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a year ago
Hi,
I'm 14/f and well...
I am not sure how to start. Let's say my "friend" wink wink, was persuaded to go to her best friends (male/16) house - because he said he 'needed help fixing a computer in his basement'. Her parents were out, and they weren't answering the cell phone. She figured 'Hey, it will only be for a few minutes'. So she rode her bike there (he lived just a few blocks away). Let's also say her friends parents weren't home either.
Well the boy and her had been best friends for about 3 years now, because they had a lot in common. My friend thought she knew him very well, but obviously not. Once they were in the basement, he tried to seduce her. She was not into him, because she liked him as a friend. When she turned down his offers, he grabbed her shirt and hit her with an object on her back. It hurt very bad but she was only knocked to the floor. He asked her again if she was going to cooperate, but she didn't answer. He hit her one more time.
She felt numb and helpless and the boy raped her. Right on the basement floor. He forced her to play all his sick games and she was to remain silent. She wasn't sure if he was planning this and it all happened so fast. After he was done, he made her sit in a chair and listen to the rules. He told her to not tell a soul and he threatened her in an unimagineable way. Then he sent her off.
You would never think these things would happen to you, but they do. Right when you least expect it too. My 'friend' feels that if she tells her parents, that it will ruin the rest of their lives. She feels that they will never be a normal family again if she says anything. She does her best to cover the mark on her back where he hit her. This event happened about a year ago but it seems like everything is her fault. Is there a way I can tell somebody about the boy without letting them know it's me? It would mean a lot if I could get that pitiful excuse for a man arrested, without making a big deal over myself. I just don't want anyone else to get hurt. I looked into it but I need some more elaborate ideas. Thanks.
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Omg,YES you need to tell your parents i understand you not wanting anybody to get hurt, but wouldnt you want this problem to get fixed......i just hope the best 4 you!
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hey!! omg ok there is NO way you should have to keep this to yourself any longer! this is NOT your fault at all, and it is so unfortunate that it happened! but you need to put this guy in his place! you can't let him get away with this, and maybe even do it to other girls! he hurt you and put you through so much, and now it is his turn to have to deal with trouble, because he deserves it and asked for it!
if you tell your parents, it won't ruin your life in any way! it will actually make your life BETTER!! why? well first of all, you won't have to keep this a deep secret... it is such a big problem if you don't tell anyone about it, but you will feel so much better once it's out in the open! second of all, you will feel stronger. right now you may be feeling weak and helpless because this guy did this to you and there was nothing you could do about it! but once you put him behind bars and give him the punishment he deserves, you will have the upper hand on this and feel so much stronger and better about it!
honestly, you won't be able to get him in trouble if you tell anyone about it but don't tell them that it happened to you. they will need evidence, and they will need to speak to the girl that this happened to! this girl is YOU! talk to your parents... sit down and tell them everything! cry if you have to, just let it ALL out without holding back your emotions. tell a teacher, tell a guidance councelor, go to the police and tell them... just tell someone! they will all be of SO much help! you have to do this ASAP... not only for your own sake, but also to make sure that he gets in trouble for what he did! don't let him get away with this, his actions absolutely disgust me. none of this is your fault and you shouldn't have to feel this way about it for the rest of your life. get off the computer right now and tell your parents!! PLEASE!! and let me know if you need ANY more help... or if you just want to let me know how things go!
don't worry, once the word is out, he won't be able to do ANYTHING to you (even though now he still can because he is not in jail and he thinks you will never tell anyone)! you have to put this pig in his place!! :)
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Wow. To tell you the truth, you need to tell your parents. It will not ruin their lives. They love you and care about you and they just want what's best for you. They also want to protect you and it's not good if you keep this inside. Of course you guys will be a normal family again. Familes have problems and things happen but they get through with it and later move on. With a situation like this, you need to tell them. Sit down with your mom or dad and explain everything. It might be hard, but you have to. It's serious and it's not something you should be ashamed of and try to hide it. Nothing is your fault but it's that boys fault. How could he ever do that!? I'm not positive if this is about you, but I'm guessing it is. If not I'm sorry for saying yours and making it about you. Anyways, he might be doing this to other girls and they don't even know and they might feel the same way you do. Don't listen to this guys threats. They shouldn't bother you and you need to tell someone. He deserves punishment for this and don't feel that you're going to make a big deal of yourself. It's the best thing for you and it's for your protection. You don't know if he will do it again. Tell someone. For you & for everyone else that might be in risk of the same thing happeneing.
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