken one until someone else said something about it to me.


I asked to see this picture and it looked like my mouth was open (because I was talking) and about to give oral (the guy's finger).


That really pissed me off because I was like ummm wtf, ya know? So I told they guy to delete it because it was such an asshole move. He said no, it's his cell and he can do whatever he wants.


So my real question, if I go to my AP and tell him what happened can my AP look through the guy's phone and get him in trouble becuase it's such an inappropriate picture?

ok, first of all that is such a stupid of them to do and you have every right to be mad. i am willing to bet that they can get in trouble for this, because it can be considered sexual harrassment and it took place on school grounds. i think before you get them in trouble (which they deserve) you should just go up to the guy with the cell phone and tell him nicely that you don't want that picture of you to be on his phone, and that YOU want to delete it from his cell phone. if he refuses once again like he did today, then tell him that you will go tell your AP and have him/her come and take his phone and make sure the picture gets deleted. that should scare him away, and you should be able to get the picture off. but if that doesn't work, then go tell your AP or a trusted teacher, because that will deffinitely get rid of the picture for good, and maybe even get him in trouble! good luck!

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okay i have light brown hair and like in the sun i have both natural red and blonde highlights i think its wicked cute when peole have brown hair and like an auburnish highlights int heir hair the only problem is i dont know the exact color to do it like ive gone to google and looked for highlight colors but i cant find anything can someone please help and send like links and such i rate high =]

hey!! well there are many shades of highlights, and i think sending you a link over the internet is useless because a) the colors look different on different computer screens and b) it is hard to tell what color will look good on your hair by just seeing it on a website.

the best thing to do is go to a hair salon and tell them exactly what you want. they will bring out samples of "hair" in all the different colors they have and put them up against your hair to see which color will look best. they can even mix different colors to make other colors if nothing they have works for you!

so just go to the salon where you would like to get your hair done, and leave the rest to them! it's their job to find the best color for you... plus, they are professionals and they will be able to give you a good opinion on what will look good and what won't!! :) have fun!

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theres this boy that is dating one of my best friend, they have been on and off for awhile and he finally plucked up the courage to ask her out again!!but, me and him were hangin out all day friday and i started to like him!!! now today my friend said that he had been avoding her all weekend. what does it meen or am i just being obsessed?? lol

hey! wow, ok this is deffinitely a bad situation! i don't know if this is what you want to hear or not, but i am going to be honest! i think you need to get out of this whole situation before you start liking him even more, because this will bring you nothing but problems in the future.

first of all, he has dated one of your best friends!! im sure you know the "rule" that you're not supposed to date your friends' exes NO MATTER WHAT! how would you feel if you were in her position and she started liking your bf... and even worse decided to do something about it? she will get mad about this, she will not agree to it, and you may even lose her as a friend over a boy.

second of all, if those 2 keep breaking up and getting back together, their feelings for one another are obviously still there! what are the chances that if they break up now they will get back together again sometime in the future? there's a pretty good chance because it's already happened a couple of times! if you do end up dating him, and he decides in a couple of weeks that he still likes her, your friendship with her will pretty much be over because this will cause way too much drama.

maybe this isn't what you asked for, but if you want to do what's best for you and your frindship, then forget about this boy and find another one. guys come and go, but your best friends are forever... so don't let a guy that could be gone in a few months get in the way of a friendship that could last for years! :)

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ok well im a 13 year old girl and my stomach and back has dark hair how do i lighten it? and i dont want to shave it because then it will just grow back darker
i rate really high

hey! well if it really bothers you, keep in mind that it will become much less noticeable once you get somewhat of a tan this summer! that's a good thing because summer time is when you show a lot of skin anyway.

but they do sell bleach for body hair... just go to any pharmacy or a store like wal mart and go to the hair removal section. along with all the cream hair removers you should see hair bleaches. there's some labeled for "body" and others for "face." just pick a brand, follow the directions and that should turn your hair blonde. the color will eventually wear out so you will have to re-apply at some point! :)

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17f. Ok heres the deal, i'm sorta talking to this guy and we're getting really close and everything but we're not actually together. We have all the elements of a relationship just without the title. But because we dont have that title we're not technically together and i just wanted to know since we're not together would it be wrong for us to have sex. It hasn't really come up as an issue yet but i don't really wanna get myself in a predicament that i'm not sure of.

hey! well really the decision is up to you! do you think it's wrong? do you feel comfortable with it? the only thing that worries me is the fact that there is no title, but only emotions. this means that you can technically go out with other guys, and he can do the same with other girls. i don't think this will make either one of you happy, but that is the reason why people put titles on their relationships. it shows commitment! if you start having sex, then emotions will become even a bigger part of the whole thing, and one of you will get really hurt if the other starts to date other people! im sure you don't want that, so i suggest putting a title on your relationship or leaving emotions (which includes sex) out of the relationship unless you want to risk one of you getting hurt!

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ok so here is my problem. i'm not so good at talking to guys. well, scratch that. SOME guys. most guys i can just talk to like normal and laugh with, like i'm having a coversation with my brother. but other guys, cute ones in particular, i really have no idea how to talk to and i always seem to blush or stutter when i try to talk to them. it's really annoying and i don't know why i can't talk to them. my crush is one of the people i can't talk to. any advice?

hey!! well this may be a bit obvious, but the reason you can't talk to them without blushing and stuttering is because you really LIKE them and you are afraid of messing up or saying the wrong thing. not much you can do other than continue to reassure yourself that you are a great person and that anyone who gets to talk to you is lucky! you want guys to like you for who you are, and you are showing them your true self when you talk to them! don't be nervous or afraid of "messing up" because those that like you will like you for exactly who you are. every time before you are about to talk to a cute guy, just calm yourself down, think about things that make you comfortable and happy, and remind yourself that you are who you are, and that's what you are showing this guy... and if he likes it great, and if not then there's many more guys! once you build up your self confidence, you will no longer have this problem! :)

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My mom has been married three times. One of her marriages I actually do believe that she might have loved the guy. This was the guy that she married before my dad. Se didn't take as much as she did from him as the others so I believe she might have had some feeling towards him.


Then comes my dad. Wonderful man. Aside from how he's a work addict and was never there. Ever. I don't know if they really loved each other, I've never asked and I really don't care. This was the sort of marriage that seemed perfect on the outside. Everyone thought they should be together because they came for the same families and such and she was 24when she first married him. During the divorce, she took everything she could--my dad is loaded with the cash. After it was over, he turned around and bought a 1.5 million dollar house and lives there with his g/f.


Now to her third marriage. I think it's the worse because he's an asshole. At least the other two were nice. He doesn't abuse her or anything but I don't like him and he doesn't like me. We argue constantly. Once I said to him "Please don't interfere with my life, the 3rd". He got really mad and took my keys to my car away...the car that my DAD BOUGHT ME. So I gave my daddy a call and had my keys back in no time.


What about my mom, you ask. Sometimes I think she is a gold digger. But I its hard to tell. I' not very fond of her though. When ever I try to talk to her about anything that’s bothering me she just says “Oh, I’m sorry you feel that way” I told her I was going to move in with my dad once and she said “Well, its your decision and your loss” Gee…thanks mom


Then my best friend's dad. Again, never around. Seems like alot of dads aren't. He'd rather just give her money than have a talk with her.

Her mom is cheating on her dad. She thinks her dad knows about it but doesn’t want to deal with a divorce.

And yet another father I know just up and left his kids and wife--he's my dad's best friend.


So does family mean nothing to people anymore? Seriously I haven’t met anyone that has parents that they’re just in love with and it really makes me question if I ever want to get married and have kids. Seems pointless to me.

hey! yeah i deffinitely agree with you about a lot of what you said, because let's face it, 50% marriages in the U.S. do end up in divorce. yeah, that's a HUGE number, especially compared to the percentages in other countries, where divorce is much more rare.

the first reason for this is that people are too obsessed with finding true love in our culture today. many times you hear people who have only dated for a few short months (or even worse, DAYS) talk about how IN LOVE they are. the word love has lost so much meaning because people throw it around so freely and so constantly. because people are so obsessed with finding love, they fool themselves into thinking that they ARE in love, and they end up getting married and then getting a divorce not too long after because they never truely loved the person to begin with. this is the first thing you should do to avoid ending up in a situation like that... don't become obsessed with the idea of love. it is something that takes time, and when it comes, it will hit you and it will feel like nothing you've ever felt before... it's not even something you can explain. you will know when you are truely in love, just don't rush.

another reason why divorce is so common around here is because it is SO easy to get a divorce. it's a process that is almost a joke at this point ... and unfortunately people think that it is the answer for all their problems. when you get married, you are making a commitment "for better or for worse," but as soon as a small problem comes up, people seem to forget about the "for worse" part and choose to take the easy way out and end the relationship, instead of work on their problems and resolve them. in today's material world a lot of problems usually arise because of issues over money, so remember, when any kind of problem comes up in your future relationships, just put up with them and work together with your partner to resolve them right away!

don't get discouraged, after all there are another 50% of people who do end up going about marriage the right way and end up happy for the rest of their lives. my parents have been together for almost 21 years now, so looking at them deffinitely gives me hope and reassures me that true love and a good marriage are possible. just take your time, don't rush things, and above all, learn how to deal with problems instead of avoiding them!! that should hopefully make your marriage in the future easier!! :) don't worry about it now, you will deal with it when the time comes, but you can deffinitely be a part of the 50% that made their marriage work! :)

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okay well there is this coldstone ice cream place that is coming in town. and i sent in an application and i got a call back saying you have an "audition" on thursday.. well if any of you have worked at coldstone could u tell me what to expect.. or any other advice. thanks!

hey! omg i LOVE coldstone! it's soo good! haha well i've never worked at one, so i don't know how helpful i'll be with this question, but i can tell you that they are deffinitely looking for outgoing people who like to work with others. that's because most of the job involves you talking to customers, mixing their ice cream or scooping out already made kinds of ice cream, and ringing them up. so when you go to your audition, don't be nervous and be extra friendly and talkative! they want people who will please their customers by being outgoing and greeting them with a smile, not people who sit there like a stone wall! :) haha hope that was somewhat helpful!

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I don't know if I wanna go to college, but I know I'm at least gunna try it out. I'm not really the scholar though. I've taken tons of slack classes in highschool and stuff. A few questions...

1: If I find that college is not for me, what do I do with the rest of my life and work/money?

2: Is it true that businesses don't pay much attention to your college GPA? (Do they only care that you got a degree?)

Thanks!

hey!!well i think it's deffinitely a good idea to at least "try out" college because it is something that, if you finish it, will make the rest of your life soo much easier! not only that, but it's such a rewarding experience, and you get to learn so much about yourself and meet so many new people! it's unlike anything else you will experience in your life, so it is deffinitely worth it!

first of all, don't be discouraged just because your grades in high school were not so good. high school and college are two completely different things. you are an adult in college, and you are paying money to go there, so the professors leave all the responsibility to you. they won't make you do any work... it's all up to you, but they assume that if you are paying money to go there, you won't waste it and you will get something out of it. i know plenty of people who did not do so well in high school and then did really well in college. it's not the easiest thing in the world, but it's not hard either... i certainly think it's a lot easier, and will give you a lot more peace of mind than working 40 hours a week for minimum wage for the rest of your life and barely making ends meet. my dad always says that to make it in this country you either need to have your own business or have an education... otherwise life is very hard and all about work.

now as far as what businesses pay attention to, let's put it this way. they will appreciate the fact that you have a degree, but they will go ahead and look at your grades in case they have to compare you to another person trying to get the job. if you did a lot worse than the other person, and there are no other qualifications that make you stand out, chances are you won't get the job and will have to continue looking for one. basically if you are in a competitive field such as business, grades are important. but if you are in a field where skilled labor is in high demand (for example, i'm in pharmacy and i know they need a lot of pharmacists), then grades are not all that important because everyone will get a job. however, grades do matter in order to keep scholarships that you may have been given and to receive certain honors and so on.

basically, what i'm saying is that you should deffinitely give college a shot and try and succeed. yeah, you don't like school that much, but really who does? 4 years of a little hard work (along with a LOT of fun and life changing experiences) are deffinitely worth the peace of mind (and the money!) you will get in the future as a result!! :) good luck!

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I'm going on holiday in three weeks. It's a four hour flight each way. So I want a book to read, but don't know what. I don't want something that'll make me sad because I'm going on holiday and don't want to be put in that kind of mood. I want something happy and girly that'll be fun to read and not too serious. I'm in England, so it'll need to be released here too and hopefully able to get on ebay cheap because I'm skint. Does anyone have any ideas or knmow of any books like that for me?

ok, the most girly and fun books i have read are 2 different series: "the a list" and "gossip girl." you said you want something girly and fun, and those 2 deffinitely fit the description. there are a coupl e of books in each series, so you can just pick one and buy the first book or 2. they are all about girls, dating and shopping. lol i really like them a lot and i know a lot of other girls who love them. they deffinitely sell them on ebay too, i have seen them! here are the websites for both! enjoy :)

www.gossipgirl.net

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/results.asp?z=y&SID=341055

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My boyfriend and I go to different schools. Before we started going out, we started talking about 2 months ago. Before either of us had feeling for each other, he told me he was going to prom with a girl from his school but they are 'just friends'. So last night, was his prom with that girl. I was wondering, was it wrong for him to take her when i'm his girlfriend? I know they are just friends but people have told me that he was being a jerk by taking her instead of me. So what do ya'll think?

well, you guys haven't been dating for long, and he asked the girl 2 months ago, so i think it would have been rude of him to cancel with her on such short notice. if you guys had been together for like 6 months, then he should have deffinitely taken you. but since it was not long ago, she probably already had a dress ready and all that stuff. i deffinitely understand why you feel that way, but don't take is personally! you're his gf because he likes you, and not her. just be happy that you are dating a good guy!! :)

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ok well im preety good with working out and my weight has been the same for like 4 months but i eat just because i feel like it and i dont know what i can do to stop so i can loose weight if anyone has any ideas please help me. ill rate 5's

hey. well, a lot of times when people think they are hungry, they are really just thursty, but mistake their thurst for hunger. i suggest carrying a bottle of water everywhere with you, and drinking a lot of it. if you feel hungry, drink some water. if you don't feel hungry, then it did the trick, but if you could still go for something to eat, have a healthy snack. any fruits or veggies, or yogurt are great for you. you are doing the right thing in eating when you feel like it... that's what you should do. you should never deprive your body of food when it is telling you that it needs it. as long as you eat the right kinds of food, along with the exercises you are already doing (and drinking a lot of water), you should see an improvement soon! :) good luck!

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i need a list of designers for a project. so far i have: dior,prada, louis vuitton, miu miu, versace, and fendi. anymore that you guys like? thanks

burberry

michael kors

jimmy choo

manolo blahnik

chloe

chanel

coach

those are some of the biggest names i could think of... hope it helped! :)

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(17, Female) I already work at a candy store & am supposed to be working there over the summer, too. They are very nice to me & I enjoy working there. However, I am also very into theatre & I found out about an audition for a theatre for grades 9-12 that does performances on issues important to teenagers & then has discussions with the audience after. If you make it once you audition, it is a paid job (I do not know how much though). I really wanted to audition, but I found out that the training will be for one month over the summer mon-thur 1-6 pm. I did not realize it was that big a commitment& it becomes a problem because that would probably interfere with the job I already have. The candy store is open form like 10am-5pm, & they said we could be working longer days over the summer (which was good for me, b/c I need to work). Howevere I really want to do this theatre thing, but I can not & do not want to quit the job I already have. The theatre program sounds like a really good experience but it's just so time consuming. I don't know what to do & I just don't want to quit the job I have (I already told them I'd be working over the summer). What would you do in this situation?

hey! i think the best thing to do is call the theatre right away and ask them a few things. will the training be paid, or not? if so, how much? how many hours a week will you be working if you make it, and how much will you be gettin payed an hour? once you find those things out, compare them to the job at the candy shop. if the pay is relatively the same, and you will be getting the same amount of hours, then i say go for the theatre job because it sounds like a cool opportunity, and it is something you would want to do. but you should decide fast, so that if you quit the candy store, they can find someone to take your spot before summer is here.

on the other hand, you already have experience working at the store, and if it is a job that you like, then maybe you should just stick with it. it is hard for people to find a job they enjoy. you also have to keep in mind that if you quit, and then don't make it past the auditions, then you will be left without a job. just weigh out the pros and cons and that should help you decide! :)

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