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theres this boy that is dating one of my best friend, they have been on and off for awhile and he finally plucked up the courage to ask her out again!!but, me and him were hangin out all day friday and i started to like him!!! now today my friend said that he had been avoding her all weekend. what does it meen or am i just being obsessed?? lol
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hey! wow, ok this is deffinitely a bad situation! i don't know if this is what you want to hear or not, but i am going to be honest! i think you need to get out of this whole situation before you start liking him even more, because this will bring you nothing but problems in the future.
first of all, he has dated one of your best friends!! im sure you know the "rule" that you're not supposed to date your friends' exes NO MATTER WHAT! how would you feel if you were in her position and she started liking your bf... and even worse decided to do something about it? she will get mad about this, she will not agree to it, and you may even lose her as a friend over a boy.
second of all, if those 2 keep breaking up and getting back together, their feelings for one another are obviously still there! what are the chances that if they break up now they will get back together again sometime in the future? there's a pretty good chance because it's already happened a couple of times! if you do end up dating him, and he decides in a couple of weeks that he still likes her, your friendship with her will pretty much be over because this will cause way too much drama.
maybe this isn't what you asked for, but if you want to do what's best for you and your frindship, then forget about this boy and find another one. guys come and go, but your best friends are forever... so don't let a guy that could be gone in a few months get in the way of a friendship that could last for years! :)
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This is a really hard situation. What I would do if I were you is to talk to the boy. Ask him why he's avoiding your friend and if he tells you it's no reason or just blows it off completly and doesn't change the way he's acting, he may have feelings for you. Though, if he does change and treats your friend with more respect then it probably just didn't occur to him that he was doing this.
If worse comes to worse and he does like you, I would tell your friend. It will be hard and she will be hurt most likely but overtime she'll appreciate the fact that you told her.
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