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prom question
My boyfriend and I go to different schools. Before we started going out, we started talking about 2 months ago. Before either of us had feeling for each other, he told me he was going to prom with a girl from his school but they are 'just friends'. So last night, was his prom with that girl. I was wondering, was it wrong for him to take her when i'm his girlfriend? I know they are just friends but people have told me that he was being a jerk by taking her instead of me. So what do ya'll think?
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No, he is not being a jerk. He's actually being very nice. Imagine how his friend would feel if she got ditched?
A friend of mine, Chris, just started going out with this girl two weeks ago and last year he had decided to go with my other friend Jen. Last week, he told Jen he was going with his girlfriend. Now Jen was without a date and without a table even though she didn't do anything wrong.
You and your friends should respect your boyfriend's decision. If he didn't have a date or if you had been going out for a long period of time and the deal between him and his friend had taken place a long time ago, it might have been acceptable to break it off and take you if he gave his friend some notice in advance.
Trust me, you're better off not going. If you had forced your boyfriend to take you, all of his other friends would probably have resented you for screwing up the other girl's prom.
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Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with him taking his friend to prom because they had made plans in advance to go together. People might think that not taking his girlfriend makes him a jerk, but how would the other girl feel if she didn't have a date because he ditched her at the last minute? If it's not a big deal to you, it shouldn't be a big deal to anyone else either.
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sounds okay to me. he already had a date before me met you and he didnt want to cancel on her. i think it was really mature of him. i know you feel like kinda on the "back burner" because you two are dating but you have to respect the fact he already had the date. and they are just friends. the people saying he was a jerk prolly dont understand. he was prolly in a bad situation trying to deciede who to take for a while.. but he made a good choice and was a real gentleman.
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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Not only was your boyfriend not being a jerk, he was actually being a mature and respectable person.
He had made a commitment to a friend for a very important day in their lives. He would have been an ass to cancel on her.
If I where you, I'd feel all warm and fuzzy inside knowing that if my boyfriend was loyal and kind to his friend he'd treat me the same wonderful way, if not even better.
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hey, its perfectly okay for him to have taken her. because he had told her that they were going a while ago. remember, back then he wasnt in a relationship and if he just told the girl that he has a girlfriend now adn that hes taking his girl instead of her she would be crushed. think about that if it happened to you. cait♥
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i think it was fine because he told this girl awhile ago he would take her and you dont just leave your date. also, she would probably have been left without one and for him to leave her wouldnt be the right thing to do.
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i think it fine.. and it shows he keeps his commimites.. im sure he didnt want to blow her off after planning to go together.. and remeber the less u know the better ;)
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If I was you it would bother me, but you have to see it from the other girls point of view. Imagine if you were the other girl and you had everything ready for your prom and were really excited when suddenly your date dropped you in it at the last minute. I think going with her makes him so not a jerk and actually a pretty sweet, considerate, caring guy, which is good to have in a boyfriend so be thankful. That's as long as they did go as just friends and nothing happened between them.
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There is nothing to worry about. Your boyfriend had already promised the other girl that he would take her to the prom 2 months ago and he insitis that they are just friends. It would have put the girl in an awful position if he had cancelled with her in such short notcie and she would have been devastated. Put yourself in her shoes- how would you feel if your friend cancelled on going to the prom with you even though you had planned it months in advance? Remember that your boyfriend is with YOU and he chose to be with YOU not the other girl so dont worry! Im sure they are genuinly friends.
As for the people who have told you that he is a jerk for not taking you, they are simply saying that because they think that is what you want to hear and are trying to make you feel better in their own way.
If its playing on your mind alot then talk to your boyfriend about it and just express that you are not mad at him but cant help but feel a little jealous. Im sure he will understand and put your mind at ease.
Hope i have helped,
Kerry x
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well, you guys haven't been dating for long, and he asked the girl 2 months ago, so i think it would have been rude of him to cancel with her on such short notice. if you guys had been together for like 6 months, then he should have deffinitely taken you. but since it was not long ago, she probably already had a dress ready and all that stuff. i deffinitely understand why you feel that way, but don't take is personally! you're his gf because he likes you, and not her. just be happy that you are dating a good guy!! :)
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